thanks peeps

Chin up girl they are hard to find but there are nice guys out there, you just got to do your best to hunt them down.

Just don't think about finding some one, enjoy your life, be the person you want to be and eventually sometime someone will find you. Good things come to those that wait!
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I have no idea how old you are now?
I am sure others will say the same as me...no its not mad. You had a bad experience early on and its dented your self confidence, and confidence in others.
Dont try to rush into another relationship, if you are feeling lonely, get out and about, make new friends, go to college, whatever floats your boat and keeps your brain active etc.
That way you will meet all sorts of people, not just dickheads, and eventually you will meet a particular young man that captures your heart and mind.
Oh, and being on here is good too!

Well, my good friend was in almost identical situation her boyfriend of 3 years decided to dump her on her 18th.
But...she did almost the opposite and started sleeping with everyone (everyone as in 1 night stands.) She wasnt happy...but y'no.

Anyway shes nearly 20 now, and has been going out with one of my mates for nearly a year? i think as i introduced them, she knows me and trusts me, they seemed to get it off (err as in happy and talkie, not the other way) I know i should be a matchmaker.

So what im saying is, do you have any good male mates?
Worth a shot.

My advice would be to cast your net further, looking for potential boyfriends where your old boyfriend would not be seen dead ... as long as those places are safe, course.

Your problem might be that you are simultaneously looking for someone just like your ex-boyfriend, and being repelled from such a person, because of what your ex-boyfriend did.

Try things like writing down a list of what you disliked about your ex-boyfriend, writing a second list of the opposites of those things and then working out where such a bloke can be found.

Good luck!

You are wrong side of the border if you want to meet a decent lad.

Hi...

I have been hurt by all of my previous boyfriends and like yourself built up a brick wall letting no man in.

There was a guy who noticed it and tried his hardest bless him to try and get past my defences and know the real me... but all that effort came to nothing as i wans't ready to let down my defnces, no matter how right he may have been or me...

i'm now in my 3rd year at uni and have speant all my uni life being single, enjoying nights out with the girls and having fun; regaining a perspective on what is important in life and i figured that not having a man in my life did not mean i was lonely or unhappy.

i have regained my strength to know that a man is notthe be all and end all, and now feel in a position to let a man into my life and perhaps let down my defences because i know that should it all go 'tits up' there is more to life...

if you ant a relationship but have these defences up, i think you need to work past them and realise that there is no need to have them up, because if he hurts you then you have your friends and family... and life is jus as happy with them.

hope this helps x

anyone noticed that if you rearrange the op's name nearly spells snaithman and flick types in the same way ............

What a peculiar post.

They don't type in the same way though.

They can't be snaithman's aliases anyway.
Both flick and samiantha have nice hair, and we all know snaith only wears badly fitting wigs!