not dated in like 3 ... years ... feel otally out ofthe loop ... and way too insecure ... funny how building yer career can do that !!

aww bless, im like that too..

was in a long term relationship then been single for about 2 years..

my advice just get stuck it with chatting to people and soon will build your confidence up

time to start building your relationship career then

thanks all

Hi Malc and welcome ... just jump in on the posts and get to know everyone .. we're all nice here

ive gotta say yes m8. After three years out, thats it. Too late, too ugly. Might aswell become a priest or go work with tribes in the jungle. Coz everything uve ever hoped for in life, career, kids, happy relationships, good health. It just aint gonna happen now ur below average apperance. Other people here will give u a shoulder, but im giving u the cold hard facts here. Every non good lookin person i know is depresseed and unsuccessful. razors are dead cheap now. Asda or morrisons do bumper packs.

what kinda help u need askin how old u look from a single black and white photo the size of my thumb online, ask people in RL they can see u in colour. Im not being harsh i just find the question bloody funny. And im a sarcy bastard

well i suppose for those good looking, confident guys its not an issue lets hope they don't end up disfigured and loose their confidence. As for the time factor we all have our reasons why we don't date or meet the right person. I was out of the loop for years because of two long term relationships that ended and I thought I've had enough, rather be on my own and get to know me better and sort out my careeer etc. But as time goes on you soon realise that its not always the best thing to do as you do loose touch with interaction etc.

I started to date again last year and met a really intelligent, sexy woman from a chat line. We dated on and off and eventually realised that as mates were are so good for each other but just not compatible sexually, although I still wish I had my chance with her. Thats what not being in the loop does to a person, you loose practice of some intimate stuff and then feel inadequate. But its best to use any new dates as learning curve and just keep trying if it doesn't work out.

Its not over til its over

Look at Dot Cotton and Jim

how many messages have you sent? you gotta remember that on any dating site you tend to get more men than women so the women have the choice pick if you like. not to say you wouldnt/couldnt be a choice pick but like i said its a bit of a lottery.

some people find the love of there life through a friendship, rather than that first impressionism (is that a word?) but to be honest i think alot of people come on this site expecting to be messaged by hordes of potential partners but they dont get it.

there are many many reasons as to why someone would or would not message/reply to somebody, and looks is only one aspect of that, so if i was you id try n stop focusing on looks and try to find some positives that you can 'sell' as writing a profile on a dating site is not much different to writing your cv, your selling yourself with it.
thats just my thoughts.