Now I don't want to generalise or sound harsh, but has anyone else had a problem with desperate guys (or girls!) on here?

On one occasion I had a guy twice my age send me about 7 messages in half an hour.

Most recently I was chatting to another guy who seemed cool, until I had to go do something in the real 3D world, and just because I hadn't replied for 20 mins I get a message saying "You're gorgeous I totally understand why you wouldn't want to talk to me, bye then" and then EVERY time I've signed on since he just does it again and again. And he seemed perfectly nice up until that point!

And that's just 2 examples. There have been several, and I've been on here for less than a month!

Now I'm not knocking online dating, but don't they have a life in the real world? I think they need to understand that people have a life outside of their computers too!

Coming across as desperate and clingy is one of the most unattractive things anyone (guy or girl) can do, and I try to be nice to them about since I used to do it a little too :S but one time I was TOO nice and ended up with a stalker who decided to threaten me. Which wasn't the happiest time I've ever had I must admit. Maybe that's made me a bit more uptight about it than most people, but does anyone else find this type of behaviour really unattractive?

Yeah in the past i've had some blokes who think you are at your pc 24/7 just for them. One guy was pingponging PMs at a rate of knots i couldnt keep up Well it was gone 1 am so I wrote "I'm off to bed now, catch you another day" but i then got an email from a *real friend* so i replied to that and then replied to another PM before switching my puter off, this guy sends me a PM in all capital letters YOU ARE A LIAR YOU ARE NOT GONE TO BED YOU ARE STILL ONLINE WHY DID YOU LIE TO ME????? DONT YOU LIKE ME OR SOMETHING YOU BITCH!!!!
Needless to say, I blocked him.
Sadly, these kind of websites attract all sorts, including spanners who think the world revolves around them.
I think maybe bear in mind some guys come on here after a night soaking up the bar and feeling lonely, sorry for themselves and just a tad arrogant and cantankorous. (or on drugs).
Possibly there are women like this too here, but i dont know.
But no need to generalise, there are just as many really nice "normal" guys on here too!!

Life?

Outside world?

What are these things you speak of?


I can't say I have had much experience of that sort of pestering on-line, but I get a fair bit of it in real life.

It does my head right in too.....

Oh god that guy sounds like a nightmare! I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels like this, I was beginning to feel a bit of a b*tch!

I just checked out your profile, and I reckon you look like prime stalker prey.

Don't take that as an insult, what I mean is that you look sweet and innocent, the sort of girl that a bloke twice your age would be attracted too if he were the stalker type.

I think most blokes that age would get jealous really quickly as they realise that when you are on-line and not speaking to them, you are most likely speaking to people in your own age group.

In my opinion though, anyone that screams out for your attention now, will only get worse as time goes on.

And like you say, clingy peeps are not the greatest thing known to man (or woman)....

Swansong, dont let it get you down. stick to your principles and write back thanks but no thanks. If a man doesnt then get the hint, that's what the "Block this person" button is there for. Each time you reply you are keeping the dialogue going and in their peasize brains they think "Ooh she wrote back, she's interested" - some will even accuse you of playing hard to get when you say "thanks but no thanks" if you then keep the pingpong PMs going.
I might sound like someone's mum - well, i am! - but one thing you got to learn here pretty fast is this: To keep away from the ones you arent interested in, Tell them ONCE, and once only.
No matter if they try to make you feel like you are being a bitch, uncaring, not giving them a fair crack of the whip.....you are not responsible for their feelings and you are here to get what YOU want out of it, you're not here to massage some bloke;s ego, especially if you are not interested.
There! i've done with being mum!

The most annoying thing is when you get to the point of exchanging phone numbers, and then they start texting you every five minutes and start getting the hump if you don't reply to each text within 30 seconds.

And MSN, the ones who think you are at your computer on msn 24/7 JUST FOR THEM!!!!!
That's why i dont do it now, as stated in another thread.
And yeah moose you are right, there certainly are women like it too, i was just answering woman2woman here really, but am well aware just as many women think the world revolves around them as do some men.

Yeah I know women can do it too, so guys opinions are welcome! I did it to one guy a couple of years ago - I was going through a bit of a rough patch and I think I lost my head a bit.

Yeah I look back on it now and it's like "OMG what was I like?!?!" It's quite embarrassing, and I hope I never get like that again! I'd been quite badly hurt and I think I just latched onto this other guy to try and make myself feel better. I did apologise later

Wouldn't mind somebody stalking me!

On second thoughts, that would be really scary. I cannot believe some of the messages you girls got!

I am on a PC at work (and yes, I should be working, but this is far more interesting!), but I do have a life outside of work and my PC.

I could have written this thread myself - i just didnt think of it... :0\

LOL!!

I have one guy at the moment who i have been nothing but a bitch to (i told him i wasnt interested, he's OLDER than my DAD, but he keeps pushing and pushing) and yet he loves it and keeps coming back for more! I will stop responding, but its nice sometimes to get the bitch out on line rather than biting the head off your work colleagues.

Anyway, if i get someone i am not interested in at all, (or if they have no picture loaded up!) I dont respond to them at all. Usually they go away, and its not a case of being a bitch, its having learnt that there is nothing worse and sometimes nastier than a rejected man! (and probably woman too...)

So dont worry about ignoring them...they will get over it and email someone else before you can click "delete"!!!

H xx