Well said MissJB

I makes no difference who brings up the child, both should get an equal amount of credit for the job. However, people seem to forget so easily that there are a large number of men doing it as well. Laws, benefits and so much more in this country is aimed at the mother being the lone parent while the lone parent father has to fight for everything.

One thing I do get really annoyed about is the sick minds you have in this country. Just because a father is a lone parent, especially if he happens to have a daughter, so many immediately presume he's sexually abusing them.

One of my friends was a lone father of 2 girls of 4 and 6 after his wife died of cancer, he had more visits from social services than any single mother I have ever known. Every time they came around, they were quite blatantly watching how the kids interacted with him. It eventually got so blatant that he asked them if they wanted to have the kids checked by a doctor for signs of abuse instead of just visiting all the time to see if the kids still wanted to be near him or not.

About a year later, he had them taken away. His youngest fell in the garden and banged her arm on the wall and one of the neighbours reported her screaming in the garden. It was all the excuse the SS wanted to take them away because he was "obviously abusing them". It almost killed him, he tried to commit suicide several times after that and eventually had to go for Psychiatric treatment.

Screw this country!

That has just shocked me to the core, that is disgusting! Whats the betting that it was a so called friend that contacted the social services in the first place!

It just always gets to me when you hear about single mums and never the single dads and i think give credit where credits due! You will never hear my dad say he did anything extra ordinary, he will simply say he did what any parent would do, but to me he did, after all it isnt easy for a man to have to cope with a hormonal teenager!!

Thats fucked up on so many levels Tryst. If they spent as much energy, money and time on REAL child abusers they would actually be able to notice the difference between an abused child and a non-abused child. It's not hard to see the difference in behavioural patterns. My mum used to beat my brother and he hardly spoke..you'll be lucky to get more than 4 sentances out of him in a conversation now. A child thats not abused wont be weary of anyone..if i can see the difference and im not even trained in that field..what the marry are they doing with their time? Has he seen his daughters since?

Also id just like to point out that grandparents deserve praise aswell. Mine took me in atleast 6 times when i was growing up, no matter what i did. My grandad actually waited 17 hours for me when i was arrested. -shrug-