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14.03.2007, 22:26 quote

Anonymous

You know what I would do ...


What you just typed out ... say to her.

If she is a decent woman she will admire your honesty and also she will know exactly where she stands with you.

Thats what I would do.

 
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14.03.2007, 22:42 quote

Anonymous

Personally I wouldn't mention seeing her online, she might feel like she's being watched or that you're wondering who else she's dating off the internet.

Have met up with one guy online and it concerned me afterwards...he can SEE when I'm checking my messages...prob thinks I've got a man in every port...

Re. 'The Rules': there are none - or there shouldn't be - just go with your natural instinct

 
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14.03.2007, 22:52 quote

Anonymous

Twobitactor wrote:
Cazzabee wrote:
I can see why your confussed. Does seem a bit strange to mention dating site messages!! I think (and this is just my opinion) that she may be trying to play some mindgames with you or letting you know that she is keeping her options open. If you want to then leave it for now but text her over the weekend and ask her if she fancies going out again. And then see what happens during a real convo rather than just a text one


No, its like i saw her online on a dating site that we met on. But instead of messaging on there, said i sent her a text. But it seemed strange that she would still be checking her messages if she has started to date me! But theni guess i wouldnt have been on there either! Oh i dont know Crying or Very sad


Yeah it's a conundrum isn't it, but you have only been out once (am I right?), until you're in an established relationship I think, fair play, tbh.

You could chat about this but it would sound really heavy and bunny-boilerish if after one date you told her you didn't like her being on the dating sites.

 
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15.03.2007, 07:31 quote

Anonymous

Twobitactor wrote:
Cazzabee wrote:
I can see why your confussed. Does seem a bit strange to mention dating site messages!! I think (and this is just my opinion) that she may be trying to play some mindgames with you or letting you know that she is keeping her options open. If you want to then leave it for now but text her over the weekend and ask her if she fancies going out again. And then see what happens during a real convo rather than just a text one


No, its like i saw her online on a dating site that we met on. But instead of messaging on there, said i sent her a text. But it seemed strange that she would still be checking her messages if she has started to date me! But theni guess i wouldnt have been on there either! Oh i dont know Crying or Very sad


Just cos she's checking messages, doesn't mean they're potential boyfriend material. You still come in here!! It doesn't necessarily mean anything. I still get messages, and I check them sometimes when my fellah is here, as do he his.

We've both made friends on dating sites, so no reason to not check messages

Be yourself, do what feels right for you. If she's not comfortable with you being yourself... move on!!!

 
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15.03.2007, 23:25 quote

Anonymous

or she could have been justifying to you why she was one there.

IE she said she was chcking message NOT sending them!

I have done that before - a guy I was seeing saw me online and I fell over myself to explain that I was just checking my messages and letting them down gently Wink

 
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16.03.2007, 09:08 quote

Anonymous

MRious wrote:
the best strategy might be 'wait and see'. wait for a while without texting or messaging. after that time if you get a message then go on. if she meesages it means she cares.


The only problem with that is if she's leaving it to him to show interest initially!!

Took me weeks to realise my fellah was genuinely interested... just cr*p with the texting Confused I just decided that the best thing to do was be me and continue texting when I felt I had something to say.... for example.... 'oi you miserable b*st*rd, I'm not playing this stupid game!!'* Wink





*NB whilst there is a great degree of truth in that, I did know him well enough by then

 
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