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21.01.2009, 18:36 quote

bb89
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Ummm, well,
It's half & half.
Some people say looks usually spark the interest.
But, its personality that makes it last....

Other people say that looks can make the good first
expression especially meeting someone new....

They both play a vital role at different stages.
I'm just not sure. (It's hard to pick).

(Voice all your opinions)
Which will you choooooooose ?

 

21.01.2009, 19:29 quote

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There is no "choose". If you are serious about the person, its the personality that does, although attraction is also important, but that doesnt necassarily mean the person has to be good looking by most people's standards. I'm well aware I'm no oil painting, yet I know some girl's find me attactive.
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21.01.2009, 19:35 quote

kadushu

Bank balance

 

21.01.2009, 19:54 quote

bb89
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So fireinmyheart had replied:
1. If you serious with the person or not.
= I agreed.
2. Attraction plays important part also.
= I agreed.
3. First 4 fours woords "They is no choose"
= I agreed.
They both play a vital role at different stages.

I change the subject.
Look vs Personality OR you need them both ????

 

21.01.2009, 19:59 quote

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Mate I was'nt critisizing you! Sorry if it seemed that way. Sad

So yes you need 'em both. But that doesnt nessacarilly mean "good" looks. I have found many girls attractive, who probably wouldnt be considered attactive by the majority. In fact I'd say being into someone's personality can make them attractive to you.
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21.01.2009, 20:30 quote

bb89
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No worries.
You gave me thought....not "choose" but "both".

I TOTALLY agreed with man.
So I was like not sure in the begining
because what different people say.
I TOTALLY agree with you now....they should use both.

This interesting.....have you ever come accross with a Beautifull girl but she not you type ?

Here's a next questionn by picking your type of
girl-Is that discrimination in a way ? I'm puzzle.

 

21.01.2009, 20:30 quote

bb89
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No worries.
You gave me thought....not "choose" but "both".

I TOTALLY agreed with man.
So I was like not sure in the begining
because what different people say.
I TOTALLY agree with you now....they should use both.

This interesting.....have you ever come accross with a Beautifull girl but she not you type ?

Here's a next questionn by picking your type of
girl-Is that discrimination in a way ? I'm puzzle.

 

21.01.2009, 21:22 quote

fireinmyheart
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bb89 wrote:
This interesting.....have you ever come accross with a Beautifull girl but she not you type ?



Yep, loads of times. Beauty isnt everything, despite what the media tell us.
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21.01.2009, 21:54 quote

kadushu

Picking isnt discriminating, its just having a preference. We do that everyday

 

22.01.2009, 00:06 quote

audacious89

hmm neither... it's the chemistry. without that, they could be the most beautiful person with the best personality, but if the chemistry isn't there then it's just not going to work Very Happy

 

22.01.2009, 03:23 quote

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Joined: 21 Jan 2009 Posts: 2 Location: United Kingdom, England, Nottinghamshire
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What you need from a person!
A good kind hearted person, good looks, personality,fun type of person, down to earth type of person that can be very hard to find on here! A good communicator essential! A honest person, a person that will take you for who you are no matter whatand not leaste but TRUST! Hey be nice to me guys i'm new here and no i don't want to join facebook been there done it got the tee shirt etc lol.

What you don't want
Ugly people, liars, players, cheats, users, people with high egos of themselves. That's me for now

 

22.01.2009, 04:07 quote

leezeelee

Hmmmm.

I think that natural physical attraction plays a part to start off with but after a while the personality slips through to provide a better picture of that individual.

So to answer the question, both . But i think the percentages change in each individual case depending of the nurture of that individual.

Too much psych crap for this time in the morning Laughing

 

22.01.2009, 05:39 quote

koyelmitra

physical beauty is important to me but not more important than personality.

 

22.01.2009, 09:25 quote

jeggae
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Of course both matter, however I think with most people looks matter more then personality. Of course looks and physical attraction are subjective, but you can generalise. But most people wont admit it as its seen as shallow, which it probably is.

In my experience, most people will accept good looks and not so good personality far more then not so good looks and great personalty.

This is more then evident on internet dating forums.

 

22.01.2009, 12:39 quote

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Lots of interesting posts here, you all have very valid poiunts, especially Audacious, you're right, chemistry is key.

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