The exes of a potential date, or your current squeeze?
Just curious. If you meet someone and really, really like them, then found out that they'd had a lot of one-night-stands etc. and you clocked it up - would you drop 'em like a hot brick or not mind?
It's just something that came up in my thoughts.
Most blokes think that they'd steer well clear of a woman who's worked as a prostitute, or "Escort" but is it a case of "I dont want to know her because she made money out of sharing her body with other men" or is it "X amount of partners too many for me thanks"?
Surely it cant be a case of worrying what diseases she might give you, because a person can get aids/genital warts/gonorrhea etc losing their virginity. Another person can have 50,000 sexual partners and never get anything nasty.
A chap I know aged 36 and a virgin (yes a sheltered very religious upbringing) had a huge problem accepting the woman of his dreams had 2 kids - even though there was no question of her having been a slapper, he can't deal with knowing he's not her first - so, girls and boys, what's too many exes for you to accept?
And if you dont find out til 6 months down the line and you're madly in love, then your partner suddenly admits s/he's had X amount of partners in the past, do you dump them?
Or are people here being totally honest (the blokes especially) when they say they dont view women who like one-night-stands as Undateable slappers?
Really? She's had at least 50 fellas in her bed that you know of - is she dateable? Or is the deciding factor whether she earned a few bob for her body or gave it away free 'just having fun' like what the lads do?
I am not making judgment one way or tuther here, I am kind of 'outside looking in' when I ask.
Just curious, is all.

It depends on the morals of the person concerned. You can't give a blanket answer.

I'm not a jealous person. At least I try not to be. I don't think I would have a problem as long as it wasn't in my face all the time. If my boyfriend had moved from somewhere else and his past conquests were miles away I would be fine with it, but if they were on my door step I don't know if I could handle that.

If we had been together sometime I wouldn't break-up with them, but if I saw some women that had slept with my boyfriend every day it would certainly be very difficult for my ego to let the relationship carry on.

Well I guess part of the answer is that if you're looking for a long-term relationship with someone, and they've had loads of partners, then what was the reason for it? Are they incapable of actually having a relationship, were they unlucky or were they young and just after fun at the time? ie is it an indicator of whether your relationship will work?

Why would you want to ask them in the first place? I wouldn't be rushing to know how many men she had slept with, and wouldn't care if she felt the need to tell me(although the question would be why do you need to tell them?). It's all about the here and now, and so long as there aren't STDs, it's all good.

I think it's just a question of being clean (as in healthy) and one of "if they had so many one nite stands, what makes you think you're not a short thing?"

If you're not and they're clean... Then I don't see the problem. Am I superficial?
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Sexual history doesn't really matter to me, what they have done in the past has no relation to a current relationship. All I ask is that person remains faithful and only ever slept with me after getting into a relationship with me. We can't condemn people for their pasts, just because people happen to like casual sex doesn't make them a bad person. Although I would never ask such a question in the first place!

Its a thing that, in the past anyway, has always bothered men more then women. Its the old story of men being a stud and women being a bike

Wouldn't bother me as most of my life has been casual, so haven't really got a past as far as relationships are concerned. I feel uneasy when women ask me about past relationships.

But relationships are probably about two people wanting to be together and the same things, and working at it as individuals, maybe one has to work a bit harder though . Also total acceptance of each other, so that probably means what went on in the past.

Everyone has a different opinion about this which is good to know. Means that 'society' has no blanket rule. I was asking because while I knew that there would be no hard and fast answer, its a matter of personal opinion, I was curious as to whether 'society' has shaped people's opinions, and its good to see that no it hasnt. People still have their own sets of values/morals/thoughts and each and every one is as valid as the next.
I like that. Its reassuring we are all individuals with individual mindsets.