The amount of Ex's/One Night Stands is not an issue for me at all ........... but if i was to find out they had Cheated on any of those Ex's, then it would be a definate NO for me.

Since a young age,turn of my teens, earlier even, people said to me, "I feel really comfortable with you like I can tell you anything". I took this in grace and in twine we grew. Till this day men and women sit in ease, show and tell. This for me is an effortless excercise yet they feel helped, released, or just filled with hope.

At sixteen I met a girl, she had problems, not physically. So I helped her, gave her confidence made her realise her importance, showed her how to grow, be positive about herself, she stopped crying all the time, came to terms, believed in herself.

She was twenty at the time we met. Her harrowing tales of her six month ordeal in her sevententh year
are one of a nieve scared and an alone child.

Not all prostitutes do so by choice.

This post may not be in accordance with the OP questions, I just feel the need to tell, that even though you as a person do have the right to say no to a relationship, in saying so , that you are also perfectly in your rights to show a little compassion where needed.

I find writing posts like these difficult to express as the interdnat does not carry feelings very well, and before you know it a simple expression of thought , like this one becomes a mass of dribble.Stop.

Very good point made and admirable control of rambling.

We all have pasts, some of which we may regret and others not. People sometimes make bad choices or go through phases and it's not for me to judge anyone. it's important to be open and honest about your past or what chance do you have in a future relationship? If you have feelings for someone then what does the past matter, it's the now and future thats important.

Well said Mike

Ten people, ten different answers? Yep, thats why I asked.
It would be a very short - and boring - thread if we all agreed entirely on one specific issue, and there were no gray areas.
Its really interesting to hear different points of view and how it doesnt have to descend into a free for all like some topics.

I have not read all the posts as yet but will do after this. I personally, if I was to be honest would have to say I wouldn't stay with someone who has had as many as 50. I probably would look into a maximum of a small few but that is it.

If I did not find out till something like 6 months down the line I am not sure what or how I would feel. Don't think I will stay with either of them.

The distinction between someone who does this freely and not so freely in my book is exploitation. One is freely exploiting her body for sexual gratification and the other is doing this as a means to an end, or perhaps to feed their drug problem.

The problem with prostitution of today is that the media is glamourising this subject thus making some females think there is a good life to be made from it. If you are lucky then yes but there are not so many lucky women out there, I will not say much more.

As I said in my previous post. Its probably a thing that worries men more then women, that can maybe be seen with some of the posts, and might be a bit odd.

I have known women that have slept around with numerous men [village bike ]. Who have met someone and settled down into a relationship, and been very committed and not looked at another man. Alternitavly I have known men who have slept with loads of women [village stud ]. Who have settled down into a relationship, but nearly always slept around and cheated numerous times.

So maybe is a bit odd it worries men more. Wonder if its because they dont trust fellow men rather then women?

It doesn't make any difference to me. If you're going to judge someone on how many partners they've had then you're no better than someone who judges on appearance or all that other superficial shit.

Personally I'd prefer someone with a few notches on the bedpost. If anything it shows they have an appetite or at the very least they enjoy the act.

Interesting how the old saying about 'judging a book by its cover' is put down. Not that long ago I would have agreed. But now I'd point out that 'the cover' has a bit of blurb on the back. ie a person's appearance can give clues about their personality. Ultimately getting to know someone properly gives a more thorough impression, but even then people can hide stuff