Dating >> the fuller figured woman........

Anonymous · Guest

what has happened to you women? most of the women i have been lucky enough to speak to on here all have the same percieved problem...... namely they THINK that they need to lose weight and us fellas always want skinny vic beckham/wag/size zero types....... i was speaking to a really sexy size 16 girl last nite who sent me a few sexy snaps {not nude} and boy was she sexy: generous boobs, shapely hips and a bum you just wanna grab..... but to hear her talk you'd think she was jabba the hut for fucks sake! what is this obsession with looking like a stick insect all about? i can tell you ladies here and now that a lot {most i know anyway} of guys love women with curves/few xtra pounds...... as someone on the london forum said no one wants to cuddle up to a xylophone..... and its true... i love to make love to fuller figured women theres just nothing better than {what i call} a real womans curves to hold or caress while doing a "double decker". so i'm shouting out loud and clear: ANY CURVY WOMEN WHO WANT SOME ATTENTION COME TALK TO ME COS I'M A BIG FAN......and so are a lot of blokes actually........honest. i'd love to hear from a few curvier babes to hear your side......... and i'm not averse to slender chicks either but they have an easier time it seems as they are considered "the way to be"

Anonymous · Guest

Can I get an amen?

Say 'NO!' to toast racks!

More stuff to grab and less neurosis thanks.

Anonymous · Guest

Cazzabee

Wooo hoooo....glad to see you brought it over here cheekyboy.......

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annmarie5988 · Guest

Well again, what can I say? It seems that Pretty, oops Cheekyboy, is on a one man mission to all us 'bigger' girls out there to be happy with ourselves. I am, and always have been a 'bigger' girl, with bags of confidence to match. If you feel Sexy you look Sexy no matter how big or small you are, it’s all in your the mind and mine is Sexy most of the time!!!! ‘Double Decker’ you know that …… and Amen to you Chikhai
Ann- Marie xx

paganpoetry · Guest

This is a lovely post Cheekyboy and good on you putting it up! I suppose what you have to remember is that the messages women get from an early age is that 'you can never be too thin' (or rich, as the Duchess of Windsor said, scrawny old hag she)

So, while we more voluptuous females may actually like our bodies, we get bombarded with messages to the contrary. And yes, we have control over our minds but boy is it an uphill struggle sometimes when all you want to do is be yourself and enjoy that.

Talking about it is just great cos it removes a lot of the misunderstanding we women can suffer from, namely that all you blokes out there (ok, sweeping statement I know but humour me) just want Kate Moss and anyone not conforming to that ideal may as well wall themselves up and write 'leave hope behind' on the bricks!

I'm tall, 5ft 8, and I'm a size 22. I go to the gym because I want to get more fit and be able to do more of the fantastic walks up in the Lakes that please me so much. I am guilty of spending quite a few years of my life worrying constantly about what people thought of me, what judgements they were making on my size - and that is a really exhausting way to live. No more now though, I'm respectful of other people's opinions but I know I'm ok. I'm not losing weight cos I feel I have to conform to anything, I'm doing it for me. And I know I'm damn sexy!

BUT - I still have my worrying days so it's just great to read somehting like this - I hope there are a few more responses from both men and women to this topic.

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Anonymous · Guest

Yay!!! Its so nice to see a post like this

I am a fuller figure girl and am not ashamed- I am what I am, and I am NOT a xylophone... Laughing

Like paganpoetry, I am happy with myself but there are worrying days because the majority of things I hear are negative. Its good to see some appreciation for curves though!

Anonymous · Guest

I know this is going to come off kind of cheesy or cliche, but to me, it really doesn't matter. I don't care what size a woman is, if I like her, think shes beautiful, whatever, then I just do. I've not got a type, I just like beautiful women.

Like the one above me. Its been a couple of days since I've been able to say something like this, so I'm making the most of it.

Cazzabee

Anonymous · Guest

This thread reminds me of my ignorance on the size thing, and shows just how clueless I am. My last gf was around the 24 mark when I met her, as well as being 5ft. My 1st stab at guessing her size, just so I'd know what size clothes to go for when I bought her something, was about 3-4 dress sizes below what she was. It was a good job I persisted in getting the info out of her before getting anything!

Anonymous · Guest

FoxyHan

u see this is difficult 4 me - i have the big boobs big hips big bum but i have been bullied for practicaly my whole life about it (im 23 now) i used to love parts of my body especially my boobs and i used to pride myself on my booty shaking abilities but there are so many people out there who want to put u down and my confidence about who i am and how i look just ebbs away each time someone says something - most the time its a guy who is really up themselves or a really bitchy girl but also i get it from my family.

A lot of the time i reply to the messages i get by hardly saying anything or not replying at all as i cant beleive that someone would be interested in me but its really strange as i used to be so confident and i used to flirt, and i dont want to sound up myself but if i went out i often had guys chatting me up and i think that is coz i was confident who myself, but people have ebbed that away. The really stupid thing, i used to be really confident in relationships and with guys and now well im not and i wonder sometimes if i wil be like i used to be again because until I am i dont think anything will happen.

its not just people i know and people who have bullied me. Its the media as well if u are above a certain size, which to me appears to be a size 10, then u are not acceptable and society casts you aside. Im normally fit and healthy and will be again when my leg and ankle is mended but unless i am happy with myself then no one else will be, but i think they precisely the type of people who can make you feel this way in the first place!

i have now had my "woe is me" time ... enough!

annmarie5988 · Guest

God there are some real fuckers in this world. I can relate to everything you said in your first paragraph, which still at times makes me feel like crap, but you need to just keep telling yourself your a lovely person, inside and out, when you get the looks and comment off these so called humans, just turn and smile, trust me they will be shocked at your reaction

As for the not replying to any messages you get, they would have viewed your profile first, so just go for it, be yourself and the rest will follow.

What do you mean you will be 'fit & healthy' again !!! you dont have to to be thin to be fit and healthy

Anyway you sound like you just need someone, like the guys who have posted on this thread, to throw you a few compliments, and maybe sit yourself down and have a good talking to yourself, you sound like a really nice person who just needs a bit of TLC. Keep smiling

Ann-Marie xx

Anonymous · Guest

Anonymous · Guest

i fucking detest bullies........ i would kick anyones arse i saw {and have done} bullying anyone especially a group doing it to sum1 alone........ at school i was one of the so called "in" crowd but on leaving school i realised the "in" crowd were a bunch of sycophantic plebs and its the less "fashionable" types who are coolest......... i'm sitting here looking at your photo and imagining u being hassled and im getting angry......... i always fight for the underdog.....literally {ask my parents}....but you arent an underdog baby you are a young beautiful obviously strong woman........ and im a fan already........x

[Having edited several posts where you did nothing but make fun of people and their appearance, i can quite safely say that you are what you profess to hate................. Chief O'Hara]