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06.06.2007, 16:45 quote

Anonymous

i've come to the conclusion that due to the ratio factor on fb the chances of getting a date for us blokes is remote.there must be something like 5 guys to everyfemale.another gripe i got is that alot of the profiles on here the people havn,t even logged on for weeks.if you want a date blokes buy a calendar lol

 

06.06.2007, 18:18 quote

Anonymous

Yup. The ratio of men to women is frankly ludicrous.

Dating biased in favour of women? It would certainly seem so. (Else why would so few be signed up?)

 

06.06.2007, 18:33 quote

Anonymous

Hmmmmmm - can't see my inbox chokka full - any other girls?

 

06.06.2007, 18:44 quote

Anonymous

NIGHTWAVE wrote:
i've come to the conclusion that due to the ratio factor on fb the chances of getting a date for us blokes is remote.there must be something like 5 guys to every female.another gripe i got is that a lot of the profiles on here the people haven,t even logged on for weeks.if you want a date blokes buy a calendar lol


Numbers shouldn't make too much difference, though, should they ? Quality and making a decent effort should still be the most important factors, surely ? Even if there were 3 women to every man on here, you'd still be competing with every other male that happens to wonder in and out of their lives in the real world. Besides, a fair few women on these boards are single so it's not like there's no-one to go for or anything. There's certainly not a drought anyway, and what's more there's plenty more women in the world Very Happy.

I can't say I've contemplated the ratio on here, and I wouldn't know what stats to use to do so anyway, so I can't comment any more than that.

 

06.06.2007, 19:24 quote

Anonymous

Think about it rationally for a second. I'd say, judging by the 'Whos Online' section, that at any one time there is a ratio of anything from 2-to-1 to 3-to-1 in favour of the women. Therefore women can afford to be selective. Now, as the criteria on here seems to reflect real life - ie. primarily based on looks - then if you're average or below your chances are pretty slim in getting a response. Whether you're Casanova or not.

Theres nothing intrinsically wrong with this. It's perfectly natural behaviour under the circumstances, and I'm sure if the roles were reversed then men's attitudes would be identical.

Now, I'm under no illusions about myself. I'd say I was distinctly average. Not too ugly or obnoxious (though who knows, others opinions may vary) and I'd like to think that I can message someone without making a complete twat of myself in the process. But there is a consistent lack of replies. Which I'm presuming (or at least I hope) is because of the wealth of talent on offer.

So for now I've pretty much given up on sending messages out and instead take the attitude of 'Let the mountain come to Mohammed'. If someone takes the initiative then that goes in their favour straight away. If not I'll still be trying my luck in the 'real world' anyway. It's not like it's a race.

 

06.06.2007, 19:39 quote

Anonymous

chikhai wrote:
Think about it rationally for a second. I'd say, judging by the 'Whos Online' section, that at any one time there is a ratio of anything from 2-to-1 to 3-to-1 in favour of the women. Therefore women can afford to be selective. Now, as the criteria on here seems to reflect real life - ie. primarily based on looks - then if you're average or below your chances are pretty slim in getting a response. Whether you're Casanova or not.

Theres nothing intrinsically wrong with this. It's perfectly natural behaviour under the circumstances, and I'm sure if the roles were reversed then men's attitudes would be identical.


I don't doubt all of that is relevant, but that's all entirely based upon looks, isn't it ? There's location, too, as well as intelligence & ability to compose a reasonable message. Intelligence doesn't even mean you have to be smart, it could mean you're too smart for some of the women. It can also just mean being on the same wavelength as the person you're messaging. Women, from what those on here have said, also seem not to do too much messaging first.

There's so many angles and factors that I don't think it's worth worrying about. I've never really been bothered by statistical analysis of things like this anyway. I just happily message anyone who seems interesting so long as they've been on fairly recently.

 

06.06.2007, 21:21 quote

Anonymous

You are right - the chances of male members with profiles without pictures are remote to find a date....you need to have a proper picture of yourself.

Of course, there are more men then women! So there is competition and men need to make an effort to find a date! It takse time and creativity to get replies....and an interesting profile with good pictures. I have dated a couple of girl from Flirtbox, and it was worth the effort - I would never have met them otherwise.

The only way to achieve a 1:1 ratio on a dating site, is to artificially reduce the number of male profiles (e.g. by membership fees) - but this would be bad for the women - women on Flirtbox should have a big choice. A lot of men are on here only by accident and would never ever pay for a dating site. I also think most women do not want to date men who spend money on a dating site as they are desperate, but rather men who just joined for fun initially....

Once women find out that cool guys are more likely to be on Flirtbox then on a "premium dating site" for desperate men with money, they will spread the word and in the long term the number of female profiles will also increase.....but then even more men come to the website and in the end there will always be more men - as in real life when it comes to dating. Women never need to pull...they only need to wait for the right one to pull them. Just observe an attractive woman in a night club.....often they just stand around .... guys come up to them and try to flirt with them....in 99% of all cases they will say "no thanks"....so women basically just wait for "the right one".....whereas men actively need to search for the right one.

 

06.06.2007, 21:35 quote

Anonymous

How many dates have you had then? I can not imagine you have not dated a woman from Flirtbox yet - unless you have only joined recently or you do something wrong - or you have only messaged 3 women.

The ratio is just the way it is. I do not see any point in artificially trying to reduce the number of male profiles in order to have an even ratio or to try and fake the statistics.

There are always more men then women on dating sites usually....if it is a "natural" representation.....it is always harder for men to find a woman then the other way round...therefore also more men use the internet to find a date then women.

 

07.06.2007, 08:58 quote

Anonymous

We may have more to choose from, but when every 2nd/3rd message is making sexual propositions, it kind of lowers the ratio somewhat!!

I had one yesterday from a 26 year old. Admittedly his forth rightness and absolute honesty were refreshing, but it still doesn't detrect from the fact he didn't stand a chance with a message like that!

 

10.06.2007, 15:29 quote

Anonymous

^^^^^lol Laughing

 

10.06.2007, 20:41 quote

Anonymous

samatron wrote:
While the ratio might only be 5:1, I suspect that at least 3 of those 5 disqualify themselves by:

- being too obvious in pandering for love
- try to demonstrate value by showing what nice guys they are and disqualify themselves in the process
- not being funny
- having bad profiles... not much info and badly chosen photos


QFT!

Absolutely bang on the money there. Now if only women could not cower in terror or shrink away in revulsion at the mere mention of love then everyone would be happy. I don't know where this attitude comes from, but it seems to be pretty unique to dating sites (I have yet to see this in the 'real world'). Say the word and you may as well be a rapist with some people. You'd think a certain amount of anonymity would lower the inhibitions, but if anything it seems to make it worse.

I'm not talking about sending pictures of a smiley face drawn on your bellend here, or a 10,000 word essay on what you're going to do to them in graphic detail. I'm just a bit surprised at the reactions you get whenever the subject is approached in casual conversation. Conversational cul-de-sac? I should coco. You can almost smell the tumbleweed. Even mentioned in jest the reactions are somewhat...odd.

 

10.06.2007, 21:18 quote

Anonymous

I had a bloke tell me on here that he.....
1. would never reply to a profile with no photo
2. limits his search to women with ''about average or better body''
3. only messages women who list''flirty fun'' on the profile somewhere.

and he wonders why he cant find anyone? He also says that they should list number of children and how much money a woman makes so he can weed out the DSS brigade as he called them...with charmers like that on the loose no wonder you guys with some sense suffer with the ladies on here!

 

10.06.2007, 21:29 quote

Anonymous

In fairness, at least he was honest. I know for a fact there are several women (double figures folks!) on here who have a checklist.

I get the impression that some people would only be happy if your profile contained your NI number, your CV, your passport, a few hours of streamed CCTV footage and a sample of DNA.

Actually, on reflection thats not a bad idea. I think I missed my vocation in life. I'm gonna start TinfoilhatBox.

 

11.06.2007, 11:43 quote

Anonymous

Oxgrad999 wrote:
A physically attractive woman will never be short of offers - provided that she leaves the house from time to time.


Even an ugly woman will get offers for love easily - for example. Even women without pictures in chat rooms get asked for love.

But a guy, even an attractive guy, will not get love offers that easily....this is just the way things are. Men are looking for women (and often love) and women are often not even looking for anything...they get offers and just need to accept or decline the offfers. Maybe this is also the reason why so many women (can) sell their body.....and men can't/don't.

Women are always in a better position as far as dating or mating is concerned.

The reason is the evolution and the fact that women get pregnant - they want to filter and find the best genes possible - after all they will end up getting pregnant. Men just want to spread their genes.....at least this is the theory that I have heard....

 

26.06.2007, 15:32 quote

Anonymous

chikhai wrote:
samatron wrote:
While the ratio might only be 5:1, I suspect that at least 3 of those 5 disqualify themselves by:

- being too obvious in pandering for love
- try to demonstrate value by showing what nice guys they are and disqualify themselves in the process
- not being funny
- having bad profiles... not much info and badly chosen photos


QFT!

Absolutely bang on the money there. Now if only women could not cower in terror or shrink away in revulsion at the mere mention of love then everyone would be happy. I don't know where this attitude comes from, but it seems to be pretty unique to dating sites (I have yet to see this in the 'real world'). Say the word and you may as well be a rapist with some people. You'd think a certain amount of anonymity would lower the inhibitions, but if anything it seems to make it worse.

I'm not talking about sending pictures of a smiley face drawn on your bellend here, or a 10,000 word essay on what you're going to do to them in graphic detail. I'm just a bit surprised at the reactions you get whenever the subject is approached in casual conversation. Conversational cul-de-sac? I should coco. You can almost smell the tumbleweed. Even mentioned in jest the reactions are somewhat...odd.


But in the 'real world' would you bring love into the conversation by the 3rd sentance.

Think of mails sent as sentances in the real world Chikhai, if your conversation went along the lines of:

Hi How are you
I am really good thanks
My name is .......
Hi ....... mine is ......
So how are you finding the site?
Yeh it is good, some nice people on here.
So ..... tell me what do you like to do in bed?

That fascinating exchange I have had more than once, and yeh there is gonna be tumbleweed!

 
 
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