So you have a go at some random bloke who likes you in the virtual world *Just because you can get away with it*??? Kind of a handy Invisible Verbal (written) Punchbag? Nice.

Deepthroat, I am not judging *you* - quite rightly I dont know you - I was 'making a judgment' about this that you wrote: " but its nice sometimes to get the bitch out on line rather than biting the head off your work colleagues". Which, in my opinion is pretty much summed up by what I said. That is how I saw what you wrote, saying its 'nice' to have a go at someone in the virtual world because it wouldnt be so easy to get away with it in your real world.

Insecurity.

As much as I think hounding people is wrong, you have to take care to not destroy the other person.



Edit: Damn is that my picture? Where's my tophat?!

Wow! This thread is pretty interesting, a little sobering too. Still, I think its a bit like training a dog or something: you have to be clear and firm when necessary without letting yourself get carried away.
That said, I can't talk much, I havn't PMed anyone yet and no ones PMed me!

My problem with the on line dating thing is that it feels like shopping at Argos.

I am a greedy bastard, I know, but I want to feel some sort of connection with someone.

I don't think that I would get that from reading ANY profile.
Well, I haven't so far.

I wouldn't get pissed if someone didn't reply to a message I send, but I am not particularly bothered about getting a reply (most of the time).

If I did come across a profile that really caught my eye, and I was compelled to send a message, I would hope for a reply, especially if that person was not interested.

You can't beat a bit of honesty, it earns respect, and leaves everyone knowing exactly where they stand.

I thnk that half the trouble in this situation is that people are too nice sometimes, leaving the desperate ones clinging onto false hopes.

More confident? Or more desperate, more
thick- skinned or even just lack social skills and dont recognise social cues til it bops them on the nose?

"You can't beat a bit of honesty, it earns respect, and leaves everyone knowing exactly where they stand.
I thnk that half the trouble in this situation is that people are too nice sometimes, leaving the desperate ones clinging onto false hopes".

Which is why i said it can be hard to know where and how to draw the line, and why when i first joined - eager not to be horrid - i ended up with 41 email pals. I did a dis-service to myself as well as most of them which is why my in/out boxes currently stands at 0/1 since rejoining.

Totally off topic:

Hi everyone, I'm John