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27.06.2007, 09:08 quote

Anonymous

jessicasarah wrote:
god wrote:
Question for the women: What is wrong with something short and meaningless such as "how are you" as the first message?


It's downright boring and lazy! ..thats whats wrong with it. Come one, especially for those on the dating site that get alot of messages, it must get boring having to go through message after message of literally 'hi hows u' I mean.. are you ACTUALLY finding anything out about this person? Are they even giving you reason to check their profile out? If you want to contact somebody (whether you are man or woman) there should (assuming you are actually interested) make an effort. Even something as simple as telling us about your day will get you past the others, after all, isn't that what your complaining about? Women having the pick? Well if thats the case shouldn't you make a bloody bit of effort for them if you like them? When you post something like this, you are simply saying 'I'm like everybody else on this site. I'm not interesting, I'm boring and really can't be arsed to move my hands to type more than 3 words for you. So I guess in context, they are saying alot more than just 'how are you' they are saying all the previous, and women (being able to pick out of more men) simply decide these men are not for them, they would rather be spending their time on the website chatting to someone with more vocabulary than the three most common words used on this site...


lol, I am thinking of starting a new group now

"Girls who do not reply to crap messages"

anyone want to join? Very Happy

 
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27.06.2007, 09:09 quote

Anonymous

I'm in Wink

 
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27.06.2007, 09:10 quote

Anonymous

Me please!!!

 
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27.06.2007, 09:14 quote

Anonymous

Ok, It's there, sign up!

 
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27.06.2007, 09:24 quote

Anonymous

where?

 
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27.06.2007, 09:32 quote

Anonymous

jessicasarah wrote:
where?


here!

 
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27.06.2007, 09:33 quote

Anonymous

Is high maintenance a requirement?

 
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27.06.2007, 09:40 quote

Anonymous

chikhai wrote:
Is high maintenance a requirement?


for me, or you?

 
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27.06.2007, 16:30 quote

Anonymous

CMISO wrote:
Jeggea wrote:
there are lots of women that are not on the net yet and would probably get a lot out of a site like this, single mothers etc. Will be great when the do get active and make these type sites more equal.


Single mothers not active on dating sites. Laughing Laughing Laughing Laughing

Best thing I've read in ages.


Side note, for me the one who has come across as arrogant in this thread is you not the ladies.


whys that ??...what post ??

 
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27.06.2007, 17:20 quote

Anonymous

It#s not ONE post Jeggea. It's your attitude. But to give you a clue maybe 'telling' us women off for wanting a decent message from a man, that doesnt include the words 'love', 'text me on this no..' or 'hi/hi hows you' on the first post.Smile

 
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27.06.2007, 17:44 quote

Anonymous

jessicasarah wrote:
It#s not ONE post Jeggea. It's your attitude. But to give you a clue maybe 'telling' us women off for wanting a decent message from a man, that doesnt include the words 'love', 'text me on this no..' or 'hi/hi hows you' on the first post.Smile


Wound me up a bit when SarahRothman claimed ....'If you're not willing to show your face, you#re hiding something and I do not like that.'...fair enough if she doesn't want to talk to people without photo's that her choice, but its not right to claim we are being deceitful.

Not sure I did any of that.....any man who contacts a woman and asks for love on the first message, should be banned if possible IMO. They probably ruin these sites.

 
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27.06.2007, 17:53 quote

Anonymous

SarahRothman wrote:


    If you are nearly as old as my dad, your message is deleted
    If you say "hi" it is deleted
    If you say "u on msn" it is deleted
    If you say "x" is it deleted
    If you say "nice pics" it is deleted
    If your profile says nothing about you it is deleted
    If you do not have a picture it is deleted - harsh but come one, surely you can get a



I think all of those are fair and valid reasons for ignoring someone, personally. I use many similar reasons for glossing over a profile and moving on to the next one, when looking for people to message. The only one I'd question slightly is the one about commenting on pictures. Do you mean if that is *all* they do, or would you still delete if it was just a part of a longer and otherwise reasonable message.

I pretty much agree with everything you and the other ladies said, too. You have to write a message that has enough meat on it to make responding feel like the natural thing to do. It could be specific or open questions about something in that person's profile, a little bit about yourself that'll tease the other person to enquire more if they're interested, something amusing or other devices that tend to encourage people to want to engage you in a dialogue.

@chikhai My experience with sexual banter has, on the whole, been quite different to you. I'm not sure why that is, though, perhaps I've either just been lucky or it's just that my expectations are different to yours. I find it happens naturally once I've got to know someone well enough or the topic has come up in some fairly random way. I don't tend to go looking for it, though, I have to admit, it just sort of "materialises" in a conversation with people in a fairly organic, rather than contrived way, much like it does in real life conversations.

Last point for me. The ratio thing means nothing to me. It doesn't matter how many or how few women there are. I have my standards, and I work by those and just do my best where I think the effort is worth it, and once I am done, I don't worry about who does or doesn't respond. My eyes always on to the next opportunity, until someone engages my brain enough to make me want to stop doing that.

 
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27.06.2007, 17:57 quote

Anonymous

Going back to the ratio thing, the ratio here is pretty much the same as any other dating site. Anyway, although I joined FB for the dating part of the site, I’m more at home here in the forums now, where the ratio doesn’t really matter. Yeh, well, that doesn’t mean I won’t be poking around the profiles though Smile I'm not expecting a load of messages in my inbox, but the ones I have had have been friendly and even included a bit of light sexual banter)

Of course, ‘pay for’ dating sites try to encourage more women to their sites by offering free membership for limited periods (to the women), which in turn might encourage more men (paying members), all facts which are not relevant on FB of course.

I think one of the biggest factors to take into consideration when looking at male:female ratios on any dating site is the sheer number of dating sites on the net now, each trying to get a slice of the singles market.

Let’s face it, there are only x amount of singles in the country (world?) and the number of dating sites increases daily. Anyone can start a dating or social networking site now (well, if they knew how to use the resources. I could have one up and running in about 10 minutes, but wouldn’t have any members lol).

 
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27.06.2007, 18:55 quote

Anonymous

SarahRothman wrote:
If you say "hi" it is deleted


Huh? Why Hi? Do you accept hello? I don't get this. Confused

 
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27.06.2007, 19:02 quote

Anonymous

Baggiebhoy wrote:
SarahRothman wrote:
If you say "hi" it is deleted


Huh? Why Hi? Do you accept hello? I don't get this. Confused


I think they mean as a one-liner (or in this case one-worder). C'mon, admit it, it is pretty lame to send someone a message just saying "hi" and nothing else?

 
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