i've come to the conclusion that due to the ratio factor on fb the chances of getting a date for us blokes is remote.there must be something like 5 guys to everyfemale.another gripe i got is that alot of the profiles on here the people havn,t even logged on for weeks.if you want a date blokes buy a calendar lol

Yup. The ratio of men to women is frankly ludicrous.

Dating biased in favour of women? It would certainly seem so. (Else why would so few be signed up?)

Hmmmmmm - can't see my inbox chokka full - any other girls?

Think about it rationally for a second. I'd say, judging by the 'Whos Online' section, that at any one time there is a ratio of anything from 2-to-1 to 3-to-1 in favour of the women. Therefore women can afford to be selective. Now, as the criteria on here seems to reflect real life - ie. primarily based on looks - then if you're average or below your chances are pretty slim in getting a response. Whether you're Casanova or not.

Theres nothing intrinsically wrong with this. It's perfectly natural behaviour under the circumstances, and I'm sure if the roles were reversed then men's attitudes would be identical.

Now, I'm under no illusions about myself. I'd say I was distinctly average. Not too ugly or obnoxious (though who knows, others opinions may vary) and I'd like to think that I can message someone without making a complete twat of myself in the process. But there is a consistent lack of replies. Which I'm presuming (or at least I hope) is because of the wealth of talent on offer.

So for now I've pretty much given up on sending messages out and instead take the attitude of 'Let the mountain come to Mohammed'. If someone takes the initiative then that goes in their favour straight away. If not I'll still be trying my luck in the 'real world' anyway. It's not like it's a race.

You are right - the chances of male members with profiles without pictures are remote to find a date....you need to have a proper picture of yourself.

Of course, there are more men then women! So there is competition and men need to make an effort to find a date! It takse time and creativity to get replies....and an interesting profile with good pictures. I have dated a couple of girl from Flirtbox, and it was worth the effort - I would never have met them otherwise.

The only way to achieve a 1:1 ratio on a dating site, is to artificially reduce the number of male profiles (e.g. by membership fees) - but this would be bad for the women - women on Flirtbox should have a big choice. A lot of men are on here only by accident and would never ever pay for a dating site. I also think most women do not want to date men who spend money on a dating site as they are desperate, but rather men who just joined for fun initially....

Once women find out that cool guys are more likely to be on Flirtbox then on a "premium dating site" for desperate men with money, they will spread the word and in the long term the number of female profiles will also increase.....but then even more men come to the website and in the end there will always be more men - as in real life when it comes to dating. Women never need to pull...they only need to wait for the right one to pull them. Just observe an attractive woman in a night club.....often they just stand around .... guys come up to them and try to flirt with them....in 99% of all cases they will say "no thanks"....so women basically just wait for "the right one".....whereas men actively need to search for the right one.

How many dates have you had then? I can not imagine you have not dated a woman from Flirtbox yet - unless you have only joined recently or you do something wrong - or you have only messaged 3 women.

The ratio is just the way it is. I do not see any point in artificially trying to reduce the number of male profiles in order to have an even ratio or to try and fake the statistics.

There are always more men then women on dating sites usually....if it is a "natural" representation.....it is always harder for men to find a woman then the other way round...therefore also more men use the internet to find a date then women.

We may have more to choose from, but when every 2nd/3rd message is making sexual propositions, it kind of lowers the ratio somewhat!!

I had one yesterday from a 26 year old. Admittedly his forth rightness and absolute honesty were refreshing, but it still doesn't detrect from the fact he didn't stand a chance with a message like that!

^^^^^lol

I had a bloke tell me on here that he.....
1. would never reply to a profile with no photo
2. limits his search to women with ''about average or better body''
3. only messages women who list''flirty fun'' on the profile somewhere.

and he wonders why he cant find anyone? He also says that they should list number of children and how much money a woman makes so he can weed out the DSS brigade as he called them...with charmers like that on the loose no wonder you guys with some sense suffer with the ladies on here!

In fairness, at least he was honest. I know for a fact there are several women (double figures folks!) on here who have a checklist.

I get the impression that some people would only be happy if your profile contained your NI number, your CV, your passport, a few hours of streamed CCTV footage and a sample of DNA.

Actually, on reflection thats not a bad idea. I think I missed my vocation in life. I'm gonna start TinfoilhatBox.