Yeah in the past i've had some blokes who think you are at your pc 24/7 just for them. One guy was pingponging PMs at a rate of knots i couldnt keep up Well it was gone 1 am so I wrote "I'm off to bed now, catch you another day" but i then got an email from a *real friend* so i replied to that and then replied to another PM before switching my puter off, this guy sends me a PM in all capital letters YOU ARE A LIAR YOU ARE NOT GONE TO BED YOU ARE STILL ONLINE WHY DID YOU LIE TO ME????? DONT YOU LIKE ME OR SOMETHING YOU BITCH!!!!
Needless to say, I blocked him.
Sadly, these kind of websites attract all sorts, including spanners who think the world revolves around them.
I think maybe bear in mind some guys come on here after a night soaking up the bar and feeling lonely, sorry for themselves and just a tad arrogant and cantankorous. (or on drugs).
Possibly there are women like this too here, but i dont know.
But no need to generalise, there are just as many really nice "normal" guys on here too!!

Life?

Outside world?

What are these things you speak of?


I can't say I have had much experience of that sort of pestering on-line, but I get a fair bit of it in real life.

It does my head right in too.....

I just checked out your profile, and I reckon you look like prime stalker prey.

Don't take that as an insult, what I mean is that you look sweet and innocent, the sort of girl that a bloke twice your age would be attracted too if he were the stalker type.

I think most blokes that age would get jealous really quickly as they realise that when you are on-line and not speaking to them, you are most likely speaking to people in your own age group.

In my opinion though, anyone that screams out for your attention now, will only get worse as time goes on.

And like you say, clingy peeps are not the greatest thing known to man (or woman)....

Swansong, dont let it get you down. stick to your principles and write back thanks but no thanks. If a man doesnt then get the hint, that's what the "Block this person" button is there for. Each time you reply you are keeping the dialogue going and in their peasize brains they think "Ooh she wrote back, she's interested" - some will even accuse you of playing hard to get when you say "thanks but no thanks" if you then keep the pingpong PMs going.
I might sound like someone's mum - well, i am! - but one thing you got to learn here pretty fast is this: To keep away from the ones you arent interested in, Tell them ONCE, and once only.
No matter if they try to make you feel like you are being a bitch, uncaring, not giving them a fair crack of the whip.....you are not responsible for their feelings and you are here to get what YOU want out of it, you're not here to massage some bloke;s ego, especially if you are not interested.
There! i've done with being mum!

And MSN, the ones who think you are at your computer on msn 24/7 JUST FOR THEM!!!!!
That's why i dont do it now, as stated in another thread.
And yeah moose you are right, there certainly are women like it too, i was just answering woman2woman here really, but am well aware just as many women think the world revolves around them as do some men.

Wouldn't mind somebody stalking me!

On second thoughts, that would be really scary. I cannot believe some of the messages you girls got!

I am on a PC at work (and yes, I should be working, but this is far more interesting!), but I do have a life outside of work and my PC.

So you have a go at some random bloke who likes you in the virtual world *Just because you can get away with it*??? Kind of a handy Invisible Verbal (written) Punchbag? Nice.

Deepthroat, I am not judging *you* - quite rightly I dont know you - I was 'making a judgment' about this that you wrote: " but its nice sometimes to get the bitch out on line rather than biting the head off your work colleagues". Which, in my opinion is pretty much summed up by what I said. That is how I saw what you wrote, saying its 'nice' to have a go at someone in the virtual world because it wouldnt be so easy to get away with it in your real world.

My problem with the on line dating thing is that it feels like shopping at Argos.

I am a greedy bastard, I know, but I want to feel some sort of connection with someone.

I don't think that I would get that from reading ANY profile.
Well, I haven't so far.

I wouldn't get pissed if someone didn't reply to a message I send, but I am not particularly bothered about getting a reply (most of the time).

If I did come across a profile that really caught my eye, and I was compelled to send a message, I would hope for a reply, especially if that person was not interested.

You can't beat a bit of honesty, it earns respect, and leaves everyone knowing exactly where they stand.

I thnk that half the trouble in this situation is that people are too nice sometimes, leaving the desperate ones clinging onto false hopes.

More confident? Or more desperate, more
thick- skinned or even just lack social skills and dont recognise social cues til it bops them on the nose?

"You can't beat a bit of honesty, it earns respect, and leaves everyone knowing exactly where they stand.
I thnk that half the trouble in this situation is that people are too nice sometimes, leaving the desperate ones clinging onto false hopes".

Which is why i said it can be hard to know where and how to draw the line, and why when i first joined - eager not to be horrid - i ended up with 41 email pals. I did a dis-service to myself as well as most of them which is why my in/out boxes currently stands at 0/1 since rejoining.