... to save your relationship?

As the question says... afterall its only love.

Relationships are probably different now, and people are not willing to work at relationships as they did. But would you let your partner have a discreet relationship or f**K buddy, if it meant keeping it going?

There would be no deceit at all as you would know about it. After all isn't the deceit the worse thing about your partner having an affair behind your back. Is the deceit worse then the act??

Its something I've been wondering about for a while. Or is this crazy?

Yep in my opinion its crazy .... If your partner or you for that matter felt the need to sleep with someone else then its game over .

Er... no !

If it boiled down to the point where my partner wanted to have an affair then she'd not need to have one because i'd of left already.. or i would as soon as it was mentioned if we couldn't work things out between us

If a relationship get's to the point where one of you feels the need to 'look elsewhere' then it's kinda obvious that something isn't working out ! Surely you'd be better off finding out the reason's why the partner wants to have a 'play thing' and then seeing if you can rectify it between the two of you.
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Horses for courses.....

There is many a person who 'turns a blind eye' to their partner's indiscretions. It is an unspoken 'agreement' that both parties 'pretend' they don't know about.
Maybe thats more the older generation, something Jeggae that you have touched on in previous threads?
People seem to have become more assertive about their own demands about what is and is not acceptable in recent years.

You are not talking here of finding out about said affair, and forgiving, which is something else altogether.

For me personally, no I would not allow or accept it. If my partner felt the need to look elsewhere, then things are obvioulsy not ideal for both of us, between us. If we could not resolve that problem, time to move on.

But as you have said before, and DH mentions, many do for their own reasons which are valid for them.

I think for me it depends on whether you have a 'open' relationship or not.

Some people do accept that their other half go off and have an affair, but some wouldn't stand for it. It depends entirely on the circumstances.

I always think there is another answer other than one of the people going off to find love or whatever elsewhere. That should be a last resort if you have tried everything else, but then the person letting the other person have an affair may turn round and get jealous or think twice about it - then it will more than likely cause a very messy and horrible break up.

I think it's more than crazy. Unless we're speakin' of Michael Madsen here... In that case I wouldn't mind him having an affair or somethin' if he'd stay by me foreva and eva. Seriously! Or if it would be Elvis then for sure...

As for the rest of the feckers out there... I mean... "What? Do you think you're Elvis or something?" In Shania Twain's words.

That would be a definate NO from me .............

Can see what Jegs is saying it's what they call an Open Relationship ......... but like Stu says has to work both ways ........ i actually know a couple that do this .......... not on a regular basis, and never have 'marry buddies' so to speak just one nighters, but they are very honest about it with each other ............ they are very happy together and it works for them.

In any usual circumstance, i would say no. when i am with someone i am with someone, and i expect them to be with me, not other people.

Never!!!!!That's a base thing!!!

Heck no I wouldn't! If it takes something as extreme as letting the other person be with someone else so that they're happy, then there is no point to being together- its clinging to something that really isn't there..

Not a hope in hell.....I would cut his balls off if he even thought about it

No.
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