how come i cant find a fella ive been single and selebate for four years well basically since my son was born can any one tell me what im doing wrong im always honest and never cheat whats wrong with me

lol@Chelsea comment!.......

Ur probably not doing anything wrong!........Mr Right just hasn't come along yet

Anyways ur still young(I'm not jealous.... much ) u have many years in front of u....don't get hung up on finding a bloke, one will come along probably when ur least expecting it ........Well thats wot I keep telling myself after 2 years of the single life

well unless ur planning on keeping ur son hidden in the attic or sumthing(mmmmmmmmmm...now thats wot i should do wiv my lot) then u have 2 face it that some blokes will run a mile at the thought of kids!....and if they do, then they aren't right 4 u and ur son!!!...

I appreciate how u must feel wiv reguards 2 how much harder it is 2 find a man(use that word loosely ) when u have a child(I know I have 4 ).....but look at it the other way, u'll already weeding the ones out that would never have been any good 4 u anyway! ....lol

There are some men on flirtbox that are looking for women with kids, I suspect some of them may be a bit shy and laking confidence so are not quick in contacting women. Maybe some of the ones that are quick to contact are only after one thing, not all of course.

If a guy legs it because you have a kid..he ain't worth it anyway.

Seeing how we don't know anything at all about you, I guess we don't know why you can't find a guy.

Also, the Chelsea thing could be the problem.

I have dated a few women with kids and it’s been tough sometimes. Some kids, especially if they are needy and like lots of attention from their mothers will take an instant dislike to a “new man” in their life because suddenly the world isn’t going to revolve completely around them anymore. My ex’s 2 girls were in their teens and made things as difficult as they could for me although I did try very hard to make them understand I wasn’t trying to steal their mother away! I wouldn’t say it has put me of dating women with kids but it has made me a little wary as I think it would with anyone who has had a similar experience.

Now I’ve had my say I’m going to bed before the hangover kicks in

Totally agree with what you said about some women with 1or more kids not wanting anymore. Have had relationships where I’ve been told that. Am sort of undecided on the subject myself but just the same it’s nice to have the option, ..kind of takes the wind out of your sails when your told point blank several weeks into a relationship that they don’t want anymore. To be fair though most women do say in advance how they feel about that.

There is also the subject of where the kids father is and what the relationship with him is, but thats a whole new horror story lol

lol i think for some women not wanting any more kids is by necessity rather than choice. i always said i'd have no more than three and no less than two.
i wouldn't have just one child cos i think only children are lonely children.
i wouldn't have more than three cos.. if you have a girl and a boy and then another girl or boy comes along, then the two girls or two boys can share a room and the remaining one can have his/her own. but if you continue..... there's a chance you'll have another boy/girl and have three in the one room. i'm sorry....but houses today just aren't big enough lol.
unless you can buy a major house and have a football team full of them!
and then again there's the worry of how you're going to feed/clothe/educate/support in later life all these kids. and the answer to that is, of course, you can't. unless you are reasonably well off.
and another one is this ( i know i know i could go all day lmao) who is going to mind all these children????? the mother? the father? someone will have to stay home and not work.....for a while anyway......so who's going to nurture and who's going to hunt and gather?

phew..... i have two.... if i meet the right person i may or may not have another one...but just one. and not for a good few years until i've had some of my own life. i gave up my teen years being a mother. (i was sixteen when i gave birth) and i just wanna do well for myself and my kids right now.

now.... if some guy came along and was all sugary sweet until he found out i had kids, i'd laugh at my lucky escape!! my kids are an extension of myself. and if someone doesn't like my kids they don't like me.

ok....rant over lol

see there are so many women out there who don't have dads in their kids lives that they are playing thier cards very close to thier chests indeed. lol.

my kids dad aint seen the kids in over a year n half and that suits me fine.
but i wouldn't be so quick to get pregnant again.... if u see what i mean?

and my rant was not meant to be insulting or snappy. it was just a basic observation i have made.

This is where I come unstuck A younger guy than myself is likely to want kids of his, an older guy is unlikely to want to be bringing up someone else's kids as by then they've usually already done it.

I have 4 children, 2 teenage girls and 2 little boys. They are a part of me ie, I'm a package and it's all or nothing. I don't want a substite father for my kids, just someone who accepts that I am a parent.