i dont know if its just me but finding time to meet someone is just not the option just now..what with work five days a week then using your two days off to catch up with what the kids have been up to all week seems to take up all your free time...i would love to get some free time to go out and meet someone but the club and pub scene just dont do it anymore its more like a cattle market..and to be honest i feel to old when i go to a pub..(and me only 38..lol)...using the net and sites like this is great but its a big risk.......!

not all men run away from single parents, me : I like being a single parent and tend too run away from the men but as they say whats for u won't go past u!! If some1 wants to be with u then it won't matter that u have kids!! L x

there is no need to run away...we dont bite....all we are looking for is a little bit of happiness in our lifes....although the kids bring eternal happiness...its a little different bit of happiness...

I see this from the other side as I am a "weekend dad" and can't go out every weekend but if I want to go out I can arrange to get a child minder so I usually go out during the week for a few drinks.
If I was to meet another single parent I wouldn'r run away from them but the older you get the chance of meeting single childless women gets less, I would be happy to meet a woman anf get to know her and if things started going right the fact that I or even they have children would not be a problem but I suppose it could be for some people.

What I'm really saying id that I'M DESPARATE and my palms are getting hairier

Lee

i think may b cos of nt being confident in pucking a women wiv kids .. ...its jus a feelin...
i knw few men happily settled...with women wiv kids..
to b honest am a single dad ...n am looking for a single mom....

i have two kids. a six year old girl and a three year old boy. to be honest i dont find that my kids scare off the men. the simple fact is... i only date guys comfortable with the fact that i have children.

perfect example of where i was scared off. lol

my last ex.. he has a three year old son too. and at the weekends he would bring his son over to sleep in mine with my kids. he spent all day hitting my kids and being a bully and you cant really give out to someone else's child can ya. so i listened to him saying.."relax" or "be good" and other such insufficient scoldings. he then spent all night AWAKE. he would only sleep when when it got to around 2am after destroying my house and eating every sugar coated thing in sight. i am up at 6am with my two as they go to bed at 7pm. his son would then get up and him being dead tired would stay in bed while i looked after his son. it was just not worth it. i know i might sound like the kettle calling the pot black but i have enough to do with my own kids, and so after a few months of this i gave up.

I cant believe u let someone like that near ur kids never mind in your house ???

i cant believe that there are still people out there that run when u mention kids. like i'm 23 and a father of a 2 year old girl, when i'm out clubbing or whatever, i always make it my business to say i have a kid. then u get to enjoy watching yet another shallow person do a runner.
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It's not like i'm looking for someone to take her mom's place, she has a mom, but it would be nice if there were girls/women that would at least hear your side of things before they make themselves out to be false.

open to comments on this one

try doing it with three kids..lol you dont see them for dust..but tell them that you are a widower as well then sonic the hedgehog aint got a look in...lol

the way i see it is if the person you are chatting to is genuine then they wont really care about your past or the luggage you are caring...not that the kids arew luggage just that they must accept you for who you are or not at all...and if they run well they just aint worth it....

there are plenty of people out there who will take it on...(just dont know where ..lol) keep on looking and it will find you..

just my thoughts...!!

im 26 with a son who is 7 im a single parent i dont go out to pubs and clubs very often but when i do i get attention from guys in their 20s-early 30s so maybe it could be the places you are going out to!!

im a single dad i brought 4 children up from a very young age they have all grown up now and left and i find it difficult now to meet new people as they were my whole life when they were young and never had any time for me.
I think i would prefere a lady with children as because i find ladies that dont have children themselves find it difficult to work around ur children, and after all if ur a single parent 9* out of 10 its because ur partner done the dirty on u so y should u be treated any different 4 standing by ur children

You know what I find difficult is that guys will still be interested in me, but not in my child. My little girl in my world, she is in my life, whether some random guy hanging on me likes it or not. I want someone in my life so much, a boyfriend to love me, but not at the expense of my child. Do you know what I mean? Does that resonate with anyone else?

Maybe it's just that I'm young. I'm 21, and the boys I date tend to be in that range. They acknowledge that I have a kid and sort of nod at her and then scurry me away from her and make sure we can be as far away from her as possible. It's terrible.

I think it must take a certain amount of acceptance and MATURITY to be able to date someone with a child that isn't yours...

Life is what it is, most expect to find a mate, marry and have children. They know there are side roads and distractions but their expectations are to follow the standard path. For those who find themselves on a different path need to collect yourselves together and pick from the group.

Not sure where single parents enjoy "off" time, but you must find where it is whether it is church activities, social clubs, school affairs dedicated just to parents and those interested in becoming a parent. People of like minds and experiences make better partners in marriage and children are what marriage is mostly about.

I have found that once attracted to a woman and I get use to the idea of how we interact together, I find children a joy. A man is first attracted to the mother, once that is set the children are a responsibility or job he finds gratifying. But he must first feel secure with the relationship.

If you meet someone independent from the presence of children he will be focused on you alone. That is good, so keep that focus for awhile until you know each other and find you can work well together. He can know about children but not meet them straight away.

All things in life take time, like wine, to mature ... same for relationships.

Just my opinion from my experiences,

Love ya,
Thomas

hi all..I'm a single dad of 2, haven't dated any one for more than two years..from what i've seen men are more easy accepting another mans children and women are mostly the opposite, they find it harder to accept another womans child...can anyone tell me why?....I also find that single women with no kids, think you are only looking for a mother for your children and not a partner. Finding love again is not easy when you have kids, but I'm sure at some point love will find us again...hang in there and don't give up! Keep loving your kids and be the best parent you can be and the rewards will come your way.....