OK i've been with my hubby for 13 years now... we are still very much in love and sex/lovemaking is still going very well.. daily .. (btw im in my 20's) ... and a friend ask me about cheating... my responce is i wouldn't want to know, if he cheating i really wouldn't want to know because we have a very close loving relationship/friendship and if im totally honest if i was to get ill and wasn't able to have sex, i would be realistic and except my man sleeping with someone else, if he comes home and tells me he loves me and the kids and apprecates me and his life with me then for him to get bit of sexual tension out his system then do it, but all i will say is if it starts to get intense and its not just sex anymore come out of the situation with who ever your have sex with.

Well i hope that helps

Hey HB
OK, i have had MS for about 7 yrs too, same as your wife RR type. Although i have been lucky and have never had a prob with sex i do have a lot of suggestions for you which i hope will be helpful.
Do you have a MS nurse attached to your health authority? She is there to help in all situations, including sex, which is known to be a prob for those with MS.
Have a look on the MS Society website for information re sexual probs. They always have information booklets that are free and may give practical suggestions. Also try the MSRC website.
Usually, not wanting sex could mean she is depressed, this goes hand in hand with MS, if this is the case is she on anti-depressants?
Is she on any treatment at all, Rebif or Copaxone injections? If not start asking why not. The other option is also chemotherapy. A bit od a new radical treatment but working very, very well for delaying the progression of the disease. I've just had my second dose and am starting to feel as thought my life is coming back to me again.

I really would love to help you both, i do a lot of work here for the MS Society so please PM me if i can help in any way. There are ways around this without you having to go and look for it elsewhere. And i'm sure she's missing it just as much as you are.

Bex xx

i hope heavybeat wasn't scared off before Bex came in with her extremely helpful advice.

you may also be interested in checking out this website: http://www.disabilitynow.org.uk/

they have a forum for talking about sex. how to make it easier, how important is it as part of loving relationship etc.

Although this is mainly specific to people with physical disabillites and their partners it does have a very similar theme in common. It also highlights how prevelant this problem is to many people

Regardless of illness or disability communication is key to foundation of successful relationship in my opinion

I also believe that sex and love dont always go hand in hand and each can exist without the other. I understand your sexual need & hope you are able to satisfy this within your marriage

Yeh, i wonder what happened to him? I didn't realise when i posted that last year that the thread was already a year old
Would be interesting to see if he resolved his 'situation' though.

Hi Bexs

Oops i didn't realise how old the posts were either
i just seen the title of the post on someone's profile & sent a reply without thinking about looking at the dates - i feel rather silly now

Don't be daft!! It was good to read through all the banter actually, lol!!