This could actually be in either dating or love..!

Would you have love on the first date with somebody?

If not, after how many dates, and why?

Yes I would and I have. I am totally the opposite of pushy so if it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't. I have met a couple of people and was happy to just have a drink and a chat. In both cases, I was 'invited' and we are still great friends.

I try to avoid having love on the first date.

But sometimes if the chemistry is there, you just can't help it.

So true. That is why I'm not pushy. It only happens if the other person wants it to and they are feeling the chemistry. It has worked out great sticking to the non-pushy policy.

Yep.

I hate pushy guys But women can be pushy, too..

It depends on the situation. if i was meating with someone for fun and i really fancied them then hell yeah sometimes a girl just needs a good time. but if it were someone i was meeting with the prospect of more then i would control myself and get to know them first.

I'm with danni.

not literally
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Yeh all depends what the 'crack' is so to speak!

But if its all in good fun, why not?!? everyone has needs.

But yeh if something may happen between you, i wouldnt say no to love if it felt right, but it may ruin things (especially if you dont perform, kidding!)

No problems with love on the first date, though I have to admit that the love has been bad and I've not seen the person after that so maybe it would have been better to wait.

(and not I didn't tell them it was the bad love that put me off...)

I'm gonna be really REAL with this reply. Some of you may not like it, but hey.
Some of the posts i read on here, the guys seem like they tryna be liked rather than just be straight up with the answers to some very good questions. Maybe so as not to offend any1, i dunno, maybe I'm wrong.
But I can honestly say i havn't sugar coated anything i've written on here for browny points, so here you go...

Ladies... a man will obviously LOVE to get some on the first date. We're programmed to chase the kitten. BUT if you DON"T let me the 1st night i will respect you more. It's a terrible double standard cause we all have needs, but sublimanally i don't think most men treat the 'chase' the same after that first date, (well the guys i've chatted to about this).
I know it sounds stupid, and believe me as i type this i'm thinking "you dick" , but it's damn true. If you let me hit it the first night, especially if it wasn't even a proper date, then believe me you are strictly bootycall status... (diving for cover behind the sofa as he avoids the objects being thrown)...
If i want to get to know you better i'll wait. Not for ever mind hehehe, but it'll b worth it truss.

A good friend of mine was mad & asked me why her 'friend' never really took her out, & only liked to invite her to his house for love, even after they've been 'friends' for almost a year. I asked her how did the relationship start. She let off first time after a club, and the dude never even took her on a date at the begining. Not even to a park to chat or anything. He's never had to flirt, impress her, or anything to get the most intimate moments with her, so why would he start later? Ladies you set the rules from the start, thats a power you all have. If you chose to let off early don't get mad if it doesn't turn into something more.

Now adult fun is something else entirely. Its's fun.

Right, now you can chuck stuff

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I have noticed that if you sleep with a guy on the first 'date' or whatever, he will more than likely treat you as a bootycall.
So, what you have said is totally true.

I would prefer to be respected by a guy than be a bootycall.