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Home >> Single Parents >> When is the right time
11.06.2006, 07:39 quote
Having been a single parent for a few years and not been in a serious relationship since. Would like a little advice on how long you would wait to introduce a potential partner to your children and secondly what would you do if your child or children took a dislike to them. I know if my children did take a dislike, their feelings would be paramount. On the other hand would you deny yourself the chance of love and happiness for the sake of your child or children?
18.06.2006, 07:51 quote
i dont introduce men to my kids unless i've been seeing them for a while and think it might work out. my kids are not blind... they know i see people. and my daughter also has the good sense to realise that it is nothing to do with her until i do introduce them. then she feels free to tell me whether she likes them or not. if my daughter sees me refreshing myself in the evenings... having a shower, putting make up on again she'll ask me if i'm going out. i say no. she asks if there is someone coming up. she'll ask who and i will give her a name. she asks no more. my son is only three and therefore doesnt ask questions...yet lol.
dont get me wrong i dont tell my daughter that a stranger is caling. she will know about this person for weeks before he actually does call. she will hear me saying oh suchabody is texting me or suchabody rang me. i always make sure the kids are asleep in bed before my caller gets here and that he doesnt stay the night. if my daughter doesn't like a guy im seeing i will ask why and give her reasons good thought. and if i believe her grounds for disliking him are ungrounded i wil continue to see him away from the home and the kids. if she doesnt like him i wil not force her to sit in his company.
i might be doing a hundred and one things wrong by anyone else's standards but hey... it works for us.
11.09.2006, 09:02 quote
almostpurrrfect wrote: |
i dont introduce men to my kids unless i've been seeing them for a while and think it might work out. my kids are not blind... they know i see people. and my daughter also has the good sense to realise that it is nothing to do with her until i do introduce them. then she feels free to tell me whether she likes them or not. if my daughter sees me refreshing myself in the evenings... having a shower, putting make up on again she'll ask me if i'm going out. i say no. she asks if there is someone coming up. she'll ask who and i will give her a name. she asks no more. my son is only three and therefore doesnt ask questions...yet lol.
dont get me wrong i dont tell my daughter that a stranger is caling. she will know about this person for weeks before he actually does call. she will hear me saying oh suchabody is texting me or suchabody rang me. i always make sure the kids are asleep in bed before my caller gets here and that he doesnt stay the night. if my daughter doesn't like a guy im seeing i will ask why and give her reasons good thought. and if i believe her grounds for disliking him are ungrounded i wil continue to see him away from the home and the kids. if she doesnt like him i wil not force her to sit in his company. i might be doing a hundred and one things wrong by anyone else's standards but hey... it works for us. |
I don't think you are doing anything wrong, you let your children feel respected and don't hide anything yet you manage to keep their feelings from being hurt
I always keep guys im seeing a secret at the start then i introduce them as a friend first to see how they get on with my lil girl who's only 2 then if all goes well, i would let them in. That's how my mum used to do it with us too and i think i'll follow suit
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