Being fat is like being surrounded by fog. Many people just stop there looking at something they cannot actually see without asking themselves what could be there behind all that fog. Many atimes they are just scared or just think that might not be worth the effort. They don't stop to think a bit that at the end that could actually be the most wonderful person there is, the one you've been waiting all your life for (but it happens to be fat... so what?). How many times have you dated a really georgeus partner man or woman to even consider them the nicest person in the world and you couldn't possibly think about liking someone else? Now think after how long was the first time you turned your head around to get a glimpse to a really nice someone who happened to pass by and thinking now that's someone i wouldn't mind being with! After some time you'll soon start noticing things you dont like in that perfect being you where so attracted to, why? cause we are all humans no one is perfect, somethings you see at a glance others you notice as time passes by and the only way to keep seeing a person as the most beautiful in the world is by being in love with that person, you wont tire, you wont get bored, and no matter what, that person for you will become more beautiful every day more. So would you fall in love with someone just because they are goodlooking? i bet you don't! - Unfortunately many times "looks" open the door to other people and invite them to get to know you, since only a handfull of individuals are adventurous enough to close their eyes and open their hearts and truly discover a person first from the inside and then from the outside.

Danzo you sound american lmao. Yeah, sometimes i'm glad i'm not thin, because in a way, you can be sure they aint only after your body!

just curious simply me, after the words you spoke.. are you one to go for a fat bird then? lol

jeggea its just a natural thing, people want to know who they are speaking too. Same as you would? They could be talking to ANYBODY of any age? its all the process of getting to know people, to know what they look like, you begin to build a picture up of this person WITH looks and with personality:)

twistedviolet that's really nice of you to say - I just consider my self as someone who tries to always keep his feet to the ground

simplyme what did you mean you struggle to keep this 'acceptable weight' and inside your overweight? Anyway, if what you say is true about what you think of people I have to say ya amazin lol. But maybe thats because I'm abig girl myself and it just agrees with what I need from ANY person interested? Lol.
Jeggea you are right, but the great thing about the internet is being able to post yourself dolled up AND not!! Most people who DO post the pictures of what they look like ONLY in pictures (and not in real life) are most probably yearning for people to think theyre beautiful? Going to lengths like that (not actually looking like they do in real life).. to get there? They just want some one to look and go 'god.. she/he is BEAUTIFUL?' It's really not any crime for people to want to see who they are talking to like simplyme says, it puts a face to the words. I know I prefer chatting to some one who has a pic, but I also chat to those who don't almost the same, though deep down its hard to connect with the people who dont because all you see is the writing..on the other hand, that actually doesnt matter if the writing is showing a wicked personality. Just my opinion.

I guess honest eyes are kind eyes.. you can tell alot from a person by their eyes (I think) or maybe its me being silly? But I guess to put it a good way would be like you said.. when people look at you... you get a feeling.. if its a bad one.. they arent for you..if its a good one they could be. Of course there are exceptions though. As for internet dating, I think its a great, quick way to find someone who matches you, I mean, you get to know people abit quicker on the internet and then meeting them than say, a party! And the amount of people you meet, you are sure to find somebody for you! Wow I've just realised how bloody obsessed I've become for wanting to meet the right one for me. Oh god.. another obession haha!

what I mean is that I am an overweight person who at the moment has lost some weight, I cannot eat what ever i like as frequent as I would like cause I would put weight again (which really sucks cause I adore cooking), and as shallow as it might sound being on the lower part of the scale makes me feel somehow better about myself - maybe it's the illusion that I might have more chances of getting a date - lonliness makes some nasty jokes at times. However I know that if I dont make sacrifices I will be heading back to the 19 stones I wieghed 6 months ago which honestly I didn't mind much but if you are single you have to somehow try to be more in line with people's expectations, oh i so hate myself for even writing this but I am trying to be as honest as possible. - If I could find someone who wouldn't mind my weight I would feel free to not stay worrying if I put on weight or not - I mean I would feel more myself rather than trying to be what people perceive as acceptable.

Jessicasarah - I dont need to lie here - I am not even tempted to lie all I need to like in a woman resides from the neck up (face and brains) all the rest is a bonus. I wont say oh i will date anyone who comes along even if I dont like their face cause I dont care about looks, cause I would be lying to myself and them - even if it happened to me that a person who at a first time I really didn't feel attracted to in anyway, and after being friends for a while I realized I was in love with just on the basis of who she was - but that's a different story

JS was there a question for me there?

Honest eyes definition: Our eyes are the gateway to our souls - if when you look in someone's eyes you feel as if you dont need to know anything else about a person cause you already know all you need to know even if you've met them for a few minutes consider yourself lucky as something really nice might be just happening. If the experience is good enough you'll loose the rest of your senses (e.g. in a club you might even stop hearing the music) but dont let this distract you - that's gthe most platonic of definitions but not untrue - but honestly eyes tell a lot about people you could be amazed - it's just like being a good listener