hello and welcome stayin29

hi cheekyeyes thank you x

Hello Chrisktm and welcome

Hi I'm also new to this. In a way I am fairly lucky. Been separated for 2 years, have 2 daughters age 14 and 11, they see their dad 2 nights a week and one afternoon and every second weekend (Sat lunchtime to Sun teatime).

My estranged and I do not get on and I am so p**sed off with him. Its only if I want to change the arrangement its so hard.

I have no problem with him taking them, its only the odd time if the oldest wants to go out with her friends or one of them is ill that they he doesnt see them.

He just doesnt do very much with them, normally sitting in the house watching TV.

im a single parent too , ive one 13 yr old lad !
he goes to his dads every fri teatime till sunday teatime so im pretty lucky there and i have saturdays off from work i can pretty much swop shifts with other staff if i need to we help each other out !
only thing is ,my ex has an habit of dropping my son home on a sat sometimes if my son has asked to come home cos he wants to go to a mates house ! without ringing me.not knowing if ill be in or anything
when i do start dating i dont want my lad turning up (in the 1st stages) of getting to know someone if they come round to my house for a meal or anything .incase it we dont click .i dont want him seeing dif blokes while im in dating stage! so ive started telling him to ring and check that im in 1st.
his dad got with a lass 1 week after i left and is still with her and my lads ok with that !

or am i worrying to much what my lad will think lol probably

I don't think you're worrying too much Its, you're protecting him which is natural. I have a 13 yr old boy too who doesn't see his dad which is his choice not mine or his dads. So it makes it difficult to have people round the house without him knowing about it. When it comes to dating i'm straight and upfront with him. Although i don't introduce to every guy i meet, obviously, he knows if i'm seeing someone new and is cool about it. He knows i have to kiss a lot of frogs before i find my prince.

i like that ( might have to kiss a lot of frogs before i find my prince) might use that myself lol