Prompted by a reference I saw about this on another thread.

id say you can its all about how you word things! sum ppl just take things too far when they dont need to! think about it b4 you say it

I think that depends entirely on the situation. Sometimes it's easier than others to be diplomatic.
If somebody that you don't like asks what you think of them how is it possible to be nice and truthful?
"I don't think we get along too well, we're different kinds of people" i guess is acceptable, but it will still hurt at least a little, I would think.
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I'm in agreement Mr WSS

Depends on who you associate with; and who you are

As well as what kinda thoughts you tend to cook up inside yer head of course

+ your soical skills (and humour)

...respect and a lack of hipocracy also help
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Sue i am living proof that you can be a nice person but be honest and direct ask my friends they will tell ya ........

I think it's easy to be 'nice' AND speak your mind. It's all about understanding a situation and thinking what, and how you need to say something but being mindful of the result you want to achieve too.
I think you can be confrontational AND 'nice' as well, it's about your social skills, thoughtfulness and skill in making a point without giving a personal attack.

I agree with all of the above. It's also about not blindly walking into tricky situations.

Only if you're a person without bad thoughts.

you'll just have to practice the art of saying 'no'.

^^ooh i feel ur profile pic lookin right into my soul lol

as for me, being nice can be under the shade of hypocrisy, so i choose honesty and respect before nice.. niceties can be cheesy too, tho brutal honesty can be regarded as rude.. the other dude in the other thread, is just plain out rude and seems the type who's just projecting his inner emotions.. shouldnt be taken seriously, as its the net, so when u sign up to these type forums, such should be expected

also, when it comes to a dating site, the word 'nice' should only be attributed to someone who is pleasant in manner, good natured, etc and someone who pays careful attention but...

u cant tell all that unless u've actually spent physical time with the person ((no NOT SEX DAMMIT)) ...and this doesn't guarantee u a 'relationship' with the person either, "ohh ur such a nice guy but just not my type" lol i've heard that before..

have a nice day people! lol no cheese intended
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betty wonderin how the fuck she ended up here

perhaps "nice" is the wrong word to use? Maybe the word "friendly" is more fitting?
Nothing wrong with speaking your mind but some people seem to drive it home that they are not bothered about upsetting people just so they can have their say on something, even when that something has no relationship or bearing upon them.

tact is the key word when speaking your mind, we can all say what is on our minds, but judging whether it is useful or appropriate is another skill altogether...

sometimes the best way to be nice is to speak your mind especially if its going to benefit someone