OK so you meet someone on a dating site, they look great in their pic, so you arrange a date. THe person is really keen on you and you know they want to get you into bed.

HOWEVER ....

Their personality does not appeal to you
OR
You almost kissed and they had bad breath
OR
You kissed and didn't like the person's kiss
OR
You just found the person "creepy"

What do you say to let them down gently? The plain truth? A diplomatic version of the truth? A lie? An excuse? Say you'll call and don't?

Any answers please?

Ah, this sort of happened to me last Friday.

A friend of mine set me up with this guy, who I have to say was the most mind-numbingly boring person ever (seriously). In the end, after a toilet visit, I just said "I have to go" and did, no explanation. When he texted me the next day I replied that I just didn't think we were well suited. I know, it was sort of a cowardly cop-out and I'm not exactly proud but really, he was so boring I thought I was going mad.

lol i usually just tell them straight, i just like to be friends but no more and it's true lol not a cop out i make friends with so many people i still hate having to let people down lol, so now i have the best excuse i'm already taken hahaha

I would rather be honest and tell the truth. Before i got myself into a situation that would become rather more difficult to get out of!
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I always tell the truth, whether it hurts them or not.

(This is probably how I get my 'heartless bitch' nametag.)

So, Laura, would you say the blunt truth like;

Sorry, you are just not on my level

Sorry, your breath stinks

Sorry, I find you boring

Sorry, I find you creepy?

I can remember two instances where the usual hints were not working,... my radical solutions were alcohol fueled,... not malice fueled,... please remember that.

Once I just ran away and hid among some street performers,...

Another time I escaped through a toilet window,...

Where the hell did I get those ideas? Sounds terrible now, but both events were many years ago and were acts of desperation. Sometimes women don't understand the word "no", not just guys.
Kind of embarresing now that I think of it.

"OK so you meet someone on a dating site, they look great in their pic, so you arrange a date. The person is really keen on you and you know they want to get you into bed.

HOWEVER ....

Their personality does not appeal to you
OR
You almost kissed and they had bad breath
OR
You kissed and didn't like the person's kiss
OR
You just found the person "creepy"

What do you say to let them down gently? The plain truth? A diplomatic version of the truth? A lie? An excuse? Say you'll call and don't? "

Tell them that it was nice to meet them and you want to think about it before taking the relationship any further. Contact them after your meeting and let them down gently, say that you don't think they are suitable, the chemistry is not there for you etc. There should be no pressure on you to jump into bed with them on a first date!