In Fact, thanks to you all for your views, it can restore faith in humanity

Recently my lawyer has received letters from her lawyers, who managed to muck up the conditions of my first letter, stating facts that were wrong.
My lawyer is very confident with the facts before him that there will be no trouble obtaining the rights and was very confident, which was reassuring.

I am still getting to see the kids, in factnow thisis going ahead, she is letting me see them MORE than i was going to ask for which is great, but i'm hoping that it doesn't all change when we finally go to court for them.

My step-kids still wont come up, but i'll have to leave that until they decide otherwise. I think they might just be showing their loyalty towards their mum and if she isn't exactly praising me then maybe coming to see me might make them think they are betraying her.

Letters are going back and forward and the next one should be received in 2 weeks. I hate the situation that its become, it could all have been avoided.

ya situations like this do suck, and its harder when 1 party is being ackward, but if she changes the contact that ur having now, solicitors and courts will want 2 know here reasons for the change, not jus cause shes doing it 2 annoy u, im going through stuff with my x also, ref maintance and contact , he tell me that he dont have 2 c his kids, wihich, i know i dont have 2 make him, but it is something he shoule want 2 do, i c that as very strangejus been 2 solicitor this week, so its all gona fire up again once he gets his letter, and ya plenty of parents here for u that are going through something the same and ul get all kinda of advice and love here

Crikey, its been a while, but quite a lot has happened since.

I managed to find out that the guy i was dumped for dumped her (apparently a bit of a player) and she is now constantly in touch, telling me that it was a mistake, she really wants to be with me and wants another child by me!!.(Actually i think this player has already got her pregnant and she is despeately trying to bed me to pass me off as daddy - time will tell). thats how much i distrust her now - sounds horrible.

Desperate from her now, as i am not interested, i have moved on and will not put myself in any position for her to repeat her actions. I think the panic is now because i have been granted legal aid to help me with the parental rights and that her lawyer has probably told her unless im a complete monster, there will be a chance i will get them.

This is not me being nasty, i just dont believe her sincerity about what she is saying and now 4/5 months down the line my situation has changed completely. I seem to be the one in control now, and i have met a lovely girl who gets on great with my kids and the spark has been put into a new relationship and i'm happier which the kids have noticed.

So all of you who have been following the story and find themselves in a like me, you must persevere with parental rights if you want them, time does eventually sort things out, i was distraught at the beginning of this thread, but looking at it now and all the advice and support, i feel i can now maybe advise and support anyone who needs it while going through a similar situation.

It does get better so messyman and everyone stick in, you have friends on here and talking to them will help you through the bad times and shape you for the better ones ahead.

Ill still message the result of the lawyers etc....i think i should become a scriptwriter for eastenders lol.

Owch i was in the simalier situation but we wasnt married so i had NO RIGHTS over my daughter atall as that was the current law at the time unsure how it is now though i do know that it is being changed for fathers to get more rights. I guess i was just lucky in that i got parental rights and ended up looking after my daughter full time my ex agreed to give me 50% rights but tryed to drag it out as long as possable. Its not easy but keep you head up and im sure all will work out well for you as it has for me. Theres so many women out the moan about fathers that run off n dont want to know there kids so how can so many women be the opp way but i guess not every one things the same hope all goes well for all you single fathers or fathers just wanting rights over there kids its not easy but it possable

hi all single i no how u all feel my ex took my kids to devon a i live in london thay dont realise we love our kids a yes it does really hurt its like wat is the point off going on but u do 4 the sake of my boy,s i would like to talk with other dad,s as my friens just dont understand me im hurt very hurt .e mail me terry.r.2@hotmail.co.uk

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