how come i cant find a fella ive been single and selebate for four years well basically since my son was born can any one tell me what im doing wrong im always honest and never cheat whats wrong with me

Harsh but possible true

Hang in there Chick... you'll never know what you'll find here.
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lol@Chelsea comment!.......

Ur probably not doing anything wrong!........Mr Right just hasn't come along yet

Anyways ur still young(I'm not jealous.... much ) u have many years in front of u....don't get hung up on finding a bloke, one will come along probably when ur least expecting it ........Well thats wot I keep telling myself after 2 years of the single life

Have a search around there are a fair few thread already about single people looking for relationships that have children.... they contain some great advice.

IMO always be honest in every respect, dont ever hide you have a child. If someone bolts because you have a child then are not the right person for you.

I'm sure someone will point you in the right direction to the other threads....

well unless ur planning on keeping ur son hidden in the attic or sumthing(mmmmmmmmmm...now thats wot i should do wiv my lot) then u have 2 face it that some blokes will run a mile at the thought of kids!....and if they do, then they aren't right 4 u and ur son!!!...

I appreciate how u must feel wiv reguards 2 how much harder it is 2 find a man(use that word loosely ) when u have a child(I know I have 4 ).....but look at it the other way, u'll already weeding the ones out that would never have been any good 4 u anyway! ....lol

There are some men on flirtbox that are looking for women with kids, I suspect some of them may be a bit shy and laking confidence so are not quick in contacting women. Maybe some of the ones that are quick to contact are only after one thing, not all of course.

If a guy legs it because you have a kid..he ain't worth it anyway.

Seeing how we don't know anything at all about you, I guess we don't know why you can't find a guy.

Also, the Chelsea thing could be the problem.

I have dated a few women with kids and it’s been tough sometimes. Some kids, especially if they are needy and like lots of attention from their mothers will take an instant dislike to a “new man” in their life because suddenly the world isn’t going to revolve completely around them anymore. My ex’s 2 girls were in their teens and made things as difficult as they could for me although I did try very hard to make them understand I wasn’t trying to steal their mother away! I wouldn’t say it has put me of dating women with kids but it has made me a little wary as I think it would with anyone who has had a similar experience.

Now I’ve had my say I’m going to bed before the hangover kicks in

I have to say I recently I dated a lady who had a 10 year old son, he was great, and as he was into Xboxes I gave him a load of games that I don’t play any more and we were instantly best mates, his mum would come to get me from playing various Xbox games together. I think she got jealous slightly. I just saw it as something that I should do to try to keep the home as happy as could be.

I would not run if someone has a child any more but I would say it used to be a bit of a scary thought. Saying that 2/3 kids would generally put me off, as I really want to have a child or 2 of my own, and most ladies I have met once they have had 2 or so really don’t want to go through it again.
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Totally agree with what you said about some women with 1or more kids not wanting anymore. Have had relationships where I’ve been told that. Am sort of undecided on the subject myself but just the same it’s nice to have the option, ..kind of takes the wind out of your sails when your told point blank several weeks into a relationship that they don’t want anymore. To be fair though most women do say in advance how they feel about that.

There is also the subject of where the kids father is and what the relationship with him is, but thats a whole new horror story lol