yea and if she sticks her hands down your pants and rubs you affectionatly , then you know it's a sure thing!

Just ask her if she is interested in you or not. That is not hard to do.

http://www.ehow.com/how_4641_know-someone-likes.html


in behaviour it looks like you got steps 1, 3, 4 and possibly 6 sorted.

in bodylanguage i guess only you can identify what steps you have got sorted.

i am in agreement with dr beat, if she asks you to go someplace to socialise with her then you pretty much know she likes you enough to want to be alone with you. play it by ear at the next night out, try n pick up on any signals, and maybe you should ask her out for the next time, if you like her that is.

and heres some non verbal ways of telling if somebody likes you

http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/singles_and_dating/techniques_flirting.shtml

a across the room at you is always a good sign to jump on it.

The trouble with body language is that it can be absolute bollocks.

Unless you pay close attention to it, your subconscious seems to just carry on regardless as far as body language is concerned. Its like you go into autopilot and your brain is saying 'Shit yeah! Do the leaning in thing! What do you mean you don't like her? Yeah, right. You'll dance to our tune thankyouverymuch! This is our turf rational mind, back off!', so its very easy for the wrong signals to get given off without you even realising it. So consequently, even if you are looking out for 'all the signs' there is a good chance that you're going to read too much into all anyway.

Keeping an eye on body language is great, but some people are just as inept at giving off the right body language as they are at interpreting it.

A surefire indicator is what he/she says in combination with whatever body language they give out. It doesn't take much to determine if someone isn't interested when the conversation becomes laboured and they're mentally shuffling their feet while you're talking. Even better, make sure you leave first and check the reaction. Spring it on them, not when theres a natural break in the conversation, and do it even if you are having fun, if the interest is there then you can be sure you'll be having fun again soon anyway. (And it saves on time/drinks into the bargain.)


Next Week: The Worlds 100 Most Laboured MSN Conversations. Or How I Learned To Stop Worrying And Love The LOL.

The sad thing is it can and often works. Reverse psychology is a bitch. If you were gutted and you really, really liked the guy you'd either try to stop him or make a second attempt, or at the very least be perplexed (which is half the battle).

How many times have you sat there with a man and hes pretty much dug his own grave? Hes gone on and on and on, trying to exploit every angle to try and impress you? Compliments, humour, showing off etc. By which time you've gone from liking the guy, in a casual 'this could be interesting' sort of way, to making an excuse to go to the loo just so you can climb out of the window. When a bloke cuts it short its a rabbit punch and it makes you stop and think, and as stupid as it may sound it can and does work.

Anything that gets the cogs turning.

I understand what you mean but what about if you both were having a great night and you did that and then you rang and she said 'sorry .... werent you the guy that fekked off as we were having a great time, mid conversation'.

Thats a really risky game to play - I think everyone has v fragile egos when it comes to dating and that would feel too much like a brush off.

Yup. Its a gamble, and its not like you're cutting the girl (or guy for that matter) off mid-sentence and making for the exit. You've got to find the right time.

Personally I think that unless there is some serious obvious chemistry there then its best to cut the first contact off prematurely just so you know where you stand. If its obvious that they want you to stick around, then you make an excuse; 'Oh go on then, it can wait a few minutes', if not then make a move.

Blokes have a horrible habit of trying to make women like them. You either like someone or you don't, and if its all a front that'll soon get seen through. Better to be the one doing the choosing really, but thats just me.

I would rather people were just honest.

If there is chemistry then stay and flirt your heart out ..... if there isn't then let them down gently.

I hate all the games that go with dating ....... the shall I call, shall I let them know I fancy them, shall I put myself on the line, shall I marry with thier heads games.

To be honest I am getting tired of it all - I am also tired of the ones that give it large for ages with you and then you never hear from them again, just a little honesty and less mind games would make it easier for everyone!

Sorry if that sounds like a rant.

I couldn't agree more. The dating games needs more honesty, but I can't see it ever happening. As once you go down the honesty route its like opening Pandora's Box.

People need the games (and I'm not afraid of including myself here) as in a way its a sort of psychological airbag. I've been honest with people from the get go and its got me burned on many an occasion. Now I'm hopelessly addicted to the games side because apart from letting you 'punch above your weight' its fun, in a sick sort of way.

Honesty is great, and I'd love to see more people being honest when it comes to this sort of thing, but its rarely reciprocal, and therein lies the problem. You often end up getting burned by the dishonest ones. So sadly the games are (for me at least) a necessary evil.

you see that is what gets me!

How can playing with someones emotions be 'fun'.

Sorry Chai I am not having a go at you directly but i just recently got 'played' by an absolute pro and I never saw it coming and after being on the receiving end of it I could never do it to anyone.

I only ever started doing it after having it done to me continually. It was simply a case of if you can't beat 'em, join 'em. Perhaps not the best attitude to take, but its all down to protecting yourself.

Lets face it, your emotions as far as relationships are concerned are your most valuable and easiest to damage. Nobody likes rejection, no matter how much you get used to it. I just decided to get mercenary about the proceedings. I don't go out to hurt people, I got out with the intention of not getting hurt myself.

The only fun to be had is the interaction. Call it a more pro-active version of people-watching. Its made even more fun when someone is wise to it all and plays you back in the appropriate fashion. Thats where the fun is, not in screwing people over. I make it plain very early on if its not going to go anywhere, and I'm pretty fussy, which probably explains why I've ended up here. The irony isn't lost on me.

I know what you mean about being too choosy! I suffer from the same affliction, still cannot work out why George Clooney has not rung!

Back to the mind games - they are fine as long as people are on the same page - and preferably face to face, and as part of the flirting game it is great, it is when they are played to hurt and to score points that I hate it!