Hi All How Difficult is It ? why is it that single parents have so much trouble in trying to find the opposite love for friendship.. yes i say friendship because so many people on here make themselves out to be something they're not, you can have friendship without jumping into the bed of the first person you meet .is there any genuine ladies left on here either with or without children who can still feel trusting enough to take that chance single dads are looking for the same as single mums so why do we shy away from eachother lol.

i fimd it easy at the end of the day if they like they should respect you and whatever else comes along with you and ive had no probs so far

lol your welcome, i don't see why it is hard though even if i didn't have a child i wouldn't stop seeing someone just because they had kids, i love kids

If and when I start speaking with women for a few weeks, then say we started to get intimate, and then she said well I have a child/children, this would not put me off.

It does so damned annoy me that others will do it, be put off I mean

In the past I've never minded meeting someone with kids, although I drew the line recently when someone with 5 kids (all under 16) wanted to meet me - yeh, right.......(where the f**k will someone with 5 young kids find time to spend with a boyfriend??)

I have to admit that she'd have to be really special for me to put up with kids around. I think it's an age thing - I'm 50 now, I like a nice quiet life. I've done all the school plays, parents evenings, nit picking, weekends filled with crap under-9's footie matches in the rain, deafening bowling alley and quasar birthday parties, etc (with my ex partners son) - that was OK then, wouldn't do it again now unless, like I said, she was really special.

I think, on the whole, once people reach a certain age, a lot of people who don't have kids, don't want them, and once they are used to a life without kids around them,they don't really want to meet someone who has kids. To some extent it is also a financial thing too - people get used to being able to buy whatever they want for themselves (latest gadgets, holidays, etc) but once they hook up with someone who has young kids, they often have to sacrifice their own wants for the needs of the kids (someone else's kids, at that).

Like I said, I might consider hooking up with someone with 1 or 2 kids, but there would have to be a really good reason (and I don't mean love )