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03.07.2007, 08:41 quote

Anonymous

Can I just ask has anybody ever had a "No strings fun" encounter ? My experience is that sex always seems to have some kind of condition attached or some consequence or issue with it. There is maybe the drunked one nighter where your so blatherd you can only just string a sentance together and you remember very little about what went on. Did you actually have sex with them or just throw up on the duvet and fall asleep. I dont recall those times as being fun though just tacky.

 

03.07.2007, 09:25 quote

Anonymous

I have a few times....the only problem being when I saw them next and they wanted to do it again and I didnt. That can be awkward and a pain in the arse.

 

03.07.2007, 10:05 quote

Anonymous

Therefore strings attached yes?

 

03.07.2007, 10:28 quote

Anonymous

I did once where it was incredibly beneficial. I hated sex, thought it was dirty. Then I left my 1st husband. 7 months later I had a one night stand, not the most exciting sex I've ever had but something seemed to click in my head and have enjoyed it ever since.

 

03.07.2007, 10:37 quote

Anonymous

Ironpyrites wrote:
Therefore strings attached yes?


Not sure there are strings, I had to think before I posted it though......they probably just wanted me for sex lol....hope that doesn't sound arrogant Laughing

Not sure if its strings attached or not....is a fuck buddy strings attached, don't know ?

 

03.07.2007, 10:37 quote

Anonymous

It's possible but it's rare. The point being that one party is always going to be more emotionally attached to the idea than the other.
And, as far as I'm aware, you're not going to shag someone who you don't fancy so emotions are already there anyhow. It's how you choose to deal with them afterwards that can lead to problems.
I don't think I consider a one-night stand to be the same as no strings fun, though. I thought that one-night stands were mainly created from beer goggles and no strings fun was pre-arranged.

 

03.07.2007, 11:06 quote

Anonymous

strings attached usually involve a visit to the clinic

 

03.07.2007, 12:06 quote

Anonymous

8legs wrote:
It's possible but it's rare. The point being that one party is always going to be more emotionally attached to the idea than the other.
And, as far as I'm aware, you're not going to shag someone who you don't fancy so emotions are already there anyhow. It's how you choose to deal with them afterwards that can lead to problems.
I don't think I consider a one-night stand to be the same as no strings fun, though. I thought that one-night stands were mainly created from beer goggles and no strings fun was pre-arranged.


That's exactly what I was thinking...I've arranged to have sex with female friends and no more was said about it afterwards, and it was enjoyable. They know I didn't want it to go any further.

 

03.07.2007, 14:41 quote

Anonymous

On reflection if there is any young lady out there can disprove my theory and they can have sex without strings ( I dont mean bondage) do feel free to contact me.

 

03.07.2007, 15:06 quote

Anonymous

my experiences have been pretty pain free. There was definitely emotions involved other than just shagging, and not entirely pain free, but worth it & we remain friends. In some ways it helped moving on because the split wasn't my choice, so sudden & unexpected. The gap of a few months before the fun helped too. I kept hold of my belief it was over, and was looking elsewhere.

 

03.07.2007, 15:10 quote

women4me
Joined: 15 May 2007 Posts: 240 Location: United Kingdom, England, West Midlands
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Maybe it's a conditioning thing where the more casual encounters you have the easier it becomes to walk away. I tried it once and she cried her eyes out in the morning, i felt awful. I think as the night went on and the alcohol wore off we actually quite liked each other and were very suited but she had to go back to uni the next day.

 

05.07.2007, 02:57 quote

Solers
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I've had quite a few no-strings attached. For the most part, it works out quite well. There's been the odd awkward one, but most of the time it's just pure letting off some steam affairs.

The main problem I've had is when one partner wants more sex, and the other has moved on. That can get kind of awkward. But mainly it's been stress free.

 

07.07.2007, 21:58 quote

Anonymous

It's possible and it's fun. Sex isn't as sacred as people make out, and theres nothing wrong with just letting go and giving in to a bit of pure lust. So long as there are ground rules and you both fully know where you stand it's fine.

It should be like dropping the H-Bomb: short, intense and no going back there for a little while so you avoid the fallout. Knowing you have it on tap is enough. It beats the shit out of 'saving yourself' anyway. And it keeps you feeling alive.

 

10.07.2007, 22:59 quote

Anonymous

I must be a totally a-moral girl. I think you can always detach yourself from situations it really depends on what your looking for in life. Sometimes its not practical to have a relationship but everyone has needs so what do you do? In my experience it is rare tho because someone will always get more attached but if you set boudaries and both parties know what they want ive found it works most of the time.

 

10.07.2007, 23:12 quote

myriad
myriad Joined: 02 Dec 2006 Posts: 1343 Location: United Kingdom, England, Norfolk
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Very Happy Yes, but I'm still particular about who with etc. Embarassed

 
 
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