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22.08.2006, 14:52 quote

heavybeat
Joined: 18 May 2006 Posts: 5 Location: Algeria, ,
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My wife suffers from MS and sex is not often, liar i can hear you
think, conman, asshole, w-----, but believe it or not it's true.
RRMS to be exact which means it comes and goes. I'm missing
sex joined here but scared to meet anyone.
Just tell me to p off.

 

22.08.2006, 14:54 quote

PrincessTamz
PrincessTamz Joined: 15 Feb 2006 Posts: 470 Location: United Kingdom, England, Essex
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And youre in Algeria right?

 

22.08.2006, 14:57 quote

Anonymous

heavybeat wrote:
My wife suffers from MS and sex is not often, liar i can hear you
think, conman, asshole, w-----, but believe it or not it's true.
RRMS to be exact which means it comes and goes. I'm missing
sex joined here but scared to meet anyone.
Just tell me to p off.


I wouldn't call you any of those names you mentioned.

I would however be very supportive of my wife, and bollox to sex, your wife comes first and foremost, and certainly before sex, full stop.

 

22.08.2006, 14:59 quote

Anonymous

well heavybeat you need to discuss this with your wife before you take any steps to cheat on her. if she gives her go ahead you have my well wishes. if not, then i'll tell you to piss off.

i agree with ringer to a certain extent. when a loved one is ill humans often turn to someone who can comfort them. we all need the physical act of love. even if it's only casual sex. but i would still get the go ahead from my partner.

 

24.08.2006, 18:00 quote

ChiefOHara
ChiefOHara Joined: 11 Feb 2006 Posts: 2853 Location: Ireland, Cork, Cork
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Your not an arsehole for thinking what all human beings think. Whilst i sympathise with your circumstances its best to be open with your wife about it. The fact that your asking ths question in the first place, shows anxiety, guilt, and concern on your your part on being with someone else. Anxiety, guilt and concern are not emotions arseholes feel, so relax. You'll feel better for discussing it with her.

 

24.08.2006, 18:05 quote

Anonymous

erm...perhaps i'll get lashed for this...
but isn't his wife in enough pain/distress as it is? i'm not sure that telling her that he wants to have sex with someone else is going to help this, so perhaps u'd want to think long and hard as to what effect saying this to her may have, and how much sex matters to u. doesn't matter what u do in this situation there is no happy ending.

 

24.08.2006, 18:06 quote

Anonymous

i have to agree with everyone here, i know friends of mine are in the same boat, his wife has ms, but i know he does not screw around on her, he is totally devoted, so u really have to do some soul searching on this one kiddo. good luck

 

24.08.2006, 18:11 quote

ChiefOHara
ChiefOHara Joined: 11 Feb 2006 Posts: 2853 Location: Ireland, Cork, Cork
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Your a better man than me nig76, i can't see why you'd be lashed. I don't know how much the topic starter has discussed with his wife, or if they even bring the subject up, but it wouldn't be unreasonable to assume that the state of their sex life may be an issue for his wife as well. A possible hurtful honest discussion might be better than unspoken assumptions or suspicions taking root over a long period of time.

 

24.08.2006, 18:23 quote

Anonymous

nig76 wrote:
erm...perhaps I'll get lashed for this...
but isn't his wife in enough pain/distress as it is? I'm not sure that telling her that he wants to have sex with someone else is going to help this, so perhaps u'd want to think long and hard as to what effect saying this to her may have, and how much sex matters to u. doesn't matter what u do in this situation there is no happy ending.


Whole heartedly agree 100%.

 

24.08.2006, 20:27 quote

Anonymous

nig76 wrote:
erm...perhaps i'll get lashed for this...
but isn't his wife in enough pain/distress as it is? i'm not sure that telling her that he wants to have sex with someone else is going to help this, so perhaps u'd want to think long and hard as to what effect saying this to her may have, and how much sex matters to u. doesn't matter what u do in this situation there is no happy ending.


No lashing from me Nig, doesn't matter how you go about something like this, someone will get hurt in the end. Even if the thread starter does nothing, and tho' he may love his wife deeply, sex is still something that we enjoy. We are still animals, with basic needs and even if we have the strength and courage to not go looking elsewhere, its gonna hurt!!

 

27.08.2006, 17:49 quote

trixipaws
trixipaws Joined: 05 Jun 2006 Posts: 25 Location: United Kingdom, England, Greater Manchester
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why dont u just get some really good porn and lock urself in ur study for 10 minutes?!

 
 
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