Didn't know where to put this, hope it's okay here. Been in a funny mood since last night and still like it now. Got tears in my eyes and suddenly realised its cos i take my boys back today. They've been here for 4 weeks and tho' I'm pretty crap with young 'uns, I love 'em to bits and know I'm going to miss them. I only see them during the holidays 'cos they live so far away.

I don't expect any comments, just needed to say it to someone. I guess even a virtual cuddle would be better than none.

That's them gone now. Won't see them again for another 6 weeks at least It's going to be so quiet without them

sweetie, you have us to always lean on, u can messge me anytime also. i couldnt be without my son, even at the stage of oneriness hes in right now at 16. so i can just imagine what it would be like. luv ya gf, msg me if u need.
aluria

Aaw, thanks Aluria Feeling better this morning and I still have my girls around me (now there's a mixed blessing, lol 15 and 17!!! )

Red i used to get those feeling when my kids went back to their mother!I missed them so bad that it hurt! even when she remarried and stopped my contact the hurt has never gone away either. My three are 23, 21 and 18 now and i've had no contact since Christmas 1995 although i still paid maintenance for them all the time i get that feeling that i've failed them!
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

my kids haven't seen their dad in over a year

Mandy mine was not by choice! it was inflicted on me by my exe!!
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

you say that contact was stoped since 1995 do you mind if i ask you why this was was it by court or did you x partner do it on her own

My EXE took it upon her self to stop contact! At first it was a gradual whittling down of my time with them which moved to just plain obstuction i.e they're going to my perants because i'm away this weekend! and that was when my contact weekends were due! 6 court hearings and umpteen concilliation meetings did absolutely nothing! then my Dad died!! and money was on the cards! The kids were used as a weapon against me!
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

I never get used to having to take my daugher back every weekend. I still feel really down every time I take her back and feel like the rest of the week is just a big long wait till I see her again.

I suppose Im still lucky though..least I get to see her.

My 2 kids are with me all the time. if they go to their mums for 1 night, the house seems empty so it must feel a lot worse for you.

To eccles, To use children as a weapon like this is known as PAS, parental alienation syndrome, this term is not widly recognised by UK courts but 'hostile parenting' is.

A great resource site of information is www.ukfathers.co.uk
You could also ask for advice on the forum at www.mensaid.com
Kip Miller has written some books on the subject listed here http://www.mensaid.com/fl-literature.htm
Kip miller has recently updated his website http://www.eventoddlersneedfathers.com/
another source of information is http://www.fnf.org.uk/
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Hey I'm new, talk to me

there are tentative plans being made for my ex to meet me and the children.... but only if he's serious about it. i am not letting him into their lives to hurt them and leave me to pick up their lil hearts when he's broken them.

Might not be able to have the boys over the October halfterm. Car has had it and money is so tight that I've lost weight through not eating to make sure there's enough for the girls.

Awwww, an really so sorry to hear that hun. Dnt know what to say, just wanted to let you know that it touched me in a way.