Always put your kids first befor any date..and bring them in slowly..dont rush..your kids to meet the new guy/woman..ime getting divorced after 14 years..my twins r teens now..and ntold me to date on line..find a good man this time mum they told me lol.. so back on the frount line of dateing again...

I always put a newspaper advert in the local papers, asking if the general public approve of a potential girlfriend's children. If I get sent pictures of her kids killing cats or if you'd have to keep the hood up on their pram (!), I don't date the person!!!!!!

Just remember that when your kids have grown up and flown the nest, it'll just be you. So you have to make decisions for the rest of YOUR life. Understandably you want to ensure they're happy, safe and secure but so long as they're always treated kindly and lovingly by any potential partner - the decision is down to you.

You all make some very valid points. My daughter is the most important person in my world, for that reason I don’t want her susceptible to different men in my life, until I’m for certain that I can see more. I always make it clear that she and I are a package deal. What I struggle with however is to make the time for that said person considering that a lot of men don’t seem to understand that you have priorities other then them. ie. children get sick, horse lessons, studies, dance recitals and any other thing that seems to pop up when you have children….Oh and we can’t forgo the big kahona… When there father conveniently cancels or doesn’t show on his nights or weekends.

Sending the child to live permanently with his/her father or placing the child into a Social Services children's home if he/she acts up can solve this problem quite easily and immediately...!!!!!!!

I wouldn't know quite yet, I'm only pregnant. x