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17.02.2007, 14:41 quote

voyagerUKMale
voyagerUKMale Joined: 23 Sep 2006 Posts: 24 Location: United Kingdom, England, Berkshire
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scottie69 wrote:
how many messages have you sent? you gotta remember that on any dating site you tend to get more men than women so the women have the choice pick if you like. not to say you wouldnt/couldnt be a choice pick but like i said its a bit of a lottery.

some people find the love of there life through a friendship, rather than that first impressionism (is that a word?) but to be honest i think alot of people come on this site expecting to be messaged by hordes of potential partners but they dont get it.

there are many many reasons as to why someone would or would not message/reply to somebody, and looks is only one aspect of that, so if i was you id try n stop focusing on looks and try to find some positives that you can 'sell' as writing a profile on a dating site is not much different to writing your cv, your selling yourself with it.
thats just my thoughts.


I think your right to a good degree and agree but just can't think what to write apart from what I have. Have I missed some vital stuff out in my profile? This is very hard lol

 
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17.02.2007, 15:41 quote

chris343
chris343 Joined: 31 Jan 2007 Posts: 267 Location: USA, Connecticut, Hartford
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voyagerUKMale wrote:
scottie69 wrote:
how many messages have you sent? you gotta remember that on any dating site you tend to get more men than women so the women have the choice pick if you like. not to say you wouldnt/couldnt be a choice pick but like i said its a bit of a lottery.

some people find the love of there life through a friendship, rather than that first impressionism (is that a word?) but to be honest i think alot of people come on this site expecting to be messaged by hordes of potential partners but they dont get it.

there are many many reasons as to why someone would or would not message/reply to somebody, and looks is only one aspect of that, so if i was you id try n stop focusing on looks and try to find some positives that you can 'sell' as writing a profile on a dating site is not much different to writing your cv, your selling yourself with it.
thats just my thoughts.


I think your right to a good degree and agree but just can't think what to write apart from what I have. Have I missed some vital stuff out in my profile? This is very hard lol


No, your profile is fine Smile. Everyone pretty much nailed it on the head. Most times you find the one you love as a friend first. It so easy to get along with just a friend you don't need to worry about the whole date thing or trying to impress her that you just be yourself and comfortable around her. Its all up to how you interact and a big factor is confidence~!!!! Girls like a guy that reeks of confidence. hoep all this threads have helped.. good luck

 
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17.02.2007, 20:35 quote

Anonymous

folks ... your cvomments made me feel better .. yes maybe I need to get back in the loop more

 
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17.02.2007, 20:42 quote

voyagerUKMale
voyagerUKMale Joined: 23 Sep 2006 Posts: 24 Location: United Kingdom, England, Berkshire
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malcs99 wrote:
folks ... your cvomments made me feel better .. yes maybe I need to get back in the loop more


malc it is hard but there has always got to be a way. Just keep trying mate.

 
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18.02.2007, 18:35 quote

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malcs99 wrote:
not dated in like 3 ... years ... feel otally out ofthe loop ... and way too insecure ... funny how building yer career can do that !!
Bloody hell I have never managed to get a date in my entire life. Though I did have a couple of offers that I turned down because I didn't fancy the girls. And I am 40 years old. I also did meet a girl once in my local launderette who agreed to meet me again but I fucked the arrangment details up.

I remember while I was growing up I thought that I would eventually meet a girl who I loved and who loved me back, but it never happened. I don't know what I did wrong. I am sure my looks have prevented me from getting dates with girls.

 
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18.02.2007, 18:37 quote

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stonecastle wrote:
malcs99 wrote:
not dated in like 3 ... years ... feel otally out ofthe loop ... and way too insecure ... funny how building yer career can do that !!
Bloody hell I have never managed to get a date in my entire life. Though I did have a couple of offers that I turned down because I didn't fancy the girls. And I am 40 years old. I also did meet a girl once in my local launderette who agreed to meet me again but I fucked the arrangment details up.

I remember while I was growing up I thought that I would eventually meet a girl who I loved and who loved me back, but it never happened. I don't know what I did wrong. I am sure my looks have prevented me from getting dates with girls.


I dont think its just your looks

 
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19.02.2007, 04:59 quote

chris343
chris343 Joined: 31 Jan 2007 Posts: 267 Location: USA, Connecticut, Hartford
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aDecentGuy wrote:
stonecastle wrote:
malcs99 wrote:
not dated in like 3 ... years ... feel otally out ofthe loop ... and way too insecure ... funny how building yer career can do that !!
Bloody hell I have never managed to get a date in my entire life. Though I did have a couple of offers that I turned down because I didn't fancy the girls. And I am 40 years old. I also did meet a girl once in my local launderette who agreed to meet me again but I fucked the arrangment details up.

I remember while I was growing up I thought that I would eventually meet a girl who I loved and who loved me back, but it never happened. I don't know what I did wrong. I am sure my looks have prevented me from getting dates with girls.


I dont think its just your looks




There comes a time in life where you kinda have to settle. Most guys never get that dream girl.

 
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19.02.2007, 11:32 quote

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PhilReed Joined: 13 Feb 2007 Posts: 16 Location: United Kingdom, England, West Midlands
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I can totally understand where you're coming from Malc99 as i've always felt up until a year or so ago that i wasn't good enough to be in a relationship and blamed my looks too. Even when i was in a loving relationship and was told many many times she liked me 100% it was hard to believe.

But now i just accept what i have got and conecentrate on the good things i know i've got like my loving & caring qualities. So don't go thinking that you'll never get in a relationship again as it could happen anytime!

Just make sure you're positive when talking to the ladies as they will soon notice if you bring yourself down and women tend not to like that (from my personal experience anyway!).

Good luck!

Phil

 
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20.02.2007, 13:53 quote

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aDecentGuy wrote:
I dont think its just your looks
Of course it is my bad looks even some of my close friends told me I was ugly! It can't be lack of effort as I try to get off with a woman almost every time I come across a good looking woman. When I was a teenager I used to know quite a few girls but none of them would go out with me.

 
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20.02.2007, 13:57 quote

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stonecastle wrote:
It can't be lack of effort as I try to get off with a woman almost every time I come across a good looking woman



maybe thats why, perhaps try to get to know her first


Confused Confused

 
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20.02.2007, 13:59 quote

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stonecastle wrote:
aDecentGuy wrote:
I dont think its just your looks
Of course it is my bad looks even some of my close friends told me I was ugly! It can't be lack of effort as I try to get off with a woman almost every time I come across a good looking woman. When I was a teenager I used to know quite a few girls but none of them would go out with me.
its you personality and the way you treat people , also why do you need a good looking women all the time thats just shallow

 
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20.02.2007, 14:10 quote

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scottie69 wrote:
maybe thats why, perhaps try to get to know her first.
But I do!!! And the first girls I tried to get off with when I was a lot younger were girls that I already had known for ages from school and from friends. When I meet new women I always talk to them for ages first but most don't seem the slightest bit interested in me. Sad

 
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20.02.2007, 14:17 quote

Anonymous

stonecastle wrote:
aDecentGuy wrote:
I dont think its just your looks
Of course it is my bad looks even some of my close friends told me I was ugly! It can't be lack of effort as I try to get off with a woman almost every time I come across a good looking woman. When I was a teenager I used to know quite a few girls but none of them would go out with me.
This could be where you are going wrong, youre trying to hard to score all the time, its a massive turn off. If a girl is out with a guy the last thing she wants on her mind is he a potential rapist lol, is she feeling safe and secure around him or is he just trying to score. Its a very ugly trait and a surefire way of not getting a 2nd date. If I was on a date, I would not feel happy or comfortable if some strange guy was more concerend with trying to "get off" with me. I'd run away like a shot, however if I was on a date with chiefy he would be thinking "is the girl trying to rape me or wot!!?? the mad woman" hahah and he'd run away like a shot haha

anyway, my point is stop seeing woman as a potential "get off", its very unattractive.

 
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20.02.2007, 14:18 quote

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yeoldemoldypeach wrote:
stonecastle wrote:
aDecentGuy wrote:
I dont think its just your looks
Of course it is my bad looks even some of my close friends told me I was ugly! It can't be lack of effort as I try to get off with a woman almost every time I come across a good looking woman. When I was a teenager I used to know quite a few girls but none of them would go out with me.
its you personality and the way you treat people , also why do you need a good looking women all the time thats just shallow
omg i cant believe Im doing this...but I think he means good looking to him. we all have an idea of good looking in our minds, but if he thinks he's gonna "get off" with MIss world then he's got another thing coming lol there's good looking and theres "not a chance in hell"

 
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20.02.2007, 14:34 quote

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guitargirl wrote:
yeoldemoldypeach wrote:
stonecastle wrote:
aDecentGuy wrote:
I dont think its just your looks
Of course it is my bad looks even some of my close friends told me I was ugly! It can't be lack of effort as I try to get off with a woman almost every time I come across a good looking woman. When I was a teenager I used to know quite a few girls but none of them would go out with me.
its you personality and the way you treat people , also why do you need a good looking women all the time thats just shallow
omg i cant believe Im doing this...but I think he means good looking to him. we all have an idea of good looking in our minds, but if he thinks he's gonna "get off" with MIss world then he's got another thing coming lol there's good looking and theres "not a chance in hell"
lol tis ok , i thought he meant that at first but still i get the feeling he does want some stunning looking girl

 
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