I have sent out 5 messages to women in my area and have no replies even though 3 or 4 of them seem to be active on this site. What is that about? I'd rather be turned down than ignored, how hard is it to say "sorry but you're not my type"?

What you need to bear in mind is the fact that for every girl on here, there's 5/6 guys. It's the same on any dating site. You may well perceive it as rude, but on their part, they get a lot of messages per day. To read through them all, then reply to them all, especially when a lot of them just say "hi hw r u" is, well, a ball-ache. If they HAD balls anyway. xD You just need to make sure that your message titles are snappy, you write an interesting message and make sure that they have something to reply to. Also helps to make your profile pretty snappy; generally, they will read your profile before they decide whether to reply or not. So make sure it's a good read.

Work on all that and you should find yourself getting more replies. Just be patient with it and don't expect instant results.

When I used to use this site a lot a few years ago I used to send out dozens of messages to women at a time and didn't get any replies for weeks. I met up with one woman from here once but that was all.

The thing that guys need to know about dating sites is that men usually outnumber women by at least two to one so women get loads of messages and can't reply to them all. And so obviously only reply to men they are interested in who contact them. Therefore don't be surprised guys if you don't get any replies for ages and ages.

Infact if you are guy unless you are incredibly good looking I think it is better not to rely totally on internet dating sites. Try real world meeting women as well. I have managed to get a couple of women's phone numbers just by approaching them when out and about. I posted a few years ago on here about the pick up artist scene which explains how to get dates and phone numbers from women you meet in everyday situations like out at the shops or while walking in the park or while on public transport.

Thats a cute little story you got going on there Greystones. However, way to point out the obvious. The thing about dating sites is mate, that dating sites are shite, because the people on them make them shite.
If you wanna spice up your s e x life.. (because lets face it, thats all any of us are really on here for at the end of the day) then go out and buy yourself a prostitute, if it saves ya the annoyance of trying to get yourself some s e x.
Also, the pickup scene is dead mate. The only way to get a woman is to kidnap one and tie her up in your house But hey don't take my advice.. Go out and try it for yourself