The exes of a potential date, or your current squeeze?
Just curious. If you meet someone and really, really like them, then found out that they'd had a lot of one-night-stands etc. and you clocked it up - would you drop 'em like a hot brick or not mind?
It's just something that came up in my thoughts.
Most blokes think that they'd steer well clear of a woman who's worked as a prostitute, or "Escort" but is it a case of "I dont want to know her because she made money out of sharing her body with other men" or is it "X amount of partners too many for me thanks"?
Surely it cant be a case of worrying what diseases she might give you, because a person can get aids/genital warts/gonorrhea etc losing their virginity. Another person can have 50,000 sexual partners and never get anything nasty.
A chap I know aged 36 and a virgin (yes a sheltered very religious upbringing) had a huge problem accepting the woman of his dreams had 2 kids - even though there was no question of her having been a slapper, he can't deal with knowing he's not her first - so, girls and boys, what's too many exes for you to accept?
And if you dont find out til 6 months down the line and you're madly in love, then your partner suddenly admits s/he's had X amount of partners in the past, do you dump them?
Or are people here being totally honest (the blokes especially) when they say they dont view women who like one-night-stands as Undateable slappers?
Really? She's had at least 50 fellas in her bed that you know of - is she dateable? Or is the deciding factor whether she earned a few bob for her body or gave it away free 'just having fun' like what the lads do?
I am not making judgment one way or tuther here, I am kind of 'outside looking in' when I ask.
Just curious, is all.

Its a thing that, in the past anyway, has always bothered men more then women. Its the old story of men being a stud and women being a bike

Wouldn't bother me as most of my life has been casual, so haven't really got a past as far as relationships are concerned. I feel uneasy when women ask me about past relationships.

But relationships are probably about two people wanting to be together and the same things, and working at it as individuals, maybe one has to work a bit harder though . Also total acceptance of each other, so that probably means what went on in the past.

Everyone has a different opinion about this which is good to know. Means that 'society' has no blanket rule. I was asking because while I knew that there would be no hard and fast answer, its a matter of personal opinion, I was curious as to whether 'society' has shaped people's opinions, and its good to see that no it hasnt. People still have their own sets of values/morals/thoughts and each and every one is as valid as the next.
I like that. Its reassuring we are all individuals with individual mindsets.

Ten people, ten different answers? Yep, thats why I asked.
It would be a very short - and boring - thread if we all agreed entirely on one specific issue, and there were no gray areas.
Its really interesting to hear different points of view and how it doesnt have to descend into a free for all like some topics.

I have not read all the posts as yet but will do after this. I personally, if I was to be honest would have to say I wouldn't stay with someone who has had as many as 50. I probably would look into a maximum of a small few but that is it.

If I did not find out till something like 6 months down the line I am not sure what or how I would feel. Don't think I will stay with either of them.

The distinction between someone who does this freely and not so freely in my book is exploitation. One is freely exploiting her body for sexual gratification and the other is doing this as a means to an end, or perhaps to feed their drug problem.

The problem with prostitution of today is that the media is glamourising this subject thus making some females think there is a good life to be made from it. If you are lucky then yes but there are not so many lucky women out there, I will not say much more.

As I said in my previous post. Its probably a thing that worries men more then women, that can maybe be seen with some of the posts, and might be a bit odd.

I have known women that have slept around with numerous men [village bike ]. Who have met someone and settled down into a relationship, and been very committed and not looked at another man. Alternitavly I have known men who have slept with loads of women [village stud ]. Who have settled down into a relationship, but nearly always slept around and cheated numerous times.

So maybe is a bit odd it worries men more. Wonder if its because they dont trust fellow men rather then women?

"People always say 'oh but you can't enjoy it if its not with someone you love', bollocks"

Well, yes that must be bollocks for lots of people, because lots of people love one-night-stands.

That probably really equates with "shouldn't, because thats how society/family has brought us up" rather than meaning "can't"? Or 'won't consider enjoying it without love". Or simply don't get the pleasure (emotionally) that they seek if love is not involved?

Just questions, I'm not making any factual statements here, just rambling thoughts.
Actually, I could publish a book called "Conundrums: How to disappear down your own navel" and just have printed on the pages within a whole list of all these questions, get the reader to answer each one themselves.....then at the end of the book I could give my phone number and list of charges for psychotherapy.