Hi all,
Right, I've been pondering this ever since I tried a whole bunch of methods online with dating and im sure some of you out there have too otherwise you wouldnt be here for starters, but why is it so hard to meet any genuine real good guys/gals?

Why?! ill tell you...because the system has been screwed up by the one and many before you. take me for example, normal guy..wouldnt say im perfect or anything, joins the millions online to look for someone whos looking for fun in life as well. this doesnt mean sex, I mean im a red blooded guy and you know when it comes to down to I like sex but at the same time, im not a creap, weirdo, stalker or any of the associated terms. I've tried msg a few girls who I liked sound of and BAM! i get replies assuming im a stalker. Like everything i take it with a pinch of salt but after so many times you start to wonder is this worth it?

I know places like gumtrees dating section have been abused to shreds by nonsense guys/gals and spammmers with pics leaving nothing to the imagination. And if you are lucky enough to have hooked up with someone through there your a miracle in itself. However righly so that alot of the ladies out there already have their guard up when a guy contacts them cause they think hes after one thing, and quite rightly many are solely after that. guys getting contacted by woman happens not very often unless thats just me haha. conclusion the good one or two who try their luck end up being chucked in with the rest.

When your next on that site look at the casual enconter section for guys seeking girls and then look at girls seeking girls and you will see a clear difference which is universal on free ad sites.

With guys for guys and girls for girls i bet there isnt half as much drama cause already theres something established, a connection if you will of chosen lifestyle whereas the alternative is what you are. anyway i think im rambling so im going to stop but if any one out there has anything to add or critcise please come forward as its a sad state of affairs for real good ones in the bunch.

The nature of net dating is you have to plod on mate. It works for some people fairly quickly, but the vast majority just have to keep going.

It is hard to break through the shallow confines [pictures and profiles], also the [sometimes irrational] requirements and expectations people have.

But similar to a lot of things in life, the bullshitters do seem to get on on these sites, making it harder for the more honest people.

But you just have to plod on. The discussion boards has a high percentage of people finding someone, and not sure why it isn't used more.

fair point mate - i find its sometimes a case of damned if you do and damned if u dont - u mention something in a flirty way and they call u a perv and u dont and they cut off communication cos they reckon u aint interested.

Yes, the lack of tone of voice, mannerisms, facial expressions etc. make online dating quite different from the real world. On the face of it online dating would seem simpler, but really it just comes with a different set of complications

Yeah, i know what you mean.

But not all girls are like that. Some people can tell from the word go if you are someone who is looking for a genuine relationship or if you are spammers or someone who is looking for a bit of fun.

Reality is that if you cant find someone straight away, you just keep going with your head high.

I mean, take myself for example, i am 18 and i have single for near enough a year now .. and i have been rejected time and time again, both on dating sites and in real life. The only reason i am still going after each rejection is because i look at it as that it brings me one rejection closer to whoever i am meant to be with

Just hold your head up high my friend and i am sure someone will come soon enough.

A good all round explanation there. I find it a lot with the women on here and either they do not want to talk to you for some reason or they are only on for the fun.

It is I guess a bit of a kick in the balls so to speak but we probably could do with just being ourselves and trying to be as nice as possible. If they are not interested then at the end of the day is that really something we should be worrying about? After all it is there loss right?

Also I have rarely been contacted by any females. I guess it means they want us to do all the hard work haha.

Net dating has it's ups and downs like everything else in life. I've been doing it for about 3 years on and off now and as a whole I can’t really complain. Sometimes it works and sometimes it don’t it depends on what you are looking for really. If you just want to get laid then its perfect really as most of the women that contact me are just out for a bit of casual fun. However if your looking for something long term then that's when the difficulty starts because then you have to work through those differences in personalities, age, goals and late night after sex what you thinking sessions etc etc

Personally I think id fall into the long term category now as ive been there done that ,...problem is finding someone who wants the same !

And if you want to know what someone is really like then get them on the fecking phone, it's pretty easy to work out what someone is really like after the first few sentences lol

in the meantime i'm happy making mates and have found some very good ones

so i'll swap you 3 Ho's for a get to knows

Are you proposing a gf swap-shop? I guess if it works for pokémon...

Blimey Jegs... £100? I must be going cheap then, as last night's date drank my coffee (hmm I guess he paid for his petrol from Halifax to mine).. I must get him to take me somewhere expensive to make up that £96.50.