Love and cupid will come and find you when you least expect it so just enjoy your life and being with your family and friends.

I am recently a single dad and through ill health, i have been looking after my son and the home for the past year or so up until my ex who only cared for herself wanted out of the relationship. I am now seeking residence of my son as she is just trying to use my son in a nasty way against me. I am willing to risk girls running away from me because i am a single dad as my son is the most important person to me at the end of the day.

As you get older, you will realise that age is just a number we carry. I am 32 and just feel like a wise 18 year old at heart and probably always will do.

I'm proud to be a dad single or not and also hope myself like anyone i suppose that i won't be single forever. Just be patient hon. Best of luck too ya

My kids are 21 and 19 so they are pretty much on their own and independant. My son lives with his dad in another city and I have my 21 y.o. daughter with me in Toronto who works and goes to university. Tried a relationship with someone for over a year who was never married or had children so as you can tell... it didn't work. Men.. or women who have never experienced the joy and raising of children have no idea what it takes and generally have little tolerance. That has been my experience anyway.

The way I figure it... when the right one comes along... you will know it and it will just happen the way it was supposed to. Trying to search hi and lo for someone is frustrating and desperation is not a pretty site! I usually go about 5 years inbetween relationships because I figure it will come to me when it gets there.

Good luck to all of you!

i haven't found being a single mum a problem, infact if i take her out she pulls the guys for me lmao lil devil. i think society has become a lot mor lenient these days just have to wait for someone right to come along

I THink its way harder for a single dad to find a woman than it is for single mum, In our society its view like He done somthing really bad, I don`t know maybe im wrong

When im online i try my hardest not to leave my kid out of the conversation cos i feel like im lyin about his excistance but wen i do guy seem shocked but they ask about him to be polite then they leave n dont talk to me agen!! havin a child seems to be worse than havin ur body covered in boils
If everyone thinks like the pig headed men that turn thier backs us singletons will neva get off the shelf

I'm single and have a beautiful daughter, although she lives with her mum.

I have to say I'd certainly have no probs seeing a girl who's a single mum, wouldnt be the first time either.

Its funny that some guys get hung up on the fact you have a child/children, its not like its anything to be ashamed about.

In my view, if a guy cant take you and you kid(s) as a package, or has a problem with it, he's not worth the bother, this applies to girls too. i've had girls not go out with me purely because I have a daughter. I always make sure that one of the first things I mention is the fact I'm a father, after all she's quite a large part of my life, and not something I should have to or want to try to hide.

With more and more single parents of both sexes out there! it has almost become the norm to have children. I do not understand why there are so many people out there that shy away from single parents? No one ever asks for a replacement mother/father as my children already have one! and they do not need another! Maybe they think in their own minds that this is what single parents are looking for???
What amazes me is! that, who knows, in the future they themselves could find themselves in the very same position, and lets hope that they, then ask themselves the very same question!
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asked the exact same thing on 4th june on the dating forum under "Y"!i got the same,although my daughter's recently left home!most people just don't want to be lumbered with other peoples kids(sad but true)just noticed this was also posted on 4th june

Must admit that the issue of having a child has only come up once in my past & that was when i was dating a girl with no kid's . She knew i had a daughter from the start cause i was upfront with her but some month's into dating her a friend of her's let it slip to me that she did'nt see a future with a guy who had a kid , at the time i was kinda confused as my daughter lives with her mum & i alway's made time for her & my daughter but then i could see the other side as somone single with no kid's would idealy want to be with somone who has'nt got kids ! Of course i stopped dating her but dating women with kid's is not an issue with me & the older you get you must realize people do come with baggage of all kinds weather it be money , family , health & personal issue's etc

Hi. I have been a single parent (by divorce) since 1995. My two sons are now teenagers. I have found it more difficult to date as a single parent but more because of my own worries. Every man I have dated has eventually shown a very different style of parenting from mine. My two sons are my top priority over any new man. Since most people have their own style of parenting established with their own children, it is difficult to find a match with similar parenting styles. Maybe it is more of a concern for the children you have rather than a lack of interest in another's children.

It would be nice to match personalities with parenting similarities but I dated a man who had many similarities in personality with me but had a very different family background. While we had the same goals in life, the way we both got to those goals was frim very different parenting styles. That was a sad moment because he did love me and I loved him but when his perspective on my sons was to trian them to be the hardnosed money maker and to "take care" of the little wife, I always taught my sons to treat their partner as an equal not one to take care of. It created many strains.

Now, I just want friendships until my sons are on their own. Once the boys are adults and able to make their own decisions, I might feel less protective of their perspectives. As teens, I am trying to guide them through the education system, legalities of dating and love, and career planning. Then, I will relax and date more for me than for them.