well lets start im andy and im 40 and i have been seeing this girl from wales and she is 23 we both have kids and we see each other atleased once a month but i would like her to come live with me?

so here is the problem,

about three weeks ago i went down to see her and we went out shopping and spent time together and everything seemed cool. but after the following weekend she stopped texting me and she would not return my texts, i called her and no responce. i text but no responce and when i did finnaly get in contact she said she was to busy to text.

right she has a friend who she has known for manny years and he is in the army and every few months he comes home and when he does he will spend time with her, they also both have kids at the same age and he is single but she says he is a friend and thats all??? the kids play together and they go out and they have the same friends and sometimes not offten they go out together to a friends and get drunk.....

should i worry?
should i just give up on her?
should i fight and see whats going on?
can anyone help please as it is driving me mad.
i trust her but should i?

Hello

Let see she do not reply for your texts and calls.

She have a "friend".

From my experience if girl have no time to text U she just simply don't want serious relationship with U. Simply she just don't care.

She will come back to U after her "friend" will go back to army but she will probably only using.

No one cant make decision for U. Follow your heart but be careful.

In my opinion give up and move on. If she don't care about your feelings why U should care about her.

All best

Simon

Hiya and welcome!

its kinda strange how when you were down everythin was ok and as soon as her "friend" comes back that all changes! id say if you want to be with her confront her and ask her straight out!

but i think that you shud move on the fact that she can just brush you aside without thinkin about ur feelings isnt very nice!

its not worth the heartache especially as you obv stay a bit away trust wud b a issue aswell!

hope it works out andy!

watch out fot the much younger lady that need a suporting "daddy"
u suport her
the other,her ass

it's a verry "normal" thing in our days when young ladies look for "stability", into a older guy
but they ,often shagg the younger one that has "amazing" things to say, about shooting people..
these are "cool" for them. get them excited

what about a 30-45 years old lady ?
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There are only very few reasons anybody can be excused for not responding to contact if you are involved in a relationship with them, as far as i am concerned they are;

a.) they are physically not capable of responding to the contact (incapacitated)

b.) they have no money or means to make that contact.

Any other reason that I can think of so far, would just seem as an excuse. I may be wrong about that, perhaps other people can think of other reasons (I am always willing to admit I might be wrong since I am not a computer) but saying you are too busy to respond to a repeated request via even just a text which takes 20 seconds is bullshit. Any person who tries that one on me would be dropped like a hot potato because I been down that road before and I know what I want from a partner and that isnt it! I dont expect people to respond to texts straight away, but I do expect some contact back within a reasonable time frame. This is all assuming I was in a relationship with them and not just a casual fling.

Best of luck to you.

scotty is right, if ur honest with yourself i think you know whats going on. Dont chase her move on you can always find another one, the world had 8 billion people in it these days.

wakey wakey. obviously after you had met she had alot of thinking to do, chances are she came to the conclusion that you weren right for her and thought the easiest avenue to go down is to ignore you till you go away. im guessing she probably either had enough of your harrasement asking her whats wrong etc or she felt sorry for that you couldn put 2 and 2 together but didn want the confrontation of having to say so, so she made up some excuse about some guy etc in the hope you would just let it go without questioning. when a girl decides not to reply she isnt interested, save your money and stop texting/calling coz your flogging a dead donkey

im very sorry if this seemed harsh but i dont do sugar coating. i just tell it as i see it. its your choice to take offence or respect my honesty, i hope its the latter

Hi, I am sorry things are not going to well,
can I say though, I am terrible for texting back, I forget, fall asleep and where I live signal will come and go for hours at a time.
By the time the signal is back, and i am not checking it all the time, I have inverably forgotten, but then i pay for a landline too, as the signal is so bad, so can be reached

On the flip side, being a mum is a job and a half, and you never quite know what is going to hit you next.
I very recently had a very nasty event; a social worker turned up and told me, my daughter may have been sexually interfered with, by someone that lives 2 minutes away. For a week, I just ignored my phone, especially messages as I had more important things to be dealing with, (and some anger issues to work through) my friends know i am busy, and things come up so will ring me on the home phone or email me, That said being a girl, I am prone to hormally whims and will turn everything off and take a bath or watch a soppy movie when i feel the need,

sorry to go on, however some of the men seem to think he has to be a bad sign.
That said if i want to be with someone, i will always get in touch, even if it is to say, something is wrong ineed some space - time

good luck with it anyways
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stef

Just wondering why you joined a dating site 3 weeks ago ???

I'm surprised no-one pointed out the obvious..

She see's her 'friend' once every few months, is it possible that she thought you might understand her spending time with him as she doesn't get to see him that often ?

Have you actually met her children ? if so, she must trust you a certain amount - i certianly wouldn't introduce my son to someone i didn't trust..

If she texts you, do you stop and reply straight away ?
have you never forgotten to reply to a text ?
if you haven't, your a better person than i am !

I am notorius for 'over thinking' things but even i can sometimes see a simple reason amongst the gloom..
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If it was implied that it was just one text that she'd ignored I'd agree with you, especially as I know I've sent texts that have never never arrived or arrived hours later at times. But it appears to have been several and then a call unanswered. Just seems that she needs someone to fill the gaps when her friend is away.

As it's almost a month since he wrote I wonder how he did react.
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I personally would move on she playing lil girl games its not worth ur time if she really cared she would of stop by now u know friends dont get drunk just to get drunk there def doing something and she doesn't want to tell u the truth DNR bother so u DNt get hurt if she cares she will come looking 4 u