Having been a single parent for a few years and not been in a serious relationship since. Would like a little advice on how long you would wait to introduce a potential partner to your children and secondly what would you do if your child or children took a dislike to them. I know if my children did take a dislike, their feelings would be paramount. On the other hand would you deny yourself the chance of love and happiness for the sake of your child or children?

Well from past experience I think that if both parties are well informed as to what is happening , no matter how small or how understanding they might seem ,it makes merging different lives a whole lot easier, once communication is kept open between yourself your children and your new partner then it good news all the way. So how long to wait.. that's really up to you.do you think you have created an environment of openness where you can at ease bring these people that you care about together ..time is on your hands. It's a lot more complicated way of life but as you know by now life is just like that , so get talking to both and the rest will follow

It is tough , I know from my experience , my boys have come first for so long now I have forgotten how to let someone in to my life , and on the occasion that I have tried as soon as they want more I find myself resenting them for trying to take me away from my boys , my boys don't want anyone to take me away from them either , perhaps if they were used to having someone else around it wouldn't be as difficult , and it would depend on the way that they get along with the kids too . I guess it comes down to if you are lucky enough to find someone who is willing to be a part of your family opposed to just yourself then by all means go for it , your kids want you to be happy too Put it off for too long and you might never have the chance again !!!

i dont introduce men to my kids unless i've been seeing them for a while and think it might work out. my kids are not blind... they know i see people. and my daughter also has the good sense to realise that it is nothing to do with her until i do introduce them. then she feels free to tell me whether she likes them or not. if my daughter sees me refreshing myself in the evenings... having a shower, putting make up on again she'll ask me if i'm going out. i say no. she asks if there is someone coming up. she'll ask who and i will give her a name. she asks no more. my son is only three and therefore doesnt ask questions...yet lol.
dont get me wrong i dont tell my daughter that a stranger is caling. she will know about this person for weeks before he actually does call. she will hear me saying oh suchabody is texting me or suchabody rang me. i always make sure the kids are asleep in bed before my caller gets here and that he doesnt stay the night. if my daughter doesn't like a guy im seeing i will ask why and give her reasons good thought. and if i believe her grounds for disliking him are ungrounded i wil continue to see him away from the home and the kids. if she doesnt like him i wil not force her to sit in his company.
i might be doing a hundred and one things wrong by anyone else's standards but hey... it works for us.

not an expert but always like to give my opinion on everything and anything... so here goes i guess its important that who ever u decide to be with get along with ur children but sometimes it can take time u can't expect adults let alone kids to just get along with someone for the sake of it
sometimes they need to find common ground and find things to like about someone!