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08.06.2006, 21:00 quote

Anonymous

Ok straight to the point i'm nearing 25 & I know that I aint the best looking guy on the planet, but i'm getting increasingly depressed that i've never had sex before. Is there any women out there that would help me out. Mustn't be a million miles away though.

 

08.06.2006, 22:20 quote

Anonymous

aww bless. Project your confidence when your around women, try and be smily and happy and maybe you will find that special someone. Staying in doors all day doesnt work.

 

08.06.2006, 22:35 quote

Anonymous

Trust me I don't normally stay indoors & to be honest I already messed up my one chance with someone who actualy liked me. Still not really much I can do about that now. Got to look to the future & all that.

 

09.06.2006, 05:14 quote

Anonymous

There's alot of post frm ppl that seem to hav low esteem.
I don't know much about that, but 1 thing i do know, confidence is very attractive.

Get up in the morning telling yourself you can give Brad Pitt a run for his money. Suck in the gut, & strut to the bathroom. By the time your ready to leave the house you'll fel like NO WOMAN IS SAFE FROM YOUR CHARMS Laughing
Do that everyday for a week and you'll maybe start to feel better about yourself and a lil more confident. Then u can just email girls you like, rather than posting a general 'fuck me' thread which to me seems a lil desperate.

But then again i could just b talkn bull lol. I'm new here & this is the first forum i've seen that shit. For straight 'fuck me tonight' msgs u could go to CraigsList (http://london.craigslist.org/cas/) or Gumtree (http://www.gumtree.com/)

Pz

 

09.06.2006, 23:46 quote

Anonymous

some decent advice, like i said confidence is the key, but like anything there is a very thin line between hitting confidence, and hitting arrogance. Yet i have found some girls who find arrogance sexy in small doses.

 

10.06.2006, 22:37 quote

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virginneedssex wrote:
Ok straight to the point i'm nearing 25 & I know that I aint the best looking guy on the planet, but i'm getting increasingly depressed that i've never had sex before. Is there any women out there that would help me out. Mustn't be a million miles away though.


Hey virginneedssex, I'm gonna be simple and honest with you here.

Some years ago I went thru similar thing, literally - same age, similar feelings, anxieties. I hit some (very bad) all-time lows too. I hope you do not.

How badly do you want to have sex? What inhibitions are you prepared to challenge? What new thinking are you prepared to take on board? Is sex what you really want, or do you also want the closeness with a female?

The bottom line is seeing yourself as you are now, without judgement. This may not be so easy to do, as it involves unlearning a thinking pattern of self-judging instilled over years of judgements from other (usually senior) people in your life, since you were very young.

You will have to dare to try new things out and see what you like and don't like. You may notice at times that you are measuring yourself against certain familiar stereotypical ideals. They usually only serve to make you feel indaquate. Put another way, they are rubbish! Along the way, you will discover your sexuality, not tv/movie rubbish. You will have good and bad experiences (they go hand in hand i'm afraid). It will also be useful to develop coping strategies too.

Over all, you will learn a lot about yourself and how you relate to other people. Remember, it's likely to take some considerable time - how long? I dunno - it depends...

Good Luck.

 
 
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