Men are taking a bit of stick but women can be just as shallow as men IMO...wonder if fat blokes do as well as the 'athletic and toned' men on these dating sites ?..do woman want a fat bloke ?

I'm a yo yo dieter, put it on and lose it regularly, and I know my luck with women changes when I lose weight. Few years ago a women said to my mate I'd be a good looking bloke if I lost weight, which I took as a compliment. Was she being shallow ??

I know a women who was fat and it was a problem with her as a kid. She started complaining men don't look at her because she's fat. I asked her if she lost a lot of weight and got trim, would she date fat men or these fit blokes..she looked embarrassed and said fit blokes.

Hope nobody mentions personality because we all know that's bollocks on these dating sites and looks are important , or am I wrong ??

fucking good point well put mate...... you hit the spot perfectly...... women CAN be just as bad as blokes........ my life has had ups and downs.... i mean i havent ever been what i'd call fat but: to put it in a nutshell...... i've been a few pounds overweight and unemployed and ive had a decent job and looked healthy........ no prizes for guessing which that the women went for most.......

The last person on the forums I want to disagree with is you Badboy but I hardly think your experience means we have conclusive proof that women don't like fat blokes.

I like like quick witted and funny men and sometimes they are fat sometimes they are skinny. Don't matter on their size I can still think they are the sexyiest man in the room.

If they are so fat they need a sponge on a stick to wipe their arse then I am afriad that is too big for my tastes. But I am just shallow like that...

I can honestly say that size does not matter to me. I have been attracted to very slim guys and I've been attracted to overweight guys. The last two guys that I've liked were quite big, and it was one of the things I liked about them. Some girls and guys can both be very shallow and it is too bad, but we aren't all like that!

In a word 'no'. For all the claims to the contrary women are just as shallow (if not more so) than men when it comes to looks. Sure, they talk the talk and say that 'personality' is all important. But when it comes to the crunch if you haven't got the looks to match you're shit out of luck.

It's simple really. A woman can have a bit of meat on her bones and still be sexy. It's all part of femininity. Larger women are always synonymous with fertility, so like it or not, as a man theres always something buried deep in your psyche that will mean that a woman who looks like a woman will always be attractive, no matter what general consensus may say. The reverse can't be said of a man.

Masculinity is all about strength. Whether thats strength as a provider or bare knuckle fighting a mammoth it doesn't matter. It's strength not pork that matters. At no point in human history has a fat man been seen as sexy. He may have been viewed as affluent or decadent (which can be attractive attributes), but never sexually attractive. Carrying a spare tyre is not a part of the male psyche, and any bloke who says he's happy with his size if he is carrying a few pounds is in denial. End of. We're just not wired that way. So it only follows that if lard is a negative attribute then it's unattractive to women.

It's always been claimed that looks only get you so far, but from my experience this is complete bollocks. Looks are extremely important. If someone doesn't find you physically attractive you'd have to be one charming motherfucker to win them over, and herein lies the problem; most women have already made their mind up in the first few seconds. Personality isn't something that grabs you straight away, so if they've already judged you on your looks then sorry, you're shafted. If anything, when a woman does find you attractive based on solely your personality then you can almost certainly guarantee shes making allowances with herself, and the first guy who shows up who fits the bill in the looks department will be walking away with her at some point in the near future.

I would be extremely surprised if any woman here admitted to finding fat men attractive. Remember we're talking about 'fat' here, not his personality.

I think in general, women do not like fat men. And I say this as a fat man. And I think that there are more shallow women in my age group (18-24) in this country than any other group.

You know the ones, the big brother bitches, voting out the prettiest ones first as they are just jealous. Chavs mainly.

When I joined this site I also joined a couple other dating sites, that I haven't bothered with. One in particular seems to have more members then this one [my age anyway], although this one is brilliant , but I haven't bothered with it until recently, and that's mainly because they have a meet up near me. So I thought I'd start using the message board to get myself known.

For months I haven't had a picture up, and I haven't had any messages or hardly any looks at my profile. About a month ago I put a picture up as I look now, over weight. I got a few messages and a few profile hits. I took that down and put one up how I looked a few years ago when I was slim..blimey my profile looks went through the roof and I was getting 5-6 messages and 'winks' a day, asking me do I want to chat. Me or my profile is no different, just a different picture.

I haven't got a picture up at the moment, so no message or profile hits, I might put one of my fat bloke ones up again, see what happens

Bingo!

bams wrote: The last person on the forums I want to disagree with is you Badboy but I hardly think your experience means we have conclusive proof that women don't like fat blokes.


bams i merely put forward my own experience....... and lets face it thats all any of us can do really..... i dont remember stating at any point that it was "conclusive proof".......... i think you are nit picking a little to be fair......

My first husband was 5ft 4 (I'm 5ft 9) and slim. My 2nd husband was 6ft 4 and nigh on 18 stone! And i've had relationships with guys of varying degrees of size and shape inbetween, the 2 things they all have had in common is a sense of humour and the ability to cook damned good food.

We all have different ideas of what makes someone 'right' for us and often what we want from a relationship changes as we get older.

The sweeping generalisations are bang out of order!