In another thread in this part of the forum, someone mentioned how their partner ‘changed’ about 4 months into their relationship (I quickly hasten to add that this post is NOT directed at that person, just a wee waffle that sprang to mind)

Unfortunately most people ‘change’ when they get 3 – 6 months into a relationship. Well, the reality is that they often haven’t changed at all – it just appears that someone has changed, because this is the period when one notices the things that they don’t like about the other person, usually due to this being the period when they notice the things about each other that they find irritating – irritation is the thief of many a relationship. This period is also when one (or both people) start to weigh up the benefits of being with someone compared to what they had when they were on their own, and it is also the time frame in which the lovey dovey romance is replaced with afore-mentioned discovery of irritating things about the new partner. Relationships (and the people in them) are dynamic, one needs to adjust when the dynamics change. If the long term benefits of continuing the relationship benefit both people, they will work on the problems. If the benefits are one-sided, it usually means means moving on.

People don't 'change' a few months into a relationship. They have the same irritating habits, incompatible views, bullish behaviour and selfish manner that they have always had. It takes a few months to actually notice them. Sadly, it only takes a few minutes to forget all the good points about someone, and rub their face in a steaming pile of their faults.

Beware, beware, the 3 – 6 month itch……

I have had my random mid-morning wafflle.....

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so true ...


that is why people should really get to know a person before they go on a relationship

Wish I could get to the 3 month stage, let alone the 6 month one
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lol getting to 6 months would be an achievement for me ! unfortunately i have 0 self confidense so most of my bad habbits and downsides are on full display most of the time and rather easily noticed
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I actually know a girl who went through a 3 year not month itch.it was mostly due to being wi the same one bloke since school and having second thoughts on how living together would if at all progress toward marriage ect.

i dont have an itch yet but if i ever do i'll go to the hospital and get it checked out