Eh, depends on the person. Just make sure everyone involved is clear on the situation. It rapidly goes to shit when the girl/guy thinks your doing it because you love him/her.

But anyway, each to their own.

"If I had a pound for every time I've heard a woman....."

Forgive me if I'm wrong here, but the way I read that it comes across that a lady has in the past turned you down with a polite excuse then gone on to be won over by someone else.

I would like to assure you that there are lots of people in the world who either abstain altogether or abstain from 'casual sex' *genuinely* and not just say it.

Sorry, I just happen to be one of those "creepy, creepy people" who don't want to have casual sex with you, as you put it on your profile.

Struck a nerve enough for you to go to the trouble of quoting my profile? Thats quite flattering. For what its worth that statement is there to save the time of all the dreamers who just want someone to fill out their MSN contacts, and to scare away the winsome prudes who shudder at thought of anything more meaningful than a penfriend. In any case, I prefer my women to be a bit more comfortable with themselves. A lack of picture speaks volumes.

I've had my share of knockbacks the same as any other bloke, but most what I've learned has come from simply enjoying the company of women. Despite the seedy little stereotype you might have conjoured up, I treat women as my equal (for better or worse), and would much rather spend my quality time having a laugh and share a tale or two with them than do the 'man thing'. I can alpha it up with the best of them, but it bores me shitless, the novelty of that wore off in my early twenties.

If men don't want to be such consistent fuck ups as far as women are concerned they should spend less time trying to impress and more time listening. Hell, push the boat out a bit further and try engaging with them on a level instead of treating each one as a potential conquest. Save your masculinity for where it really counts.

Chikhai if I offended you in any way I really do apologise. I didnt mean to. Actually, truth is I peeked at your profile cuz I was interested to just know more about what makes you tick, having already established that you and I will never be more than two anonymous people on this website having a banter. It's just that the way I read it was "if you're not interested in a quickie, dont bother to contact me cuz I think you're creepy". It is difficult to get one's message across with bullet points and brevity, such that these profiles dictate. Your latest post here makes me realise that there is so much more than meets the eye.
Of course one should never judge a book by its cover but in the case of profiles, there ain't no pages to read.
As for my lack of photo on my own profile, well the simple reason for that is that I don't actually have a photo on my computer of me - apart from a really blurry one of me and my mum looking like two pissed scarecrows - its usually me who's behind the camera and I don't have a scanner so couldn't hook out one of me when I was Oh so much younger to upload. I do intend to redress this soon enough.
And no, you didn't strike any nerves whatsoever.
Being a psychotherapist I feel comfortable enough to analyse my own motives and know that for sure.
I take my hat off to you for being a man who knows what he wants and intends to get out there and get it - whatever 'it' might be.

Aren't we all just arguing about nothing? It is as simple as what has been stated before. You either wanna do it or you don't-you will either do it with someone who fits your bill or you'll fuck a yeti if it suits you or you'll stay a bleating virgin till the 10th coming. None of it matters-none of it as it is all personal preference and what the moment dictates. Just because you will doesn't mean if she won't that there is anything wrong. The thread was started for personal opinions and therefore was in no way meant to turn into a philosophical debate. We all know where philosophy takes us-nowhere, mostly. I would no more want to argue and offend anyone (see my sense of humor makes me laugh-not you so sorry Chikhai) than shoot my self in my own foot!

Let us all love and be merry and get naked and come to our senses!
WHOOP WHOOP!!!

I will henceforth go and get some unloving sexual relations started posthaste! Oh wait, I am alone in this flat--Ok, NEXT time I have sexual relations I will make damn sure it is just a necessary needs filler and not at all think about the possibilities or where it may go! It may be 20 years from now but damn it, consider it done! I will also make sure he doesn't look at all attractive to me. It is the least I can do to mend fences and take one for the team!

Nah, I'm not arguing and I don't think anyone else is either. It's all good. Discussing personal opinions must surely lead to philosophical debates anyways otherwise we might as well all just stick to cursory profiles and not have these discussion boards. I can't see how personal opinions could amount to much of a discussion otherwise - discussing the whys and wherefores as to the reasons behind our personal opinions makes it all that more interesting (I think).
Otherwise it would be just a list of boring one liners:
member A: yeah i luv casual encounters
memberB: I don't
member C: I dont
member D: I dont either
member E: I do they;'re great

I for one wouldn't bother posting!

Its been quite a while since i had casual sex, these days i tend to want to get to know someone for a while before i go to bed with them, to me that is just more enjoyable.

No arguing about that now

I have completely changed my mind and am all for it currently.






That is all.

how much is a taxi to scotland from here????

Ah..... Let me think..............


scratches head............






Totally worth it! That's how much! Look at it as an investment which, though I won't be around but a night, pays happy dividends to your memory for an entire lifetime until you get the "Old-Timers"!

I see nothing wrong with a fuck buddy as long as both parties know where they stand from the very beginning. Sometimes it is good to able to call on someone just for physical needs

I dont see anything wrong with it, as long as all involved understand what the purpose of the relationship is. Personally, i cant be completely emotionally uninvolved - i at least like to be friends with them, but not necessarily want a fully committed relationship. However, if i have a regular sexula partner, i tend to stop sleeping with other women, and i would like to know if they are sleeping with multiple partners as well

I think the idea of FWB is great for some people but when it comes down to it very few women especially can have regular sex with the same person without getting involved. I suppose you'd have to be in a certain place in your life for it to work.

IMHO obviously...