what do you think about redating an ex a few years on do you think like yeh go for it, it could be different, or no theres a reason why they are an ex

Well done on this topic, very much something I've been wondering recently.
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I got in touch with my feminine side. She emailed me back saying if I ever contacted her again she'd call the police.

Personally I wouldn't redate an ex. They were an ex for a reason and I think those reasons would always be there, for me anyway. I'm sure it works for some though.
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redating an ex? I would do it, but thats because all (apart from one) of my ex's are now my closest friends. If you get on, and didnt fight when you were together then there is no reason why it couldnt work. having said that if you had a bad break up then dating that person again wouldnt be advised
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I think it would depend entirely on why you split up in the first place. Don't forget, you will have both grown up atleast a little since then, well, maybe

I wouldn't redate any of my ex's, because each and every one of them f'ked me over in one way or another - which i still get paranoid about now, which is why i'm rediculously choosy about who i message on here, i have to seriously like someone before i'd even consider asking them out. (don't take that the wrong way..)

If it was something trivial like.. being ignored around his mates, or immaturity, then those are things that can be dealt with.

I guess the only true way to know, is by going for it, but take it slowly and don't get your hopes up because if the reason's you split up the first time round are still there so to speak, you could end up feeling silly or worse still,getting hurt - not just emotionally..

That, is my 2p's worth.
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Hell no! Can of worms thats best left alone. Live life without looking back. Whats done is done and thanks for the memorys but just going back is like wearing a pair of shoes that dont fit right. You may have invested time and effort into them but no matter how good they look if they dont fit right your only hurting yourself and should trade them in for a new pair that does what you want and gives you what you need. Does that make any sense?

it all depends on how the split came about, as for me the splits were all amicable and i would date each and everyone of them again lol im such a nuisance aint i ?
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I wouldn't, but that's not to say it doesn't work for others. My ex hubby went back to a previous lover after 18 years of marriage to me.........BUT they were together for 13 years then he left her for NOBODY so I guess one has to decide if 13 years was a success for them most of that time to have made it worthwhile for them to have become lovers a second time around or not.
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the reason why i asked this qusetion is because i was at a house party with an ex who i havnt seen in years and a mutual friend has been trying to set us up, at the party he asked me out but i didnt realy say yes or no just kinda put it off, i used to work with the guy years ago we were good mates and then dated only for a few months before we realised we got on better as just friends but i havnt seen him since he left work few years ago til now.

I think that's slightly more complicated than normal. If you got on better as friends then, do you think you've both changed enough for it to work as more than that?
I guess it wouldn't hurt to try. It might not work, but then you might rediscover a great friend again.
If it does work out, all is great!
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I got in touch with my feminine side. She emailed me back saying if I ever contacted her again she'd call the police.

I do think that when you're young and a relationship doesn't work with somebody, that it can work another time around but it really depends on what the issues were that casued the relationship to end before.

Under 25 s (for example) are often still 'finding themeselves' and are more likely to have changed than older people that are fequently set in their ways.

There are a lot of things that can change about somebody that's linked more to experience and maturity BUT if it's more about their personality in terms of being agressive, addictive, obsessive etc. then those are MAJOR issues and I'd have my doubts
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I would & I am still hoping Of course it depends on why you split up in the first place, I'd say take a chance, if you dont you will always be wondering, what if?

I think it really depends on the relationship you too had. My two last relationships finished because one of us were going to live to another country..He definetly left everything behind for a crappy job at venta de oro. In that case, to tell you the truth, I would consider dating them again if I met them..On the otherside there are these love and hate relationships that never end up fine and if that is the case, don´t date him again. You want to believe it can work out, but in the end you will see that it doesnt. We are who we are, we dont change that much!You can do better than that!Look for another guy, you´ll find him!!