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09.06.2007, 01:20 quote

samatron
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We may have more to choose from, but when every 2nd/3rd message is making sexual propositions, it kind of lowers the ratio somewhat!!

This can only be good news!
While the ratio might only be 5:1, I suspect that at least 3 of those 5 disqualify themselves by:

- being too obvious in pandering for sex
- try to demonstrate value by showing what nice guys they are and disqualify themselves in the process
- not being funny
- having bad profiles... not much info and badly chosen photos

My dating life was over till I discovered internet dating. Suddenly, I've been meeting loads of new people! Admittedly, I haven't met up with anyone from here yet. Gumtree seems to be the place where I get all my success. I get roughly a date a week there!

 

10.06.2007, 12:08 quote

Oxgrad999
Oxgrad999 Joined: 23 May 2007 Posts: 2 Location: United Kingdom, England, Kent
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If you think the ratio is unfavourable to men here on fb, consider that the ratio on a well-known adult dating site is around 40 to 1 (when I last looked).

Internet dating is one of those ideas that in principle seems to have many advantages. It's a pity that in practice is so favaourable to one sex and not to the other.

A curious thing is why women don't realise that it is such a gift to them and flock in hordes to dating sites.

I suspect that one of the posters here was right. A physically attractive woman will never be short of offers - provided that she leaves the house from time to time.

 

10.06.2007, 14:29 quote

Anonymous

^^^^^lol Laughing

 

10.06.2007, 18:00 quote

annmarie5988

^^^^^^ lmao UT

 

10.06.2007, 19:41 quote

Anonymous

samatron wrote:
While the ratio might only be 5:1, I suspect that at least 3 of those 5 disqualify themselves by:

- being too obvious in pandering for sex
- try to demonstrate value by showing what nice guys they are and disqualify themselves in the process
- not being funny
- having bad profiles... not much info and badly chosen photos


QFT!

Absolutely bang on the money there. Now if only women could not cower in terror or shrink away in revulsion at the mere mention of sex then everyone would be happy. I don't know where this attitude comes from, but it seems to be pretty unique to dating sites (I have yet to see this in the 'real world'). Say the word and you may as well be a rapist with some people. You'd think a certain amount of anonymity would lower the inhibitions, but if anything it seems to make it worse.

I'm not talking about sending pictures of a smiley face drawn on your bellend here, or a 10,000 word essay on what you're going to do to them in graphic detail. I'm just a bit surprised at the reactions you get whenever the subject is approached in casual conversation. Conversational cul-de-sac? I should coco. You can almost smell the tumbleweed. Even mentioned in jest the reactions are somewhat...odd.

 

10.06.2007, 20:18 quote

Anonymous

I had a bloke tell me on here that he.....
1. would never reply to a profile with no photo
2. limits his search to women with ''about average or better body''
3. only messages women who list''flirty fun'' on the profile somewhere.

and he wonders why he cant find anyone? He also says that they should list number of children and how much money a woman makes so he can weed out the DSS brigade as he called them...with charmers like that on the loose no wonder you guys with some sense suffer with the ladies on here!

 

10.06.2007, 20:29 quote

Anonymous

In fairness, at least he was honest. I know for a fact there are several women (double figures folks!) on here who have a checklist.

I get the impression that some people would only be happy if your profile contained your NI number, your CV, your passport, a few hours of streamed CCTV footage and a sample of DNA.

Actually, on reflection thats not a bad idea. I think I missed my vocation in life. I'm gonna start TinfoilhatBox.

 

10.06.2007, 20:31 quote

elitious
Joined: 06 Apr 2007 Posts: 1264 Location: United Kingdom, Scotland, Glasgow
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chikhai wrote:
In fairness, at least he was honest. I know for a fact there are several women (double figures folks!) on here who have a checklist.

I get the impression that some people would only be happy if your profile contained your NI number, your CV, your passport, a few hours of streamed CCTV footage and a sample of DNA.

Actually, on reflection thats not a bad idea. I think I missed my vocation in life. I'm gonna start TinfoilhatBox.


chikhai u missed family tree, and the weight of the wallet Twisted Evil

 

11.06.2007, 10:43 quote

Anonymous

Oxgrad999 wrote:
A physically attractive woman will never be short of offers - provided that she leaves the house from time to time.


Even an ugly woman will get offers for sex easily - for example. Even women without pictures in chat rooms get asked for sex.

But a guy, even an attractive guy, will not get sex offers that easily....this is just the way things are. Men are looking for women (and often sex) and women are often not even looking for anything...they get offers and just need to accept or decline the offfers. Maybe this is also the reason why so many women (can) sell their body.....and men can't/don't.

Women are always in a better position as far as dating or mating is concerned.

The reason is the evolution and the fact that women get pregnant - they want to filter and find the best genes possible - after all they will end up getting pregnant. Men just want to spread their genes.....at least this is the theory that I have heard....

 

19.06.2007, 21:50 quote

Eldorado47
Joined: 07 Jun 2007 Posts: 56 Location: United Kingdom, England, Cambridgeshire
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chikhai wrote:
Yup. The ratio of men to women is frankly ludicrous.

Dating biased in favour of women? It would certainly seem so. (Else why would so few be signed up?)


Yep I agree. Not only that, in todays daily mail (crap paper I know) there was a big feature on middle aged women, mostly divorced, kids left home, who are actively seeking men young enough to be their sons for nsa sex, and they are growing in number. They have even been given a name "cougars" - predatory women, and have no desire for a comitted relationship. So things are equalling up, women are becoming more like men in this respect. Also nsa sex is rife in the under 25 bracket too, This is not good news for me at 47! ........having said that....I think it's a breath of fresh air.
I sent my last message today, it's not worth the effort, believe it or not I find supermarkets great for meeting people! Tesco could make a fortune from "instore dating" lol!!
This forum is fantastic though, I love it and I'm grateful for the efforts of those that keep it up and running.

Times are a changin.
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26.06.2007, 11:10 quote

samatron
samatron Joined: 24 May 2007 Posts: 219 Location: United Kingdom, England, Greater Manchester
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Many women get approached by men several times a day. There is less impetus for them to open up to even more approaches with online dating. They have more options in the real world.
In theory, there are just as many men available to women as women available to men in the real world, but because
1) the convention is for men to approach
2) many men have 'approach anxiety'

I think men are generally drawn to internet dating.
I don't go for Chikhai's idea of letting women take the initiative.
If there's someone I like on fb, I'll let them know directly rather than pussy-foot around hoping they might ask me out.
Still, if I was as pretty-faced as Chikhai, more women might approach me!

 

26.06.2007, 12:05 quote

susiexxx

samatron wrote:
Still, if I was as pretty-faced as Chikhai, more women might approach me!



I dunno Samatron you look 'pretty' good to me Very Happy

 

26.06.2007, 14:32 quote

Anonymous

chikhai wrote:
samatron wrote:
While the ratio might only be 5:1, I suspect that at least 3 of those 5 disqualify themselves by:

- being too obvious in pandering for sex
- try to demonstrate value by showing what nice guys they are and disqualify themselves in the process
- not being funny
- having bad profiles... not much info and badly chosen photos


QFT!

Absolutely bang on the money there. Now if only women could not cower in terror or shrink away in revulsion at the mere mention of sex then everyone would be happy. I don't know where this attitude comes from, but it seems to be pretty unique to dating sites (I have yet to see this in the 'real world'). Say the word and you may as well be a rapist with some people. You'd think a certain amount of anonymity would lower the inhibitions, but if anything it seems to make it worse.

I'm not talking about sending pictures of a smiley face drawn on your bellend here, or a 10,000 word essay on what you're going to do to them in graphic detail. I'm just a bit surprised at the reactions you get whenever the subject is approached in casual conversation. Conversational cul-de-sac? I should coco. You can almost smell the tumbleweed. Even mentioned in jest the reactions are somewhat...odd.


But in the 'real world' would you bring sex into the conversation by the 3rd sentance.

Think of mails sent as sentances in the real world Chikhai, if your conversation went along the lines of:

Hi How are you
I am really good thanks
My name is .......
Hi ....... mine is ......
So how are you finding the site?
Yeh it is good, some nice people on here.
So ..... tell me what do you like to do in bed?

That fascinating exchange I have had more than once, and yeh there is gonna be tumbleweed!

 

26.06.2007, 15:24 quote

CMISO
CMISO Joined: 18 Jun 2007 Posts: 3120 Location: United Kingdom, England, Lincolnshire
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pollyanna37 wrote:
But in the 'real world' would you bring sex into the conversation by the 3rd sentance.

Think of mails sent as sentances in the real world Chikhai, if your conversation went along the lines of:

Hi How are you
I am really good thanks
My name is .......
Hi ....... mine is ......
So how are you finding the site?
Yeh it is good, some nice people on here.
So ..... tell me what do you like to do in bed?

That fascinating exchange I have had more than once, and yeh there is gonna be tumbleweed!


Tumbleweed eh, blimey you are kinky.
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26.06.2007, 15:59 quote

Anonymous

CMISO wrote:
pollyanna37 wrote:
But in the 'real world' would you bring sex into the conversation by the 3rd sentance.

Think of mails sent as sentances in the real world Chikhai, if your conversation went along the lines of:

Hi How are you
I am really good thanks
My name is .......
Hi ....... mine is ......
So how are you finding the site?
Yeh it is good, some nice people on here.
So ..... tell me what do you like to do in bed?

That fascinating exchange I have had more than once, and yeh there is gonna be tumbleweed!


Tumbleweed eh, blimey you are kinky.


Lol - yeh tumbleweed is a little fetish of mine Wink

 
 
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