bams i merely put forward my own experience....... and lets face it thats all any of us can do really..... i dont remember stating at any point that it was "conclusive proof".......... i think you are nit picking a little to be fair......[/quote]

Bad Boy, you seem to have a bit of a reputation on this site as being the villan ??? i however am all for freedom of speach, so you can say whatever you like to me and i will give it back

I can identify with this, 6 months/3 stone ago i was'nt getting much in the way of responses/contact. As the weight has disappeared (and I guess looking healthier in general) i've noticed a rise in interest in my profile (here and elsewhere) and while i'm not "beating them off with a shitty stick" there is a considerable difference between then and now.

For me there is no doubt that in general, women are pretty much similar to men in this regard.

Jeggea wrote:

For months I haven't had a picture up, and I haven't had any messages or hardly any looks at my profile. About a month ago I put a picture up as I look now, over weight. I got a few messages and a few profile hits. I took that down and put one up how I looked a few years ago when I was slim..blimey my profile looks went through the roof and I was getting 5-6 messages and 'winks' a day, asking me do I want to chat. Me or my profile is no different, just a different picture. I haven't got a picture up at the moment, so no message or profile hits, I might put one of my fat bloke ones up again, see what happens

most so called"fit guys" i know are arseholes and i wouldnt get ibnvolved with them, i would rather have a bigger guy with a fantastic personality who is sincere, who i can have a conversation with etc etc instead of someone who may be classed a sfit but who may be totally socially inept and so far up their own arse that they can see their tonsils. Also i have never liked to cuddle up to someone whose body is as hard as rocks, i like a guys body to be a bit softer so i can snuggle .... aaaaah, but like someone else said i wouldnt want to be with someone who was so big they had to wipe their arse with a sponge on a stick. On here for eample, i would much rather chat with someone who sent me a message who was a bit larger and down to earth rather than someone who was pretty to look at but boring as hell. All said and done tho, i just bloody love men


disclaimer; i am not saying that all "fit" guys are like this so dont get on at me, i am just using some i know from experience, who also happen to be friends of mine, to get my point across. Just in the same way, some bigger guys i know are like this aswell.

My first husband was 5ft 4 (I'm 5ft 9) and slim. My 2nd husband was 6ft 4 and nigh on 18 stone! And i've had relationships with guys of varying degrees of size and shape inbetween, the 2 things they all have had in common is a sense of humour and the ability to cook damned good food.

We all have different ideas of what makes someone 'right' for us and often what we want from a relationship changes as we get older.

The sweeping generalisations are bang out of order!

Of course women don't mind a bloke being fat.
If Peter Kay walked into your local pub, offered to buy you a pint and started chatting you up, you're hardly going to give him the cold front are you, ladies?

i'm going to be blunt here but the only fat thing women find attractive on a bloke is a big fat brain

i dont like skinny fellas, which ireland is FULL of, i like cuddly, rugby look its hard to explain
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Yeah but you get a wallet out with loads of £20 notes in it, it always makes most women wet their knickers [/quote]

Well pesonally, if i was out with a bloke and he whipped it out !!! his wallet that is full of money, parading it for all to see, i would think what a tosser, dont like guys who give it the 'biggun' those ones normally have no personality and a small dick. But back to the subject, i have never dated a 'bigger' guy, not intentional you just fancy who you fancy. Ann-Marie xx