i cant afford to have such morales

if i didnt have love on first night/date then my sexual experiences would have been a rarity

I try not to have love on the first date.


I usually fail at that one.

I try to hold out a couple of dates before I jump in the sack, but it can be really difficult when it's someone I really connect with.

Scot, you ever wondered if you didn't put out so early some of those dates might have become something more?

thats a fair point vanda- i think i suffered from looking upto a couple of male tarts that i worked wi for Hbos when i left school.from the outside looking in it looked as if they had a great social life - what i didnt see was the empty homes they went bk to after work.

Its only now that ive grown a bit older and wiser that i value relationships - still doesnt mean ill have one soon tho

This would be dependant on the chosen one and the mood.
Read into that what you will.

I probably concur with what I said at the start of the thread, as I did do recently.

I suspect most people would if in the mood, especially men

Circumstances, mood, etc notwithstanding, indulging in some kind of sexual activity on a first date seems quite an acceptable facet of the whole dating ritual. Having said that, it is also widely known that first date love is often disappointing to one, or even both (or more?!?) participants.

Speaking purely for myself, since everyone else is entitled to their own morals/standards/whatever, although I might have no expectations of any kind kind of sexual activity on a first date, I would almost certainly find someone who dismissed even the idea of love on first date out-of-hand unsuitable dating material anyway (without elaborating too much on why, such notions often extend to other aspects of their lives, and we would therefore make an unsuitable match anyway)

For me it really depends on what you call a first date. If i already know the person, and we had discussed it. Why not, I'm old enough.lol

...never one to look a gift horse in the mouth, for want of a better expression,have sadly,on more than one occasion concluded that moral virtue was not the most important issue on her mind at that time, not withstanding that women can be extremely vulnerable at any one time and so make decisions they might otherwise regret, men, including me have used this dysfunction if you like to slake of our ego's and lust.
I'd like to think we change attitude with maturity, sometimes I'm not so sure about myself, and have felt like a complete creep next day,deep inside I still feel women give more of themselves than I do,by lowering themselves in sleeping with me, on any date never mind first date..and so we now tell them it's nothing to worry about,men do it, why can't women go looking for love, just another ploy, seems to work to some extent, women are not natural sluts, men however battle to not be one, or certainly I have in my time.

love on a first date requires a first date.....guess that's me finished on this thread.

See you on the "Sexually withdrawn" thread lol

Not sure if i have already answered this at some point but i'll do it now just incase i didn't when it was first posted! I suppose if it was a date i wouldn't sleep with someone on the first one! Either because it turns out i don't like them or i really like them and want to see if it will actually go anywhere! Then again i wouldn't think twice about sleeping with someone gorgeous i meet in a pub/club! When the drinks in, that's all you seem to be after and it doesn't matter if you don't hear from the person again! I think i have learnt now that a guy won't respect you if you're too easy! Fucking around will just leave you unhappy in the long run!

Maybe meeting when drinking is involved is not a good idea. Sober eyes and thoughts usually has better results.

[quote="ysabel1970"]love on a first date requires a first date.....guess that's me finished on this thread.

See you on the "Sexually withdrawn" thread lol[/quote

...little point in my asking you then eh...popular as the proverbial foreskin in a synagogue as I am around here....och not to worry mum loves me...

Would it be classed as a first date if you went out with them about 15 years ago as well???