gosh i hate being a single perent, u get no thanx cos ur a guy, i was doing my shopping 1 time an this woman said, r u minding the baby 2day? i said i look after her every day lol, she then said, u know, the child should be with its mother, i said my daughters mum dont wana know her an started given me loads down my neck! am i ment to give up on her like her mother? cos am gettin no thanx 4 it

Well done for being so passionate about it but WHY are you worrying about what some sad arse says in a supermarket???

You know what you are doing is amazing (single parent of any gender is prob the hardest thing in the world)! Be proud and feck 'em if they don't get it!!!

oh and welcome to the boards too!

your daughter will thank you m8, noone elses thanks really matter...thats parenting for you

colt72 wrote:

gosh i hate being a single perent, u get no thanx cos ur a guy, i was doing my shopping 1 time an this woman said, r u minding the baby 2day? i said i look after her every day lol, she then said, u know, the child should be with its mother, i said my daughters mum dont wana know her an started given me loads down my neck! am i ment to give up on her like her mother? cos am gettin no thanx 4 it

thanx for ur replys, i do get angry sometimes, it just seems im in the wrong no matter wot i do. is it cos am male? lol

Unforetunatelly in most peoples eyes in society today I think it is ... people dont seem to realise that single parents can be either male or female.......As bad as it is it seems to be a sad fact of life

Lucky guy, i would do anything for my son to live with me full time. I dont like him living with his mum.

Women who think like that are narrow minded, its too old fashioned to say a child should be with his/hers mother

Its just like saying a woman should be put in her place and never answer back. Its just not right

Thread title is a bit mis-leading but yeah I agree with what the others have said mate
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carry on as you are, ignore stupid people like that who have nothing better to do , its your little girl that matters at least she knows she has one parent to lean on

It's not a job you get thanks for just enjoy it for what it is

And I think it's safe to ignore 99 per cent of advice you get about parenting, esp from strangers. After all, you're The Daddy!

Well I am a single parent too, I do not hate being a single parent though.

There is a sort of background sexism, it is just society and no harm is inteded I am sure. For instance when I had to take my son for his injections I got asked if I was married to his mum at the time of birth. I said no and was promptly told that the injections could not go ahead. I had to point out that he actually lives with me and not her. Then there was the time we were homeless, I was told straight out by the council that because I was a man I was not going to get anywhere, they actually said we were to live on the streets, my son was 3. Had to get a social worker to come in and explain the situation. Get lots of phone calls asking to speak to his mum and obviously I do feel a bit left out in the playground when it is time to pick him up or drop him off.

But nah, it don't suck. I tell you what might brass me off, one day when I settle down with someone else (when hahaha) and people address her when talking about my son instead of me. But I doubt it will really really bother me, it is not intentional see? Just background sexism and I am just as guilty of that as everyone I am sure.

Tell you something, I do get a bit angry when the goverment and co start talking about "single mums" er, hello, do I have to dangle it infront of your face before you realise we are not all women

why didn't you tell her to go and stick it up her bumper and keep her opinions to her self, cant believe the cheek of the woman!

colt72 wrote:

gosh i hate being a single perent, u get no thanx cos ur a guy, i was doing my shopping 1 time an this woman said, r u minding the baby 2day? i said i look after her every day lol, she then said, u know, the child should be with its mother, i said my daughters mum dont wana know her an started given me loads down my neck! am i ment to give up on her like her mother? cos am gettin no thanx 4 it

or say something like her mother is a homless crack addict! the look on her face would of been priceless.

I know this is an old post that no one's added to lately, but...
I get really mad when I hear (read) how single dads get such a bum deal.
My own situation is that I am the 'absent mother' That is, my kids stayed with their dad from age 3 & 7 for reasons I wont go into here.
But their dad got such a lot of shit from the social services and schools - even though we had/have equal parental rights as far as the law is concerned - again I wont go into the shit I got being the 'absent mother' from narrow-minded busybodies....
For instance, when our youngest lad was 5 and started school, one day my ex gets called into the school and there was a copper, a social worker and the head teacher. (I only got to hear about this from my ex afterwards)
Our boy gets told to take off his shirt, he's got bruises and scratches on his back.
"Tell us how you got the bruises son." says the social worker. "Did your daddy beat you?"
Now, I might be thick but seeing as his dad was in the room with the little guy and all, even if his daddy HAD been beating him, is he likely to say so?!
Anyways he tells them "Of course not silly!!! I fell out of a tree".
Ok you can go play now.....meeting thus ends.
Not a word of apology did my ex get, he actually cried when he told me how mortified he was, he loves our kids and would never raise a finger to them.
Our older lad was always falling out of trees and getting bumps and bruises, when we were together not once was there any suspicion about how or why.
I really think single dads get a shit deal.