You can meet someone who is drop dead gorgeous and think "Yes!" but then as you get to know them and their personality is awful, or they don't have one, then that can point you off.

However, as far as internet dating is concerned, or if you meet someone in person then there has to be that instant attraction and that is usually what the eye sees.

But you do need both, eventually

Looks have got to come first, after all if i didn't fancy a guy then i wouldn't ever start talking to them! What's really horrible is when you fall for a personality online and they aint exactly good looking, you know you just wont be seen with them in public so have to forget about them!

Well I can honestly say that I hope for her sake she never gets skin cancer on her face or loses an eye....or worse still, falls for a lovely chap here online, he falls for her then when he meets her in person decides the camera does after all lie and in his opinion she is too hideously ugly or fat in real life to be seen in public with and dumps her.


Lady, hasnt it occurred to you yet that what you might think is a dashingly handsome great personality man, someone is seeing you two together in public and saying to themself or others behind your back "What the F does she see in him???" and vice versa......its the way of the world.
What you are saying is that no matter what, you need to show off what is dangling off your arm, but someone somewhere will not be impressed no matter what you think.

Of course, you could be saying you'd rather have summat pretty to look at rather than enjoy the company,, when being seen by friends to impress.....in which case, you go girl knock yerself out.

I think the two go hand in hand. Looks might catch your eye over a crowded bar but if they behave like a wet weekend in Hull then the attraction is not going to go further than physical.


*wonders how many times I have answered this question on here over the last few years with same answer but different wording*

Well Claudia I must have read it different from you then. I read it as "I wouldn't be seen in public with him if it turned out he aint exactly good looking, in real life."
That is how I paraphrase it anyways.
Of course I may be wrong. I might have missed something.
What I can understand is falling for/being keen on someone when you get to know him online, then when you meet for real there just is no spark there, but that has nothing to do with 'aint exactly good looking' or minding being seen in public with him.

I see you have changed your pic Jeg, hoping for a better result?

I was just making suggestions about other ways of thinking about things when i mentioned the scrabble etc but seems you made your mind up on what was the cause of your rejection.