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01.07.2008, 19:03 quote

jeggae

darkhorse57 wrote:
jeggae wrote:
darkhorse57 wrote:
jeggae wrote:
I let them get taken in by all the bullshit Laughing


That's the whole thing though, it's not bullshit. For myself, I just say what I really want to say, what I really want, and who I really am. So it's genuine. Bullshitting is when someone says something that someone else wants to hear, whether they mean it or not. Does that make sense? Obviously I can't speak for others who use the forum/site.

/* I was hoping that someone who knew me from here might come along and say that I am who I present myself as being, so I didn't sound too much like a slapper */


There was probably a bit [a little bit] of bitterness in my post stu Laughing Laughing, as I cant make these forums work and always feel alienated..on this one anyway.

I wasnt having a go at you but talking in general. I have no doubt at all you are similar in real life, as you are on the net.

But the bullshit I'm talking about is the whole lot pictures, profile and spiel. Not being totally the same in real life as you are on the net can lead to disappointed women. Whereas I'm not sure any women who has met me off the net has been disappointed.



I’d agree with much of what Jeggae says. Whether it is Sex Requests or internet dating in general, there is a lot of ‘bullshit’. The 'bullshit' is usually just people trying to make themselves fit into what someone else has on their shopping list though. I guess no matter how honest one is, the reality is that ‘it’ either works for someone, or doesn’t.

No matter how ‘attractive’ one is (as a package, not outwardly), the package is only appealing to someone looking for a package like that. I’m afraid that the chances of someone coming along who is looking for a specific package and spotting it on the supermarket shelf of an Internet dating site is quite slim. Many of the Internet dating site users are window shopping for generic branded packaging (pre-defined by their little shopping list –age range, check; income – check; height – check; geographical distance – check; type of car – oooops, move on to the next one …… etc etc). What it often boils down to is how much one is prepared to compromise on their shopping list.

I suppose one of the appeals of taking advantage of the Sex Requests thread over dating is that 2 like-minded people could satisfy their physical needs without the emotional upheaval of a failed date/relationship/ whatever that resulted from a meeting through their profile page.

At the end of the day, whether Sex Request or dating (with prospects of a relationship), it all boils down to the ‘shopping list’, doesn’t it?


The dreaded internet dating shopping lists UT The root of all evil IMO.

I have a theory...and that is that most men do not have shopping lists but that vast majority of women do.
I think men dont worry to much about profiles or pictures as women do.
My theory is if a women who didn't have a pic or profile up but lived locally, messaged a man and said 'lets meet tomorrow', most men would be guided by their knobs and take the gamble. But most women would get their 'shopping lists' out.


Do most men take time in reading a profile, as women seem to do?

Its these shopping lists, that probably dont exist in real life, that make net dating not as a robust concept as meeting in real life down pubs etc IMO.


But to be on topic. There's nothing wrong with people meeting for sex, no matter how they chose to do it. Its only sex and most humans need it

 
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01.07.2008, 19:03 quote

mrsdarkhorse

You must be confusing me with someone else, as yet I've not posted anything in the Sexual Requests Thread for a laugh or otherwise, however Mr DH has! (He claims not to have taken any of the offers up! ) I just wanted to add my opinion after chatting to the "man" earlier today re' his postings! Very Happy

 
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01.07.2008, 19:14 quote

jeggae

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Feel the need to add my two penny worth... If you're looking for something, be it a relationship, friendship or sex via the internet, the usual makes you look at a profile. That could be that they are geographically located to suit you, their looks, gender, age etc, but it's the written word that can lead onto other things. If their interests, likes and dislikes and so on match up to your own it's a start, but if they captivate you in the cerebral sense with wit, innuendo or whatever else makes you smile, it's more likely that you'll be suited under the duvet!

My advice for what's it worth is open up a little & be yourself, you might find that the next contact you make is skin to skin and not via email! Very Happy


Nice to meet you Mrs DH Smile

That's probably from a women perspective. Not sure the men I know are that fussy or hard to get between the sheets too be honest. Laughing

 
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01.07.2008, 19:23 quote

rocketgirl
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darkhorse57 wrote:
Ooooh, that brings another question into the equation (the original post in this thread) - has anyone actually responded to a post in the Sex Requests thread?

/* did I just hear a pin drop? */


Well, I was considering offering Mighty Gav a cup of tea in London.......

 
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01.07.2008, 19:27 quote

darkhorse57

mrsdarkhorse wrote:
You must be confusing me with someone else, as yet I've not posted anything in the Sexual Requests Thread for a laugh or otherwise, however Mr DH has! (He claims not to have taken any of the offers up! )


Ahem /* that's a discreet cough */ actually I met you before I could take up any of the offers Wink

mrsdarkhorse wrote:
I just wanted to add my opinion after chatting to the "man" earlier today re' his postings! Very Happy


Now now darling, you'll give everyone the impression that all we do is sit and discuss forum postings in our spare time

 
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01.07.2008, 19:39 quote

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mrsdarkhorse wrote:
You must be confusing me with someone else, as yet I've not posted anything in the Sexual Requests Thread for a laugh or otherwise, however Mr DH has! (He claims not to have taken any of the offers up! ) I just wanted to add my opinion after chatting to the "man" earlier today re' his postings! Very Happy


Laughing Laughing Laughing

 
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01.07.2008, 20:17 quote

darkhorse57

rocketgirl wrote:
mrsdarkhorse wrote:
You must be confusing me with someone else, as yet I've not posted anything in the Sexual Requests Thread for a laugh or otherwise, however Mr DH has! (He claims not to have taken any of the offers up! ) I just wanted to add my opinion after chatting to the "man" earlier today re' his postings! Very Happy


Laughing Laughing Laughing


Yeh, I spotted that too and pointed it out to the lady in question (I was a bit concerned that she might not be entirely happy with the services supplied by her current provider Sad )

 
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01.07.2008, 21:43 quote

mrsdarkhorse

OH NO!! I didn't mean "as yet" as if I intended to post in the future! I don't feel the need to post anything on the Sexual Request Thread, Mr DH fulfils all my demands!!

 
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01.07.2008, 22:37 quote

darkhorse57

jeggae wrote:


The dreaded internet dating shopping lists UT The root of all evil IMO.


There was a 'shopping list' thread I started months ago (about dating in general), can't find it now, but I'd hazard a guess that many of the points there would be applicable to Sex Requests as well as dating. The basic advice that was given in an article that I linked to was 'throw the shopping list away!'

mrsdarkhorse wrote:
OH NO!! I didn't mean "as yet" as if I intended to post in the future! I don't feel the need to post anything on the Sexual Request Thread, Mr DH fulfils all my demands!!


Oh my ..... I'm speechless (for a change )

 
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02.07.2008, 00:21 quote

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I've not had a chance to read the thread and my poor tired brain can't get its head around it all right now so I've read only the last post!

My answer to that is that I haven't been a member for very long and have not really looked at the sex request threads. This is not saying that I'm not curious, I just haven't found the need to check them out yet.

 
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02.07.2008, 05:42 quote

megalone

choochi0 wrote:
I've not had a chance to read the thread and my poor tired brain can't get its head around it all right now so I've read only the last post!

My answer to that is that I haven't been a member for very long and have not really looked at the sex request threads. This is not saying that I'm not curious, I just haven't found the need to check them out yet.


Some of them make great reading, but not in the way they were intended.

I am considering putting in a watersports request though.

 
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02.07.2008, 13:42 quote

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Coochio, if you've not found a need to look/post there yet, is that cuz you see it as a kind of place to frequent only when things get desperate?
Cuz that's kind of how I see it, when i read some of the posts its like they are desperate for a shag but dont have the confidence - or spare cash - to approach a real live person on the street corner.
Oooops, back to that line of thought, i really will start offending people soon, I better shut up now!

 
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02.07.2008, 13:59 quote

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rocketgirl wrote:
Coochio, if you've not found a need to look/post there yet, is that cuz you see it as a kind of place to frequent only when things get desperate?
Cuz that's kind of how I see it, when i read some of the posts its like they are desperate for a shag but dont have the confidence - or spare cash - to approach a real live person on the street corner.
Oooops, back to that line of thought, i really will start offending people soon, I better shut up now!


Is that the sound of back peddling I hear?!

 
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03.07.2008, 19:12 quote

megalone

I have had my first reply to my post in the requests section.

No names mentioned (of course), but it did include a link to a rather saucy picture that I hope to dream about later.......

 
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03.07.2008, 19:30 quote

rocketgirl
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choochi0 wrote:
rocketgirl wrote:
Coochio, if you've not found a need to look/post there yet, is that cuz you see it as a kind of place to frequent only when things get desperate?
Cuz that's kind of how I see it, when i read some of the posts its like they are desperate for a shag but dont have the confidence - or spare cash - to approach a real live person on the street corner.
Oooops, back to that line of thought, i really will start offending people soon, I better shut up now!


Is that the sound of back peddling I hear?!


Nope, only if the backpeddling is for braking purposes....

 
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