Hi gang

I was dating a girl, she really liked me, we went cinema and stuff,
then she was still sending me messages and we got along well, then she invited me to her place, said "I bet your a good kisser" and was leading me on.....

She lives in the hotel she works at, in central london, her room is in the basement area by the boilers, so it was 30*C or more!

We then started to make out on the bed, and not long,
(I don't want to get into all the gory details as this is not a porn site)
We had alot of forplay and I gave her some massages, then we did it!
it lasted for 10 mins or so....

Then afterwords, we had pizza, watched a film, I stayed over the night then went next morning....

All was good.. until I spoke to her on msn...
I said "did you miss me" she said "no"

Then this was one of her messages
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Sorry but 10 minutes as a first attempt .....I would be a bit diappointed too. Sorry but just my opinion. Don't know if i would then try and give the person concerned tips though....find that a bit strange.

You have to remember that not all women are the same and what works for some wont work for others. Getting to know what the individual likes takes work and I dont think this girl has not given you a fair chance to show here what you are really about. One thing though is that a lot of women won't actually say what they want as they are not confident in doing so...its down to you to read the signs im afraid. Comes with experience and age I think. I'm a lot more conifdent now than I was when I was your age and im not afraid to say what I want

Was she moaning that the sex only lasted 10 mins?

Or that from kissing to climax only lasted 10 mins?


hmmmmm or the fact that you came inside her???????

10 mins would be rather disapointing....pump pump squirt is not cool !Where you abit over excited?......i'm sure some of the guys can give you some tips for a lasting performance.....(thinking about maggie thatcher? or maybe bashing one out before the date might have helped alittle!)


Cazza's right tho it takes time to get to know what people like and it doesn't sound like shes given you a fair chance......Justbecause you fancy someone doesn't mean you automatically know what buttons to press!!
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I agree, if it was the full experience that only lasted about 10mins then I can understand why she was disappointed. Sorry dude but it has to be said. Personally, and the guys are probably going to slate me for this, but I guess I will always be on the ladies side when they say that sometimes the foreplay can be much more exciting and fun than the actual sex itself. Personally I like playing and foreplay to last as long as possible and usually manage at least an hour before even thinking about the sex part. Just take your time, learn to appreciate the female body and the pleasures you can bring to it, I find that a much bigger turn on than just thrusting away until climax. Take your time to tease, please and pleasure your women and I'm sure they will return the favour. (They are, after all, a hell of a lot better at it than us men are!).

yeah i agree with the others... 10 mins, is a quicky for most people

well i think she sounds like a bitch, if you had been without sex for ages then its only natural that it wouldnt have gone on for so long.

I bet there are loads of blokes that can vouch that they too have been in the same sort of situation and it not lasted long, i know ive met a few of them.

that doesnt mean to say that you would have been like that everytime.

I actually think that she has done you a favour and shown you her true colours, she sounds like a bitch and your better off without her.

just put it down to experiance and move on

good luck hun

I have to agree with that. After a droubt it is very easy to 'loose yourself' very quickly. I dont mind admitting I have been in that situation myself. My trick for any guy in that situation would be to concentrate on pleasuring the girl using foreplay rather than intercourse. Make sure she has fun and has had a few orgasms before you think about going there yourself if you dont think your going to last very long. Then, when you do decide to 'go for the full bifters' (LoL) some women love it when you pull away and go back into a bit more foreplay and playing rather than just 'getting on with it' until it's over. So, If you do find yourself gatting 'close' just pull away and get back onto pleasureing her while you calm yourself down a little.

well if you read it , it sounds like he was shagging her for 10 mins, the whole foreplay and shagging combined wasnt ten mins, so to me he hasnt done anything different to any other bloke and he sounds perfect as i can get really bored if it lasts too long and i know there is something good on telly that i am missing! lmao

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Ha Ha - Yeah - Guess it's just a matter on communication. Different people in different moods. Sometimes want a good few hours session, sometimes a quicky can be just as good.

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Yeah - communication can cause a few probs. If one persons up for a quickie and the other person is fancying a matathon then neither is going to get what they want. Very important to make sure that both parties are happy. LoL. You are right though, sounds like it was her problem and she has been a bit of a bitch about it. End of the day if she wanted more then why not just make that clear rather then being nasty about it like she was. If she'd just said so there and then they both could have had a good time. I mean, just cause a bloke has 'finished' doesnt mean that the fun cannot continue and you cant start all over again!!! (Not in my experience anyway!)

ok folks... is it just me or did anyone else pick up on the main problem there ?

"WASN'T LIKE HER EX"

eject, eject, eject.. don't say pardon, you'll be talking to yourself !

My advice to you sir is to turn around walk the other way and find somebody who's not still thinking about screwing her ex boyfriend.... it's obviously him she really wants so nobody else is going to match up to that



As for the sex bit.. yer 10 minutes is a bit on the short side for the foreplay bit if it was the sensual buildup and not a quick shag (as Tink says there's nothing wrong with quickies but it's not always what's needed). Take your time and read the body language - if she's getting excited really quickly then go for it otherwise take your time and enjoy.... with the next girl
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Must admit I totally missed the 'EX' part of the original post.

Yeah - I agree with Cidum - Good Advice.

10 mins from start to finish...


enuff sed....


improve ya stayin power....

1....get pissed
2....throw one off the wrist about 3 hrs before
3....all else fails.....think of ya mum & dad goin at it.



if those dont work


u av a problem

Thanks everyone for your support

well the forplay went on for about 20 mins at least, I even gave her a full body massage,
then the sex was about 10 mins...