I wish you all the best mate. I can't imagine what it would be like not to see my daughter, she's my life it would really kill me.

I split with my ex and it was quite amicable, I'm on Ava's birth certificate and we have a shared parenting agreement wherby I have her Tues, thurs and alternate sat and sun. Although its not the best situation I have to make the best of this situation.

Hope it all works out

Prob good news for you:

I'm on the 'other side' of this situation ie a single mum, pretty acrimonious with ex and he ISN'T on the birth certificate. Have no legal arrangement in place but when I got telephone advice off a solicitor last year, she said that it is not MY place to award parental responsibility. The father/you can apply to the courts to be awarded p.r. and it is up to the judge, not us (the mothers).

Unless you have been violent or pose a threat to the children then there is practically no way the court will not award you p.r, apparently.

I'm in Scotland as you'll see and not sure if/how it is different further south.

You are likely to have more rights than you think, everyone thinks dads have no rights but it's changing fast; I for example put it in writing to my son's nursery that nobody but me should be allowed to collect son. I thought this was standard practice for women with potentially dodgy exes. However the nursery staff informed that if his dad wants to take him they are not allowed to stop him.

BTW I wasn't doing this out of bitterness I was distraught, thinking my son might be snatched and taken 'away', you get my drift.

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Unless you have been violent or pose a threat to the children then there is practically no way the court will not award you p.r, apparently.
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My ex has already told me she'll play dirty, lying about me if she can in court..
I have enough people that know me however & hopefully wont be too much trouble, but it leaves a bitter taste in my mouth..

Ok, update (kind of)

The court action papers will be served in the next 2 weeks...(bracing for a emotional response), we will then go to court a week later. My lawyer thinks i will have not much trouble getting the PR, but

My ex has said she would go to jail for disobaying the court rather than signing them..(bravado atm i think) but what would the position be then?

She said she'd be prepared to go to jail over it...

If that happened do i get them automatically as she is an ex-criminal
Also would the kids live with me while their mothers doing her time

Silly questions i know, but my ex is a silly person.....

Well, she finally got court papers this morning.

Even though she has been nasty all the time up to now, when she got the papers, she actually broke down in tears and started sobbing in front of me.

It made me feel like a s**t, but i have to remind myself that while it was on her terms, she was continously nasty and trying to use them as a weapon.

Hopefully i might suggest she just gives me rights to spare going to court to save her any more upset, but maybe thats my problem that i can think with my heart rather than my head sometimes..

LoL, might have guessed, never lasted long.

She is now usuing the kids as a weapon against me & turned my step-kids against me. They dont want to come and visit or speak to me

I can imagining her telling them that i am trying to take their little brother and sister away, sounds like something she would do.

The anger and hostility is back too, makes me feel silly for feeling sorry for her.

My two are still 'dad' mad, but it leaves a bitter taste in the mouth to think someone could be so venimous.

Speaking from legal point u do have your rights Im pre law here in USA,if your name is on birth certificate you can get your attorney to make a stipulation that she not move from her present location because you fear she will flee with the children,or if you fear for their safety then approach the courts by all meanms the one safety catch courts look at is safety well being of the children,they dont like to see squabbling in courtroom,so ease your mind get some paperwork filed to ease your mind

Thx for the updates Blueyes37, this will be useful for when my ex and my eventually get divorced. We have 2 children who stay with me atm, i however do get worried if i piss her off that she will just take the kids and i wont see them again.

Hope it all goes well for you please keep us posted if u can

GL

hi Danni,yeah its a hoot we got similar ways but different ways doing things but Blue Eyes living under a threat from her is not living at all,how can u enjoy the children.And whether u realize it or not you broadcast your fears onto the ones innocent in all this,the children.And you do have your rights so use them dont feel u are under the gun,

she may have broke down, cause maybe she really didnt think u would do ahead with it, and it kinda hit home 2 her that ur not gona give up with a fight, and she could have broke down also 2 pull at ur heart strings, still ask 2 see the kids and phone, log or record ne messages that may help u in court, and please keep us posted and remember u have friends and a shoulder 2 cry on netime u want, were all here for each other tc