This girl asked me to go with her to the pub after work and we went and was wondering when your at a bar wiht a girl, what are some non verbal ways a girl can show interest in you??.



btw, nothing happened. We walked to our cars she said "it was fun and we have to do it again sometime" aka never. haha
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usually, if they look at you at few times, catch their eye, and give her a smile, if she smiles back, its usually a decent sign....eye contact is always a good thing

If she repeatedly touches you in an affectionate and non sexual way. like gently putting her hand on your upper arm and rubbing it now and again.

If a girl asked me to go to the pub out of the blue, I would take that as a sign that she was at least slightly interested

yea and if she sticks her hands down your pants and rubs you affectionatly , then you know it's a sure thing!

Just ask her if she is interested in you or not. That is not hard to do.

http://www.ehow.com/how_4641_know-someone-likes.html


in behaviour it looks like you got steps 1, 3, 4 and possibly 6 sorted.

in bodylanguage i guess only you can identify what steps you have got sorted.

i am in agreement with dr beat, if she asks you to go someplace to socialise with her then you pretty much know she likes you enough to want to be alone with you. play it by ear at the next night out, try n pick up on any signals, and maybe you should ask her out for the next time, if you like her that is.

and heres some non verbal ways of telling if somebody likes you

http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/singles_and_dating/techniques_flirting.shtml

a across the room at you is always a good sign to jump on it.

I got to lazy to persue the girl the day after.
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..and you wonder why you're using FLirtbox The key give away is 'mirroring' it's basically if he/she copies your actions - drinks when you drink, scartches her head when you do. We tend to do that when we identify with / like or want to grab hold of someone. I tend to watch that from afar but it's a neon sign for sure.

The trouble with body language is that it can be absolute bollocks.

Unless you pay close attention to it, your subconscious seems to just carry on regardless as far as body language is concerned. Its like you go into autopilot and your brain is saying 'Shit yeah! Do the leaning in thing! What do you mean you don't like her? Yeah, right. You'll dance to our tune thankyouverymuch! This is our turf rational mind, back off!', so its very easy for the wrong signals to get given off without you even realising it. So consequently, even if you are looking out for 'all the signs' there is a good chance that you're going to read too much into all anyway.

Keeping an eye on body language is great, but some people are just as inept at giving off the right body language as they are at interpreting it.

A surefire indicator is what he/she says in combination with whatever body language they give out. It doesn't take much to determine if someone isn't interested when the conversation becomes laboured and they're mentally shuffling their feet while you're talking. Even better, make sure you leave first and check the reaction. Spring it on them, not when theres a natural break in the conversation, and do it even if you are having fun, if the interest is there then you can be sure you'll be having fun again soon anyway. (And it saves on time/drinks into the bargain.)


Next Week: The Worlds 100 Most Laboured MSN Conversations. Or How I Learned To Stop Worrying And Love The LOL.

The sad thing is it can and often works. Reverse psychology is a bitch. If you were gutted and you really, really liked the guy you'd either try to stop him or make a second attempt, or at the very least be perplexed (which is half the battle).

How many times have you sat there with a man and hes pretty much dug his own grave? Hes gone on and on and on, trying to exploit every angle to try and impress you? Compliments, humour, showing off etc. By which time you've gone from liking the guy, in a casual 'this could be interesting' sort of way, to making an excuse to go to the loo just so you can climb out of the window. When a bloke cuts it short its a rabbit punch and it makes you stop and think, and as stupid as it may sound it can and does work.

Anything that gets the cogs turning.

I understand what you mean but what about if you both were having a great night and you did that and then you rang and she said 'sorry .... werent you the guy that fekked off as we were having a great time, mid conversation'.

Thats a really risky game to play - I think everyone has v fragile egos when it comes to dating and that would feel too much like a brush off.

Yup. Its a gamble, and its not like you're cutting the girl (or guy for that matter) off mid-sentence and making for the exit. You've got to find the right time.

Personally I think that unless there is some serious obvious chemistry there then its best to cut the first contact off prematurely just so you know where you stand. If its obvious that they want you to stick around, then you make an excuse; 'Oh go on then, it can wait a few minutes', if not then make a move.

Blokes have a horrible habit of trying to make women like them. You either like someone or you don't, and if its all a front that'll soon get seen through. Better to be the one doing the choosing really, but thats just me.