As single mum I find it hard to date. It is partly because I just don't have much spare time, but one other reason is because it scares some men off.
Some men don't understand that I am not looking for a new dad for my kids but that I am just looking for some adult company for myself. I imagine that single dads must experiance it too.
I just wounder whether its just me or if other people feel the same way .

My concern about dating a mother with children is the father of the child(ren). They are likely to be a permanent part of the life for them. That, I'm not too keen on. Maybe it's jealousy. I don't know.

Yes I can imagine that could be awkward in some cases. The whole dating thing can be hard enough without the ended stress of ex's being a permanant feature.

i have been a single dad myself for 20 years, and its the same for men aswell,whan you have kids i think they call it baggage,i take baggage on holidays i also took my kids but the baggage went into the planes hold and my kids sat next to me, so please dont refer to kids as baggage

im 17 and a single mother to my 6 week old son and we are not alone in this world ive talked to many women and they feel the same, I dont want any1 to step in the place for my son as a father but also would like to know if they liked us that much why would an ex boyfriend bother them?

i am 27 and a single dad of 2 yr old twin girlsim new to this but i am nervous as hell in meeting someone else. ive sepeprated from my wife of three yrs but when we met she had three children from a previous relation they aged from 5 mths to 8 yrs old. the fact that they were not mine but someone elses didnt bother me i trested them as my own no matter what even when my ex wife gave birth to our twins my feelings for my step children never changed and they never would many people thought i was nuts taking on three children at a young age i was only 23 at the time and my ex was 27 but they gave me so much joy and even tho we have split up i still see my step kids just as much as my own children i hope i have contributed something to this discussion

i am 27 and a single dad of 2 yr old twin girlsim new to this but i am nervous as hell in meeting someone else. ive sepeprated from my wife of three yrs but when we met she had three children from a previous relation they aged from 5 mths to 8 yrs old. the fact that they were not mine but someone elses didnt bother me i trested them as my own no matter what even when my ex wife gave birth to our twins my feelings for my step children never changed and they never would many people thought i was nuts taking on three children at a young age i was only 23 at the time and my ex was 27 but they gave me so much joy and even tho we have split up i still see my step kids just as much as my own children i hope i have contributed something to this discussion

a friend of mine was in the same situation, He did meet a woman who had kids, they mmarried later on but he always said that when it came to disipline the kids he was alwasy told by yhe kids or the wife that he was not their father, the fact that he put a roof over their heads , clothes on their backs , food in their bellies and pocket momey, not being their natural dad mattered. My advice was if he acts as a father he is a father. regardless if the real father is about. He discussed it with the real father and he agreed that within reason he should take the full role of the father, but if there was a major issue all three shoulkd discuss it, both "fathers" are now the best of mates, and the kids know their boundries.

I have this problem and the "sperm donor" aka father of my daughter hasn't been around, nor does he care to be around. So when men run away because they think that my daughter's dad will be an issue, I always get a little P.O'd

I'm new to the site and split with my ex-wife around 6 months ago. I have the feeling that i will never get back on track relationship wise. Every girl that i speak to and tell that i have 3 kids feels instantly awkward and the conversation quickly ends!

It's driving me nuts, they cant even speak to me.

that's the problem, a real man (me) wouldn't be affraid from the fact that a woman has kids. what if both (man and woman) have kids? would they not get along? i have kids and if i'll find someone i realy like, her kids won't scare me. if anything, i would love to extend the family and help raising them as my own (even if the real dad is involved in their lifes - which is what i call a real man - and i'll even try my best to be as friendly as possible to him - after all, he didn't run away...). kids are not a package, nor a baggage, they are the reason the world keeps spinning.
maybe you just haven't found a serious man, someone who isn't just looking for s e x.
something that will deter (and annoy me), is a girl (like the 17 y/o here...) who makes a kid at the age of 17 without thinking about who she is with, and if the kid will grow up with a dad or not...?
who makes a kid at 17, then separates from the dad when the child is only a few weeks old, and then look for someone new to date straight after?
WTF? are you a whore? do you have no brain or dignity or responsebilty?
kids are not a condom mistake, you have to think before making them, and plan ahead.
and why would you make a kid at 17? are you in a rush? at 17, you're a kid yourself - and now you want to raise one? if my daughter will sleep with anyone before she is fully grown and knows exactly what she wants from life and how responsible she needs to be, i will murder her and her boyfriend.
i didn't put all my love and money and effort in my kids (especially girls) for her to be a slut.
i call it bad parenting.
without a frame, the kids will never grow properly, and why would you want to do that to them, and not think before you open your legs to another looser kid? i think a single mum (in the proper age) is even more attractive than a woman who is in her late 30's or 40's who never married and never had kids (most man will think: why did no one marry her until now? what's wrong with her? is she still fertile?)... abs.