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If there is attraction there why not? lifes too short, well it is for me anyway, we are all adults at the end of the day...as long as its not hurting anyone else cant see why not..you never know where it might lead....2nd date maybe?
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absolutely nooo way and not for a long time into a relationship...for me its about self respect and self value...knowing that you're worth waiting for and for a man to take the time to get to know you and you to know them...

I dunno if I'm the first 18 year old on this but what the hell.
If you and her have that chemistry then yea go for it but personally I prefer to get to know them yes I may still be young and that but I don't want to meet a girl and then later on regret losing her because I want to find the one (CHEESAY!!!)

But remember everyone is different so its up to yourself

LittleVixen wrote:

colkitto wrote: jeggae wrote: colkitto wrote: LittleVixen wrote: If there is attraction there why not? lifes too short, well it is for me anyway, we are all adults at the end of the day...as long as its not hurting anyone else cant see why not..you never know where it might lead....2nd date maybe? on that basis would you advocate this "maxim" to 18 year olds, and young people generally ?, or add some caution, its quite one thing to advocate reckless abandon to those who choose to think moral virtue has no currency value, and yes, we do make judgments, sometimes harsh ones, about going to bed with someone on the very first day/night we met them, that kind of behavior is best associated with prostitution, for those starting to navigate their way through the mire of preditors with low self esteem and ego trippers who consider bedding people as an achievement or something to brag about, they need at least to hear an alternative way to live, perhaps even then avoid fielding odious questions from perverts on a dating site.[/list] That must be the false morality we have always had in this country, that has caused us so many problems. Not sure anyone will listen to LV I'm afraid. Or are you asking for her opinion in your [seemingly] usual sanctimonious way?? ..it's succinct and perhaps she can answer herself, rather than depending on you..eh and concise,as usual... seems odd that someone who offers to take me on a guided tour of dating sites to better judge women's virtue, would have the slightest clue what morality amounts too, in any for other than moral banktrupty, as to you're desperate query, you are indeed one of the "herd" you can attack ad nauseum with out challenge from admins, some people just lack the ability to paddle their own canoe, but I shall perhaps desist from responding to you, simply because you have an innate honesty, perhaps handicapped by inexperience,and having seen life as you do, through the wrong end of a telescope on the Internet, which is fine, amongst perhaps a few other anchors you drag. Dont see any 18 year olds on this debate, I was generally talking about actual posters on this thread, most of whom are older, I do not suggest that anyone 18 or of any age sleep together on the first date, it was just an opinion which by the sound of it I should keep to myself (in your eyes anyway)