a question for the ladies : what will u do if someone wants sex at the first date?

Does that have to be just a lady's opinion? What about if the lady wants it on the first date and the bloke would rather wait? And what if its a same gender date?
Depends on why you are asking?
There are several threads on here already that really answer that question in a roundabout way - are you just trying to find out which lady to hit on for quick results? Heehee.

Ok - if things went really well between us and we obviously 'clicked' I would be flattered perhaps.
If things were lukewarm between us to say the least I might be a little offended that the guy couldnt even read the social clues with no green light flashing, you know?
If he was cute and sweet about asking I wouldn't be offended, but if he was arrogant like he expected it then I would be annoyed.
(yes I've met all of the above in my time).

So it depends on the situation, the chemistry between us, his attitude about it etc.

But ultimately, the answer you are looking for, is I would be saying no, no matter how gorgeous he was just cuz I don't believe in leaping before I've had a damn good look, I dont believe in instant gratification....but you'd know that already from my many other posts here hehe.

And that's my own personal answer, not commenting on anyone else's just-as-valid opposing points of view, before I get jumped on again.

Hey ROCKET....u r right but am talking about a man and a lady ... so what do u think?

Bottom line?

If the lady feels the same way inclined, the guy gets lucky.
If she doesn't, he won't.
Unless he can persuade her different, but then she might regret it the next day.

Time someone else said summat?

one told me if the lady accepts, means she's cheap
i don't agree. what about u?

why wouldn't u do it? even if u like the guy?

I think I've said this before somewhere here....
If you start the race at the finish line with the trophy in your hand, where are you going to run to, and for what incentive?

I dont really want to bare my soul to all and sundry on here - yet again - I've already been accused of having victorian values, up my own arse, taking the moral high ground.....yawn yawn, lets just say that I am nearly 42 yrs old and have been around the block enough and am emotionally stable enough by now to have set some personal boundaries for various reasons along the way.
Each to their own.

there is nothing to be upset with...am new to this site so i don't know what u have been accused for.... anyway i appreciate ur way of thinking. u r so wise

Nah, not upset in the least! See?

I see you joined today - hi and welcome to the boards, nice to see a new face, so to speak.

You will find we are a varied lot, with a wide range of opinions on various subjects!!

Hope you have fun here, it's never dull, for sure.

PS If you read enough of the other threads you'll probably get a fair idea of the answers you might get to your original question on this one.

ok...it's nice to chat with u anyway..
u r the first person with whom am chatting here

To be honest its all down to the person, how well you know them, feel connected to them. I wouldn't be totally put off, depending on the signals i had felt i had given.

meh, ...i'd say thanks