I have to say I totally agree with crimewave. Being a 'nice guy' only gets you ignored, I mean, sure enough it is easy to say "being more positive and assertive will help" but for many people that just isn't in their personality and frankly I would rather not pretend to be someone I'm not just to try and trick someone into noticing me for someone I'm not.

I don't actively 'look' for anything in a man, if I meet someone and I'm physically attracted to them, I'll spend the time getting to know them and will determine over the course of time whether I find them intelligent, trustworthy, funny and all that stuff I like to have in my relationships. If I don't discover the kind of traits I like, I can still have a casual relationship, since the physical attraction is there. I'll just roll my eyes at the dumb things they say.


This isn't to say that I don't take the time to get to know people I'm not physically attracted to, just that if there's not a physical spark, nothing romantic is going to happen.

girls/women, they look for guys with alpha male characteristics, that is what they have been genetically modified to do, through an evolutionery process, all this geniune, caring, honest nice guy stuff, is what they SAY they want but not what they REALLY want, so guys remember this, and girls deep down you know its true.

all my life i have gone out with all different types of men-short, heavy, wild, nice, crazy-i have talked to men on the net for hours and days without seeing there picture and have gotten that spark just from our talks and then met them or seen them and still have that spark--sure if i see some greatlooking guy that sexual spark is there but for me its not the looks--maybe you guys and girls are trying to find the mate with all qualities, which is extremely hard to find----
Your Crazy American thats trying to find that one also, Aluria

Women? From experience, Women only want 1 thing, a guy's head they can screw up, and then once that guy ends up in a mental institute, they jump towards their next prey. The process then repeats and continues.. to be quite honest.

Mike you were just burned too many times, probably cuz they were very superficial. I feel for you, but not all of us play those childish games and i am like Danni i have had my share of mind games with men, saying one thing but only wanting one thing

Im attracted to dark hair men. sorry blonds. i do like blonds to but there is something so sexy about dark features. blue eyes r cute though. someone that can get in to your mind as well as your body, my perfect man is aragon from lord of the rings sorry crap speller. someone fit to rescue you from your knighmares. does such a man exist prob not but in my dreams maybe.

'cmon guys, they look for power, converted in diferent things! is the law of nature, the most powerfull one get's the pot!

I think there is no one definitive answer as each woman is a unique personality and looking for or wanting something different. I want a man who is intelligent, well educated, a person with a sense of morality, faithful to me, good career prospects, fun to be with and creative when it comes to dating. I would not marry solely for money, as I believe any partnership I entered into would generate money, heck Im only 18 and already doing quite well in that area lol. Jayne